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renate

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Hello I'm Renate and new, I got 2 grown up kids living Interstate both about 4000+km away. We don't have a very closed relationship even so their reassure me when on phone that their love me a lot, but I feel alone. I'm Wheechair bound and only can live at home with sopport workers every day. Miss them a lot. Anyone like to give me some advise ?:(
 

I don't know enough about you and the problems you face to offer advise at this moment. But I would like to welcome you to this friendly forum Renate. I'm sure that once everyone learns more about what issues you are dealing with, you will get some very good advice.
 
Welcome Rebate, first off stick around, and let us get to know you and your issues, and get to know each of us. That alone will perk you up. There is a lot of humor, and interesting issues are chewed around quite often. Maybe then we can help more. So stick around and join right in.
Ina from Texas.:wave:
 

Welcome to the forum Renate, make yourself at home. As Lois and Ina have said, when we know a bit more about you, we can perhaps share some thoughts and advice. :welcome:
 
Reading between the lines Renate, two thoughts surfaced. The first is that we are responsible for our own happiness and cannot rely on others to make us happy. That goes for family members and members of this forum. That said, there's no harm in reaching out to people and sharing. That always seems to help, in my experience.

My second thought is the Serenity Prayer which may be appropriate for you in your isolation.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
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You are wheelchair bound but does that also mean that you are necessarily housebound?
Can you get out and about a bit ? If you have an extrovert personality that is very important.
Do a stocktake of your lifestyle and try to identify what is lacking and make whatever changes are open to you to fill some of the gaps.
If you have to spend some money then do it. Who are you saving it for? As my mother used to say, "There are no pockets in shrouds."

Carpe diem, Renate. Keep posting and we will listen and encourage you. :bighug:
 
Hi Renate, welcome, Warrigal's post could be of interest to you. It's always 'tough' when our family live miles away from us especially if we can't get out & about as much as we'd like.
 
Thanks for your advice Fern, I don't know what Warrgal's post means ?
Please take care and thanks again for sharing

 
Thanks for reminding me about the Serenity prayer, Should know better, but sometimes I get a blue day. Yes I'm housebound and only go out with a support worker once a week on Wednesday. I also go to an Adult day centre on Tuesdays. Its the Weekend where I'm often struggle with some Isolation, I have everyday care at home and general coping okay, its the days when I'm blue and miss my loved ones a lot.
Sunday after church I do miss the more personal contact, maybe because I'm with many friends at church and don't want it to end. I'm Okay and happy to found this site.
Cheers Dame Warrigal
from renate:(
 
SeaBreeze said:
Welcome to the forum Renate, make yourself at home. As Lois and Ina have said, when we know a bit more about you, we can perhaps share some thoughts and advice. :welcome:
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Well Seabreeze thanks for reply, I do have major health issues, but try hard to be positive ! Can't get out on my own only with support workers and this is once a week with special taxi, and as I wrote to Dame Warrigal on Tuesday is Adult day and the Wheelchair bus picks me up for fun & games plus outings weather permitting, Regards to Lois and Ina too.
Cheerio Renate:sentimental:
 
Renate said:
Thanks for reminding me about the Serenity prayer, Should know better, but sometimes I get a blue day.
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You're welcome, Renate. That prayer has special significance for me, which is why it comes easily to mind. Another deeply ingrained thought is one I picked up from a Marriage Encounter weekend. It is simply that feelings are neither good not bad. They are the body's spontaneous reaction to experiences and situations. It is natural for you to experience 'blue' days, as you label them. Given your circumstances it would be a sign of insanity if you didn't feel down at times. What matters is what you choose to do in response to your feelings.

I have several options that I rely on when feeling depressed. I may stay in bed, eat lots of outrageous food or I may watch sad movies and have a good cry to release the feelings. In my deepest sorrow I have resorted to writing poetry. It's not very good poetry but it does reach down inside me to express my most painful feelings. Afterwards I am able to climb up (metaphorically) out of the valley of shadows and bask in the sunshine of the mountain top.

I think the internet is a wonderful opportunity for distraction when having a blue day. So many kitten videos, so many corny jokes and so many people to talk to, even if they are one the other side of the world. Keep posting, even when you are feeling down. Tell us about your life and the people in it. Just don't identify anyone too precisely.

Renate, are your children and grandchildren on Facebook? I have found this a good way to keep in touch with my relatives including those who live in Sydney as well as the more distant ones. I've never been one for the telephone but I like being able to follow the thoughts and activities of my family on FB. I also get to see a lot more photos that way.
 
Welcome Renate. This is a great forum to spend time on when you're alone and want to look at and talk to others. Look the forum over and jump in any where. Asked any question that pops in your mind. In short order someone will attempt to reply. Welcome.
 
Welcome Renate...Glad you could join our friendly group.My brother was blind & a wheelchair,he lead a very active life.Nice that you are getting out.

 
Hi Renate. Welcome. I'm new too but have enjoyed the electronic socializing here so far. I'm sorry life is so challenging for you right now. I sure hope situation improves. No advice except 'hang in there'.
 
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