Move or stay in retirement

PeppermintPatty said:
I’m REALLY glad you came to this conclusion / decision. Sometimes we take things for granted. I think we ALL fear the future to some extent and I can’t help think of that phrase, ‘Better the Devil you Know Than the One You Don’t.’ Embrace yourself with the familiar.

You Do know your neighbours. Maybe try and get to know them even better. You might be able to exchange some things in your life. Perhaps they could do your grocery shopping and you could do something for them in exchange. A lot of places offer grocery shopping. You fill out an online form and the date you want your groceries and the groceries get delivered right to your door. It might not be something you need at the moment but is certainly something to look forward to.

If you are worried about money being an issue later on, you could start stashing some money away for later. $40 dollars a week is over $2,000 a year.

I’m REALLY glad you came to this decision. I was actually quite concerned for you.
Try and live your life with love instead of fear.
Your friends and neighbours CAN help you in many ways. Put good thoughts into the universe. Like attracts like.

I sincerely wish you the best.
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Please don't be concerned about me. I'm doing great for my age - still working, albeit part-time. I certainly don't feel 80 (80 isn't what it used to be in our grandparents' time). I live only two short blocks to two different supermarkets so I don't need a neighbor to do grocery shopping for me.
I'm the oldest person in our apartment building (it's a small building, only 3 stories). I don't really have anything in common with my neighbors, a fact that they unfortunately, make abundantly clear. I mentioned that I know my neighbors; I didn't say I socialize with them. There's an invisible wall between us because of our age differences. Plus, they think I'm somewhat odd because I'm continuing to work and get out and about. They have a certain assumption about older people and I don't fit the mold. Hey, it's New York City where people don't even get to know their neighbors.

I still have plenty of energy; just not enough to pick up and move to a new city with so many unknown factors to consider. The grass looked greener for a while there but I think I've gotten over that.
 

Candi1 said:
Please don't be concerned about me. I'm doing great for my age - still working, albeit part-time. I certainly don't feel 80 (80 isn't what it used to be in our grandparents' time). I live only two short blocks to two different supermarkets so I don't need a neighbor to do grocery shopping for me.
I'm the oldest person in our apartment building (it's a small building, only 3 stories). I don't really have anything in common with my neighbors, a fact that they unfortunately, make abundantly clear. I mentioned that I know my neighbors; I didn't say I socialize with them. There's an invisible wall between us because of our age differences. Plus, they think I'm somewhat odd because I'm continuing to work and get out and about. They have a certain assumption about older people and I don't fit the mold. Hey, it's New York City where people don't even get to know their neighbors.

I still have plenty of energy; just not enough to pick up and move to a new city with so many unknown factors to consider. The grass looked greener for a while there but I think I've gotten over that.
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You seem like a very nice woman.
The information I offered was for future reference. You made it quite clear that you didn’t currently need help. It’s good to know your main grocery stores are only 2 short blocks away. The exercise will be good for you.

As far as neighbours go; in my experience it’s best to keep some distance between you. Too much closeness can make things awkward. We wave to our neighbours but don’t socialize with them. We are civilized and respectful and not interested in being friends.

You most likely have a lot of respect from your neighbours. The fact that you’re 80 and still work is most commendable. You seem very brave and independent which are admirable characteristics.

The grass can ‘seem’ greener elsewhere at times and it’s probably good that you challenged it. It’s brave for anyone to consider what you’ve just done, but at 80, remarkable!
Now you can put that list away and just take one day at a time.

Enjoy your home and put away those worries.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
You seem like a very nice woman.
The information I offered was for future reference. You made it quite clear that you didn’t currently need help. It’s good to know your main grocery stores are only 2 short blocks away. The exercise will be good for you.

As far as neighbours go; in my experience it’s best to keep some distance between you. Too much closeness can make things awkward. We wave to our neighbours but don’t socialize with them. We are civilized and respectful and not interested in being friends.

You most likely have a lot of respect from your neighbours. The fact that you’re 80 and still work is most commendable. You seem very brave and independent which are admirable characteristics.

The grass can ‘seem’ greener elsewhere at times and it’s probably good that you challenged it. It’s brave for anyone to consider what you’ve just done, but at 80, remarkable!
Now you can put that list away and just take one day at a time.

Enjoy your home and put away those worries.
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Oh, believe me, I'm very independent, always have been. I'm always seeking to learn new things, ask questions and not have to depend on anyone for anything (impossible I know but that's just my nature). Not being in control of events in life is probably my biggest fault. I have a sick cat now and just waiting for his tests and the results is driving me crazy.
 

Candi1 said:
Oh, believe me, I'm very independent, always have been. I'm always seeking to learn new things, ask questions and not have to depend on anyone for anything (impossible I know but that's just my nature). Not being in control of events in life is probably my biggest fault. I have a sick cat now and just waiting for his tests and the results are driving me crazy.
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We lost our 18 year old cat last September.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you. ❤️
 
Not for Candi, just anyone who is considering moving to a new community, this is one of the biggest obstacles.

Mobilman44 said:
One huge consideration to keep in mind is medical access and facilities. Typically at our age this is a big deal, for we have built a history with our docs (and dentists). Will there be the medicos we need at the new place?
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Candi1 said:
Thank you. I'm sorry about the loss of your fur baby. It is so unbearably rough to go through. I've lost three cats over the years and it never gets easier.
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Thank you also. Losing fur babies is brutal. We lost our 15 year old Yorkie the year before. At times it feels like unbearable torture. I agree with you that it never gets easier.
I ‘knew’ there was something deeper we shared. 😢
 
Again - for others considering a move as you retire. Jules is right about medical. First of all, it is hard to change Drs/Dentist/specialists/etc. and trust a new group. A friend advised me - before we retired - that IF you move, you may find it hard to hook up with a new medical practice if you are already on Medicare. Most Drs. have a limit of how many Medicare patients they will accept. It can be easier if you are already a patient and have history with the practice. We managed to make our move immediately and got settled in before we were eligible for Medicare. So far, so good!
 
I have a friend that has moved to different states 4 times in the past 20 years between the ages of 60-80. She never had a problem finding medical providers. 3 years ago I bought a condo in a secure building of all ages. I have made friends with 4 seniors that range in age from 62-80.
 
There is a train that goes from Lancaster to New York city.
Son often mentioned that they would go up for show or something.

One granddaughter was ' star struck'.
She had been in some school performances, wanted to be a performer when she got out of school.

Thank goodness son told her to get an education first.
She became a nurse,, than joined group who entertains at children's parties.
 
Welcome..main thing to consider is if you become unable to go out..walk...obtain what you need....if delivery....transport is in your area now...you're already familiar with area..weigh pros...cons...best to you
 
Availability of medicos - especially if you are on Medicare - depends on where you live (duhhh).

Here in the north of Houston area, getting into a specialist has been difficult for 10 years now, and many of the rejections was because "we don't have any openings for medicare patients".

Trust me on this...you cannot comprehend the influx of "newbies" to Texas - especially Houston, Austin, and Dallas. We have lost all our forests and rangeland, and replaced it with lousy housing developments, crappy strip centers, and thousands of more distracted drivers.

And if you can't tolerate diversity, this is not the place to be. Fortunately, my Wife and I can.
 
Finding medical care is getting difficult no matter where you live. Just recently, I had one doctor (an eye specialist) tell me they stopped taking all Medicare patients. I had been going to him for 8 years. He told me if I wanted to continue seeing him I would have to pay out of pocket. Fortunately, I have alternatives.
 
I had always planned to move to the mountains when I retired. Now I'm retired. But my mom is in a nursing home and I have 2 new grandchildren. I'm not going anywhere away from my family.
 

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