Ok, here is the bottom line. She is not going to sue, she is happy with him paying her expenses.
The band thing is just a side thing, as it is something she enjoys doing. I told her privately she needs to take a break for a while, get over her being pissed at the bar the dog, her former bandmates and the world.
She is my family, and has helped me out a lot these past few years, so yes, when she is upset, I get upset. I do not have kids..so, she is it for me. I do not like seeing her upset.
Did she over react calling a lawyer? Yes. I think she did. She should have talked with bar owner first. I think HE was concerned she would sue, or something,
That is it