My Father

Beezer

Beezer

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Mom and Dad had 5 kids...3 boys and 2 girls.

I was talking to my 2 sisters one day and they told me they had never heard Dad swear. I was floored and said, 'Well. You've never been golfing with him, have you?' lol!

But Dad came from that generation where you held doors for women...stood up when a woman entered the room...etc. Dad forever sweated the small stuff but was always the family rock during times of adversity. He never cheated, drank to excess or raised a hand to Mom.

I've tried to model myself after him in raising my own girls. He's still kicking at 85 and has been the best grandparent a child could ever want.

So cheers to my Pop! And cheers to that generation who rarely complained and just got the job done! :)
 

hollydolly said:
YOu were very lucky to have a fabulous father...(y)

My father was an evil SOB.. but he never swore..
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It just breaks my heart when I read the things you went thru. In spite of all the things you have suffered you grew into an amazing woman. You are still doing that now, taking your life in your own hands to find a better future. Not putting with up with things that are not okay. Many would not have the courage to do so.
 
Blessed said:
It just breaks my heart when I read the things you went thru. In spite of all the things you have suffered you grew into an amazing woman. You are still doing that now, taking your life in your own hands to find a better future. Not putting with up with things that are not okay. Many would not have the courage to do so.
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thank you , you;re very kind... 🤗
 
Beezer said:
Mom and Dad had 5 kids...3 boys and 2 girls.

I was talking to my 2 sisters one day and they told me they had never heard Dad swear. I was floored and said, 'Well. You've never been golfing with him, have you?' lol!

But Dad came from that generation where you held doors for women...stood up when a woman entered the room...etc. Dad forever sweated the small stuff but was always the family rock during times of adversity. He never cheated, drank to excess or raised a hand to Mom.

I've tried to model myself after him in raising my own girls. He's still kicking at 85 and has been the best grandparent a child could ever want.

So cheers to my Pop! And cheers to that generation who rarely complained and just got the job done! :)
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My father was a bit like that, but along with the good bits there were plenty of bad ones. He was unambitious, strict and inflexible - never budging even when he was obviously wrong. He was totally unable or unwilling to justify his views, but he was right and we were always wrong. He never hit mother, but he was always ready to wallop me with his belt - even the buckle end.

I never wanted to be like my parents. If I could start over again, I'd choose different ones. (Maybe they wouldn't choose me :LOL:)
 
I had a wonderful father who unfortunately pacified my malignant narcissist of a mother as his way of getting some peace at home. As a result, my mother became increasingly worse, demanding, and controlling over time. I can well remember my father coming home from work in NYC every night, changing his clothes, then going into his workshop to make things before and after dinner just to get away from her!

I was welcome in his workshop, and my father always had time for me, taking me alone to parks, movies, etc. while my mother couldn’t be bothered with such. I consider myself fortunate to have had one good if dominated parent, having met many kids both of whose parents were toxic…
 
Capt Lightning said:
My father was a bit like that, but along with the good bits there were plenty of bad ones. He was unambitious, strict and inflexible - never budging even when he was obviously wrong. He was totally unable or unwilling to justify his views, but he was right and we were always wrong. He never hit mother, but he was always ready to wallop me with his belt - even the buckle end.

I never wanted to be like my parents. If I could start over again, I'd choose different ones. (Maybe they wouldn't choose me :LOL:)
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Sounds a lot like mine. Ignorance and belligerence. Never saw him hit my mother but heard lots of things he said to her that are so awful I remember them to this day. Women in those days would stay in a relationship like that rather than divorce. I have been hit with the buckle end of the belt too.
 
Beezer said:
Mom and Dad had 5 kids...3 boys and 2 girls.

I was talking to my 2 sisters one day and they told me they had never heard Dad swear. I was floored and said, 'Well. You've never been golfing with him, have you?' lol!

But Dad came from that generation where you held doors for women...stood up when a woman entered the room...etc. Dad forever sweated the small stuff but was always the family rock during times of adversity. He never cheated, drank to excess or raised a hand to Mom.

I've tried to model myself after him in raising my own girls. He's still kicking at 85 and has been the best grandparent a child could ever want.

So cheers to my Pop! And cheers to that generation who rarely complained and just got the job done! :)
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I agree, but those days are long gone for the majority of present generations. I still hold the door for my wife and seat her in the restaurants, unless the host or hostess does. I do not open her car door. She doesn’t like that and says it’s passe`. My dad, a military man, was also a real gentleman, but could be a real man when the situation called for him to be one. He was in three wars, but only fought in two of them. I remember seeing Dad dressed in his Army dress uniform during the Eisenhower funeral. He loved Ike and attended his funeral in Kansas, I think. He wanted to make sure he looked appropriate, so he did what he called a dress rehearsal. Eisenhower pinned his Medal of Valor on him, so I think dad felt loyalty to him.
 

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