Moving Away From Grandchild and Family

SueBee

SueBee

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Have others moved out of state in order to afford buying a house late in life? I did two years ago, leaving the state I'd lived in most of my 70 years. I feel so fortunate that I was finally able to buy a house, but my youngest daughter (30s, married, one child) has had problems with my having moved. I miss them terribly, but couldn't continue living where I was due to rent increases that I couldn't afford.
 

SueBee said:
Have others moved out of state in order to afford buying a house late in life? I did two years ago, leaving the state I'd lived in most of my 70 years. I feel so fortunate that I was finally able to buy a house, but my youngest daughter (30s, married, one child) has had problems with my having moved. I miss them terribly, but couldn't continue living where I was due to rent increases that I couldn't afford.
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I think lots of people do this. Some try to live near grandchildren, but it doesn't always work out that way. It's very attractive to buy where your property taxes are cut in half or less.
 
hearlady said:
That's a hard one. You have to be able to live affordably in your later years.
Any chance your daughter could move closer to you?
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My daughter, hubby and my only grandchild (toddler age) rent a duplex from hubby's mother at a very reduced rent. Hubby works remotely, so they'd be able to move elsewhere and buy a house, but they like the area where they live. I'm not sure how much my daughter has a say in things, and it's a continual point of contention for us. They seem to think house prices will drop enough so they could buy in future. I'm sad for all the money they're wasting on rent, but they don't seem to want to move.
 
birdy said:
I think lots of people do this. Some try to live near grandchildren, but it doesn't always work out that way. It's very attractive to buy where your property taxes are cut in half or less.
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I lived in a senior mobile home park. I owned my single wide mobile and was able to sell it to pay for down-payment on the house where I now live, literally halfway across the country. The space rent was outrageous where I lived, and it went up.
 
SueBee said:
My daughter, hubby and my only grandchild (toddler age) rent a duplex from hubby's mother at a very reduced rent. Hubby works remotely, so they'd be able to move elsewhere and buy a house, but they like the area where they live. I'm not sure how much my daughter has a say in things, and it's a continual point of contention for us. They seem to think house prices will drop enough so they could buy in future. I'm sad for all the money they're wasting on rent, but they don't seem to want to move.
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Not too much you can do then. In those situations I tell myself that life isn't always fair and try and make the best of it.
 
I think you need to pick where you want to live regardless of kids. I love my kids and always want them close but don't want to chase them around the country. Younger people are more apt to move to different states as they chase jobs and careers so let them wander while we put down roots.
 
Can't relate at all to this story. Nothing but an economical reason? Really? You say your youngest daughter, so that means more kids......you moved states away from all of them, or just some of them? No old friends where you are now? Did you bring a husband or something with you? I'll shut up, because I just can't understand this, on it's surface.
 
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A tale I have related before..... A gentleman and his wife moved to a house near me to be near their daughter's family. After some years, the Son in law was transferred to another part of the country with his work, leaving the man and his wife a long way from their family. They were 'getting on' in years so were not keen to move again, and lived on in their old house.

I know people - there are ones in this village - who live close to their parents and others like myself and Mrs.L who moved away and started our own family. When the time came, our also children moved away. Thing is, we all have to look after ourselves and allow our children to be independent. We can't chase them around or expect them to follow us
 
Capt Lightning said:
A tale I have related before..... A gentleman and his wife moved to a house near me to be near their daughter's family. After some years, the Son in law was transferred to another part of the country with his work, leaving the man and his wife a long way from their family. They were 'getting on' in years so were not keen to move again, and lived on in their old house.

I know people - there are ones in this village - who live close to their parents and others like myself and Mrs.L who moved away and started our own family. When the time came, our also children moved away. Thing is, we all have to look after ourselves and allow our children to be independent. We can't chase them around or expect them to follow us
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It's different if you're part of a married or otherwise committed couple. It's different if you're on your own.....
 
When I was looking around in the Tampa Bay area for a double wide mobile home, I found a really nice 1450 sq. ft. home for $125,000, but must pay by cash only and settle in 15 days. I was OK with the terms, but the HOA was $1050 per month, which included water, lawn mowing and twice a week trash pickup. Taxes were $1400 a year, unless I was a full time resident, which I wasn’t. I had to pay utilities and internet.

There was no way I was going to pay the HOA at that rate. So now I’m looking for a small home. That was a shame. The mobile home came completely furnished with almost new furniture. The home was only 3 years old, but the man died almost right after they bought it and the woman has decided to go back home to Wisconsin.

There is a golf course (18 hole) within the park and they charge an additional amount depending on how often you golf. The fellow I was talking to told me he golfs everyday. I like playing golf, but not everyday.
 
Pepper said:
Can't relate at all to this story. Nothing but an economical reason? Really? You say your youngest daughter, so that means more kids......you moved states away from all of them, or just some of them? No old friends where you are now? Did you bring a husband or something with you? I'll shut up, because I just can't understand this, on it's surface.
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I have three kids, two in their 40s, youngest is in 30s. I've been single since the late 90s and raised my kids alone. My son lives where I do, my oldest daughter lives in Germany. When I found out that I could qualify to buy a real house, I jumped on it. I do love it where I now live. It's way less crowded and less expensive, although traveling to visit either of my girls is pricey.
 
At least in this era we have telecom to link up some with relatives and friends. I always highly valued being able to talk on the phone with 3 other family members as well as some long time friends. It is our lives. We care, and need and want to know about each other So many in generations past, once moved over longer distances, were virtually isolated except by written and distant delivered paper mail. I'm one that has always thought humans ideally, especially psychologically for happiness across generations, ought best live in extended family village community groups. Where the older folk can help and teach children while parents work and deal with life. Though through history, there have always been some that leave the nest.

Another outrageously unfair mobile home park space rent victim where the real estate industry has raised space rents. Of course, eager banks lend money to REIT investors expecting profits, and then some of them look for mobile home parks to prey on where defenseless residents are for practical reasons stuck where they have been for years and built up a life. New park owners then raise space rents as high as they think will bare. If a park has upscale features like scenery, near shopping, or sports activities, they then work to push people out in order to attract wealthy other able to pay.

As though people that quietly lived decades in such low income residential communities when they moved there ever expected anyone they or neighbors to deal with real estate greed inflation. A globalization issue manipulated by wealth seekers with Wall Street's stamp of approval and smiled down on by politicians needing election funds allowing such. And as I've explained elsewhere is a factor in open borders illegal immigration.
 
SueBee said:
Have others moved out of state in order to afford buying a house late in life? I did two years ago, leaving the state I'd lived in most of my 70 years. I feel so fortunate that I was finally able to buy a house, but my youngest daughter (30s, married, one child) has had problems with my having moved. I miss them terribly, but couldn't continue living where I was due to rent increases that I couldn't afford.
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We have begun putting things in motion. However, similar to you our youngest daughter needs our support at the moment and me being attached to grandkids isn't helping LOL. She knows of our ultimate plan to move. We have asked her to move with us but do no think that it is feasible for her.
 
It's a horrible decision no matter what you choose.

We have a heartless society now. Cold, callous, cruel and heartless. And often, when companies and more caring people try to implement solutions, the wealthy people BLOCK them in every way possible.

And I live in a BLUE state and I'm tellin' ya, Blue State politicians are often clueless and mean! It can be worse in a Red State, like, I'll never move to Texas, but don't think the Blue States are safe places for Seniors. Just not true.
 
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I am in Florida. I read that there is a retiree exodus out of Florida. Life is beginning to be too expensive for a lot of them. Rent, homes, insurance (both car and home), property taxes have gone up considerably.
 
Rossana said:
I am in Florida. I read that there is a retiree exodus out of Florida. Life is beginning to be too expensive for a lot of them. Rent, homes, insurance (both car and home), property taxes have gone up considerably.
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Homeowners insurance in Florida is a broken market, a disaster, a high mess. Some people are choosing to not insure their home. I would not buy there. Even young folk are realizing it’s not worth it.
 
VintageBetter said:
It's a horrible decision no matter what you choose.

We have a heartless society now. Cold, callous, cruel and heartless. And often, when companies and more caring people try to implement solutions, the wealthy people BLOCK them in every way possible.

And I live in a BLUE state and I'm tellin' ya, Blue State politicians are often clueless and mean! It can be worse in a Red State, like, I'll never move to Texas, but don't think the Blue States are safe places for Seniors. Just not true.
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It is horrible to live in either a red or blue state. I live in a blue state. Our leaders raise taxes on everybody in the name of equity then give the low income people 25 cents on the dollar back IF they qualify for some government program. The leaders have become arrogant and mean spirited. One party rule is big problem regardless of the party in charge.
 
When I grow older I’ll sell my place and offer my kid big dollars to buy a nicer bigger home with a grandpa living space. The kid can keep it all when I meet my maker.
 

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