My husband officially retiring in May Oh No

There's this man, who SAYS he is my husband, who is now in my house a lot. He says he "retired," and that explains his presence. I'm not buying it, but he is sort of fun to have around, so I don't complain. He has this really cool beard and is some kind of comedian, I think. I do recall I once had a husband but he worked a lot of overtime and I thought he left a long time ago. This new guy has been around here for a week. Today he said, smiling, "Well, we seem to be getting along alright." I agreed. I laugh a lot now and this has been a big change and I have noticed it. I haven't laughed like that for years. I think I forgot about laughing. We have interests in common and both also have our own, individual interests. I'm liking this "retired" guy, but not totally, just as a cautious, first impression. He is very considerate about any work I am doing and he plans to paint the bathroom where I recently removed all the wallpaper. He talks to me and makes eye contact. That is huge. So far, I think retirement is incredible. But, I am still a little doubtful about that part where he says he is my husband.
 
I retired in April 2015 and mama retired in Aug. of 2017 and to be honest I was concerned that we'd get on each others nerves being together 24/7/365 even though we've been together for over 41 years.....so far everything is cool.

The only thing that I've had to get used to is that she wants me to go shopping with her now but it's not really all that bad now that I've gotten somewhat used to it.

I've always carried her purse for her when we go out......but stop and think about it though, it's really hard for a man to look big, bad and macho while carrying a purse and what really ticks me off is that she never picks a purse that matches my shoes. :)

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IKE said:
I retired in April 2015 and mama retired in Aug. of 2017 and to be honest I was concerned that we'd get on each others nerves being together 24/7/365 even though we've been together for over 41 years.....so far everything is cool.

The only thing that I've had to get used to is that she wants me to go shopping with her now but it's not really all that bad now that I've gotten somewhat used to it.

I've always always carried her purse for her when we go out......but think about it though, it's really hard for a man to look big, bad and macho carrying a purse and what really ticks me off is that she never picks a purse that matches my shoes. :)

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That explains your toe nails...
 
RadishRose said:
Why can't retired husbands also clean the house? They live there, after all!
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I agree, but many men weren't raised doing any kind of housework......I was, to a point. For the 21 years I was single/divorced, I had to take care of where I lived, which included doing laundry and washing my dishes. The only time my wife has done laundry when I was laid-up from a surgery. IOW, Monday is laundry day for me. I also do the vacuuming and other things. All when my wife is at work.

But, then again, I don't mind at all doing those things.
 
Even though I think the very best job I ever had was my last one, I have really never liked working that much. I was very glad when I started getting SS Early Retirement and not looking for a job anymore. I do many things in our apartment and my wife loves the clean sheets that I put on the bed each week.

Now, as far as she goes, she likes, almost "loves", to work. Even though it's getting harder and harder to get up in the morning to go, she does. I help her (mentally) by getting up as well. Even though our income will change fairly drastically when she quits her job and we move, we will be able to do more things than now. Weekends just aren't long enough sometimes for us. She probably won't fully retire, being that she will look for a part-time job, as well as I might.

Bottom Line: I like being retired, but will be glad when she is semi-retired so we can do things during the week as well as weekends.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Even though I think the very best job I ever had was my last one, I have really never liked working that much. I was very glad when I started getting SS Early Retirement and not looking for a job anymore. I do many things in our apartment and my wife loves the clean sheets that I put on the bed each week.

Now, as far as she goes, she likes, almost "loves", to work. Even though it's getting harder and harder to get up in the morning to go, she does. I help her (mentally) by getting up as well. Even though our income will change fairly drastically when she quits her job and we move, we will be able to do more things than now. Weekends just aren't long enough sometimes for us. She probably won't fully retire, being that she will look for a part-time job, as well as I might.

Bottom Line: I like being retired, but will be glad when she is semi-retired so we can do things during the week as well as weekends.
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Weekends are for other people, we do more during the week...
 
Since retiring I have been broadening my horizons, learning the ways of the male domestic goddess, aka house boy. The missus just stands back and lets me go till I get into a bind or have a question. Today is laundry day! Rock on.. :eek:nthego:

(We each have a little getaway spot in the house to call our own. She has a craft room, mine's the music room.)
 
I forgot to mention that earlier, like HazyDavey, the wife and I also have our own getaway spot in the house, I have my man cave (computer room) and she has her sewing room. Of course her computer is also in my computer room so I'm forced to share from time to time. I don't mind though, she's not on her computer anywhere near as much as I'm on mine. Things seem to find a way of working out don't ya know :).
 
Funny, here I thought only the young married guys had, or wanted, a “Man Cave”.

As for me, I see absolutely no reason, or need for such a room.

But, then again, those men that do have a “Man Cave” (boy, that name sounds SO “mancho”) have a house. Can’t have one in an apartment.

Anyway, very few things wife and I do separately. I don’t have any buddies/male friends, because my wife loves boating - fishing - target shooting and rodeo. We also shop together, listen to the same kind of music and watch the same tv programs.
She doesn’t have any girlfriends, because she likes the things I like.

Even stuns us just how much we have in common and love to do together.
 
He is definately looking more and more forward to retirement. At his supervisors suggestion he has been using up his accrued time off. He is taking a few long weekends. Thing is, every time he has taken time off he gets two or three calls a day. He has taken yesterday and today off. Yesterday he got 3 calls, today, one so far.
I asked them what they plan to do when he is gone for good?
 
My husband is retiring in June. He will work on a need to basis to help his replacement, maybe for a few months. I am not sure what he will do when not working but he does help around the house now and will continue doing this, I am sure. He wants to start gardening with planting vegetables and we have many movies we can watch and he does love reading. I feel like I will need to find more things to do with him home all the time.
 
EllieR said:
My husband is retiring in June. He will work on a need to basis to help his replacement, maybe for a few months. I am not sure what he will do when not working but he does help around the house now and will continue doing this, I am sure. He wants to start gardening with planting vegetables and we have many movies we can watch and he does love reading. I feel like I will need to find more things to do with him home all the time.
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I had my hip replaced 10 years ago. It was an easy recovery for me...but of course I was "only" 54 at the time. Good luck to him. Tell him walking will be great therapy afterward.
 
RiverUp said:
There's this man, who SAYS he is my husband, who is now in my house a lot. He says he "retired," and that explains his presence. I'm not buying it, but he is sort of fun to have around, so I don't complain. He has this really cool beard and is some kind of comedian, I think. I do recall I once had a husband but he worked a lot of overtime and I thought he left a long time ago. This new guy has been around here for a week. Today he said, smiling, "Well, we seem to be getting along alright." I agreed. I laugh a lot now and this has been a big change and I have noticed it. I haven't laughed like that for years. I think I forgot about laughing. We have interests in common and both also have our own, individual interests. I'm liking this "retired" guy, but not totally, just as a cautious, first impression. He is very considerate about any work I am doing and he plans to paint the bathroom where I recently removed all the wallpaper. He talks to me and makes eye contact. That is huge. So far, I think retirement is incredible. But, I am still a little doubtful about that part where he says he is my husband.
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Well, if he's not your husband why not hang on to him until you husband returns (assuming he will) because he sounds like a pretty neat guy. ;)
 
I must have been dreaming this: Old Mack said something about the dishes not being clean enough. Maybe I was sleep walking. When I woke up, there were no dishes in the cupboard, no silverware in the drawer, no glasses or cups on the shelves, no pots or pans down below. They were all in the trash can been beside the house. I swear I was fast asleep. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
 
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