My neighbors - a personal diary rant thread

We have been lucky. Military housing for 20 plus years. Not sure in the US, but in Canada if the neighbor farts too loud the Military Police will come running! They are quite bored so any call that has them do something is welcome. In our retirement i think we have had only 1 incident of bad neighbors in Europe in 10 years. Fingers crossed!
 
Another day messed up by my back neighbor.

Since I knew it was Father's Day, I knew they'd be loud. I was very tired, so I put on headphones with blue noise on them with earbuds with an audiobook on them at the same time.

They were yelling and screaming so loudly that I heard them through both devices. Then they started blasting music. I recorded the music way over the decibel level legal limit.

Right after I recorded it, they took the music somewhere else and quieted some, so I didn't report it yet. But the night is not over yet.

Edit: Hours later, the firecrackers started. A pop here and there. Anything that goes pop is illegal where I live.

Which reminds me, I've been meaning to respond to this:

VintageBetter said:
Did you ever call police about the illegal fireworks? Those are extremely dangerous.
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I have not yet reported any illegal fireworks, but I should have. Last year, when I was talking to the police, I told him that I would be reporting illegal fireworks on the 4th of July. The police officer told me that I could report it, but they're really busy that night, so they may not get to the report.

I didn't report the illegal fireworks last year. But they retaliated anyway. They set off a firecracker bomb at 8 am the following morning right behind me.
 
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My neighbor was never over friendly but he did ask for a favor once in a while shortly after they moved in. He needed a ride to get his car back from an impound lot.
Then he started burning yard waste in his back yard and the smoke came at us for about a week straight, day and night.
I was walking out to my detached garage and the smoke was so bad that it would burn the eyes.
I called over the 5 foot privacy fence to him and told him that he needs to stop burning because he is smoking us out.
I never expected the reply that I got. He said that he didn’t have to.
I told him that we have a burning ordinance in our village and he said that he had already talked to the mayor and the mayor told him he could burn whatever he wanted.
I told him that was wrong and that I would notify the authorities.
They told him that he wasn’t allowed to burn except to cook outdoors.
He has been angry at us and tried to turn neighbors against us.
I have to keep reminding myself that to live like a Christian I need to forgive him.
I don’t have a lot of people who need to be forgiven so maybe this neighbor will be my ticket to heaven.
We have lived here for at least 50 years and most of our neighbors have been tolerable. Some were real nice and some weren’t but this is the first time that anyone really hates me.
We walked on egg shells when we had elderly neighbors on one side when we moved in for fear that we would offend them. Turned out that they were one of the nicest old couples that you could meet.
Times have really changed people don’t respect elders anymore.
 
When I moved in here there was a guy who lived next door. He was pretty friendly at that time. Then when my BF started coming here he got mean and angry. A few months later he put up a video camera outside his door pointed at the elevator. I objected because it was an invasion of my privacy and everyone else's too. Showing everyone coming and going from the elevator. It took us a month to get the manager to make him take it down. My BF is not a very conservative man and he "mooned" that camera. Not long after that it was taken down.
 
katlupe said:
When I moved in here there was a guy who lived next door. He was pretty friendly at that time. Then when my BF started coming here he got mean and angry. A few months later he put up a video camera outside his door pointed at the elevator. I objected because it was an invasion of my privacy and everyone else's too. Showing everyone coming and going from the elevator. It took us a month to get the manager to make him take it down. My BF is not a very conservative man and he "mooned" that camera. Not long after that it was taken down.
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I completely understand how you felt about a Video camera .. but now, it's perfectly legal to put a Video ring doorbell on your door..even in Apartment buildings.

I remember reading about a similar story , and the person was demanding that the video ring doorbell be removed because she felt that she was being watched by her neighbour every time she went out or came home... no a nice feeling clearly, but she was told no, she has no right to ask for it to be removed...unless it's deliberately been set to focus just on her property, but as a Video ring doorbell takes in wide shots , then it's legal...

... that's the only drawback with the VRD's I feel... I have one here ..2 actually, one on my front door and another on my side gate... but if I lived in a very small space like an apartment building I would not be happy that my every move outside my apartment was being watched.
 
caramel said:
I've lived next to my horrible back neighbors for over 20 years. A lot has changed in that time. Other neighbors have come and gone. Some were burned by my horrible neighbor.

I've found myself writing about the bad neighbor escapades a lot lately. I've decided to start a thread on it, so the people who are tired of hearing about them can ignore this thread.

I've got some new neighbors who have moved in this week. Considering that the last neighbors who lived there were evil, I'm feeling quite triggered, waiting to see what the new neighbors do. If they join forces with the back neighbor, things could go really badly for me. If they turn out to be respectful, decent people, that would be a boon to my quality of life in ways that most people wouldn't imagine.

Seeing as it's Memorial Day weekend, this will be a long weekend for me, waiting to see what happens.
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Caramel, you are right. I don't value neighbors also, but at least I must admit, that they are not that evil. They are sometimes loud, they have barbecues, which I don't like because of the smell of fat, their cigarette smoke gets into our house and so on. But I guess for them I'd be a nasty neighbor too for these reasons.
 
hollydolly said:
I completely understand how you felt about a Video camera .. but now, it's perfectly legal to put a Video ring doorbell on your door..even in Apartment buildings.

I remember reading about a similar story , and the person was demanding that the video ring doorbell be removed because she felt that she was being watched by her neighbour every time she went out or came home... no a nice feeling clearly, but she was told no, she has no right to ask for it to be removed...unless it's deliberately been set to focus just on her property, but as a Video ring doorbell takes in wide shots , then it's legal...

... that's the only drawback with the VRD's I feel... I have one here ..2 actually, one on my front door and another on my side gate... but if I lived in a very small space like an apartment building I would not be happy that my every move outside my apartment was being watched.
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The police said it was up to the management of the building. So they told him he had to remove it or he would be evicted. I mean he had two other tenants on our floor acting crazy in front of that camera. Ended up having no friends here for a long time.
 
@caramel I've read through your posts here and I am truly sorry. Reminds me of what I went through in that house I owned with horrible neighbors. I sold after 7 years. Your situation sounds worse.

At this point, I am grateful I don't own it because it's been fire evacuated twice since I sold it. Never when I lived there. Once a warning, more recently mandatory. The neighborhood still stands but who knows what the future is.
 
When I started this thread was the last weekend I called the police on my neighbors. . . until this weekend. I thought things might have been getting better, but nope.

Music started early in the morning. By afternoon, I recorded the illegal decibel levels, then called the police. An hour later, the music stopped.

Then a pattern I've noticed as I've been logging their behavior. They start laughing like hyenas after I call the police. Same happened today.

I'm expecting retaliation and blasting music tomorrow.
 
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Caramel, everyone deserves a peaceful life. If you can't get it where you are now, and given that you've been putting up with this for 20 years, it's hard to understand why you haven't moved elsewhere.

I mean, logging neighbors' behavior? Calling the police on them? What kind of life is that?

A 55+ or similar community with by-laws about noise might be just the ticket.
 
caramel said:
When I started this thread was the last weekend I called the police on my neighbors. . . until this weekend. I thought things might have been getting better, but nope.

Music started early in the morning. By afternoon, I recorded the illegal decibel levels, then called the police. An hour later, the music stopped.

Then a pattern I've noticed as I've been logging their behavior. They start laughing like hyenas after I call the police. Same happened today.

I'm expecting retaliation and blasting music tomorrow.
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Yes, this is a worry. One jerk to the side of my back yard blasted his stereo outside every holiday, like Labor Day. From 10 to 10. However I have looked that house up on Google maps. Newer pictures and there was a Sheriff SUV in the drive way. Bet they wish I was still there! :LOL: Trash.
 
StarSong said:
Caramel, everyone deserves a peaceful life. If you can't get it where you are now, and given that you've been putting up with this for 20 years, it's hard to understand why you haven't moved elsewhere.

I mean, logging neighbors' behavior? Calling the police on them? What kind of life is that?

A 55+ or similar community with by-laws about noise might be just the ticket.
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I agree. I also should have sold sooner. Could have got more money.
 
StarSong said:
Caramel, everyone deserves a peaceful life. If you can't get it where you are now, and given that you've been putting up with this for 20 years, it's hard to understand why you haven't moved elsewhere.
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I appreciate everyone's concern about my neighbor situation.

Moving is definitely an option that I've considered. However, the reality is that relocating isn't always as straightforward as it might seem. There are numerous factors to consider. It's a complex decision that each person has to weigh based on their unique circumstances. I'm satisfied that I've made the decision I'm comfortable with right now even if it doesn't satisfy everyone.

I'm doing my best to handle this challenging situation with the options available to me right now. Sometimes, there's no perfect solution, just the best one we can manage at the time. It's frustrating and draining to deal with these issues, and I really appreciate having a space here to vent about it.

Thank you to everyone who is reading along and for your support during this difficult time.
 

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