My most unusual ...and very sad, experience today....

Bettyann

Bettyann

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Late today I had a most unusual experience...which resulted in a very unexpected reaction on my part.
Meeting with my Coffee Gang friends in Starbucks we found out that 'some guy' OD'd in King Sooper's men's bathroom. Naturally, our reaction was that of strange shock... I mean...what does one say...really... You 'think' a lot about it and your mind is full of all kinds of emotions. Who was he? Had we seen him before in the area?
After I got home, walked into my apartment, I burst into tears.

All of a sudden, the only question I could think of about this man was "I wonder if anybody had invited him for Thanksgiving dinner..."...
and I just felt immeasurably sad for this person who had to die this way. Did anyone really care about him? Did anyone actually LOVE him? Would anybody miss him personally? Did he have a family...was he homeless?

Did he commit suicide or was it accidental...does it really make any difference?
For those who want to judge him in any way, ...maybe you shouldn't...Life has a way, through our soul's own choosing, to experience events that help us to 'understand' including: do not judge or condemn. We don't...and most likely never will...know this man's story...

So, I just sent him a hug and told him to please enjoy his next life and may it be full of happy moments... That feels pretty good, actually, to love unconditionally....which simply means: allowing ...

We allow others to experience what they need...and they allow us the same.
Namaste'...and Peace to you, Mister Whoever You Were...
 

Very sad story Bettyann, I would be upset too and concerned for what his troubles may have been that led him to his death. Very kind of you to send out good thoughts to him, may he rest peacefully.
 
It may sound glib but somebody said that life is not for everyone...
 

Bettyann, shows your compassionate nature that this bothers you. You were having a good time with your friends and he was alone. It happens all too frequently these days.

Last week I was with hubby at the emergency hospital. A druggie walked in and headed for admitting all the while chanting "gotta go to detox, gotta go to detox" over and over. He would almost get to the counter, change his mind and head out the door with the same chant, head kept going in a jerking motion to the chant.

He did this at least a dozen times, a friend was outside but did not interfere. I admit that he was disturbing me at a time when I was wrapped up in my own problems and I seriously wanted to kick him all the way to detox myself.

Security did nothing, I would assume that they did not want to be held responsible should he finally come to the conclusion that he really needed help and they had not let him get it.
 
As a certified drug counselor in my state, I can only sympathize with you having to go through this experience. I have heard this story over and over. It is hard to say what caused the OD. Was it Heroin or pills? Was the addict speed balling? And the thinking that all addicts are drug crazed young people is pure bunk. I have counseled doctors and lawyers as well as young teens. My youngest client was 11 years old and was addicted to prescription pain killers that he was stealing from the home medicine cabinet.

More than likely and being it was in the morning, my 'guess' would be that the person just made a score (buy) and rushed into the closest bathroom to shoot-up and get some relief. It was probably a long night for him until he was able to get his fix. I doubt if he was looking for a high. Probably was in need to calm his body. Assuming that it may have been Heroin, it may have been too pure for his body or it may have been cut with a substance that some dealers use to increase their profit. Just hard to say.

Yes, we should all feel sorry for these people that get themselves in this mess. It is their choice to take the first hit and when they feel that euphoria, they are off to the races. Soon, what they are using isn't enough, so they increase the dosage or go to the next great drug, until they get to the big H. There is a new drug now in Russia that has not made its way to the U.S. yet, but when it does, we will all be hearing more stories like your's. It is called Krockodil (Desmorphine). Look it up. It actually can eat the skin off of its victims. It is made from codeine from over the counter cough medicine and cooked with paint thinner, gasoline, hydrochloric acid, iodine and the red phosphorus used on matchbox strike pads.

I could tell you stories that are so unbelievable, yet are so true and so many people just don't care about addicts and alcoholics.
 
The drugs are only a band aide our society and culture has much bigger issues that seem to lead people so easily into that life.

Bettyann, so sorry for to hear of this; truly a sad occurrence. Very sad and like others mentioned, happens way more often than we care to know.
 
Thank you, everyone, for your kind and understanding responses. So many truly NICE PEOPLE on this forum. :love_heart:
 
I remember the awkward silence when a few blokes were expressing their pleasure at some pornographic pictures and I told them their pleasure was probably feeding those girls'' habits.

There but for the grace of God ............
 
I'm sorry Bettyann. Compassion and empathy are rare qualities, you are a sweet lady.
It's very sad that peope are hurting so badly and are so broken that they turn to drugs to escape reality.
 

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