My Procrastinating Friend Has Swollen Feet

Beezer

Beezer

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He did a virtual appointment and the doctor told him to go to Emergency. That was 3 days ago...he still won't go.

So I went over tonight and explained to him that I am not his mother...just a buddy who loves and cares about you...and to please haul your butt to the ER right away. He got very angry with me and even started throwing stuff around. He told me I was stressing him out unnecessarily.

I left his house feeling a bit sheepish. I'm just worried worst case scenario he might lose a leg or worse...even die. I don't know how he will address me next time we meet. I hope he cools off and takes my words to heart. That's all I can hope for.
 

That's a tough, really tough spot to be in. I was in it with my own husband. If I didn't have medical power of attorney so that his protestations meant nothing to the EMT's he might have laid right in the middle of the living room floor for good.

I hope he realizes that people are not blowing smoke and he needs to be seen. There are several medical issues that are somewhat benign when it comes to swollen ankles. Even BP meds can cause it. I'm aware you already know this, there are several reasons that a very dangerous.
 
I would not mention it again at this point. He knows what he needs to know, you offered help (good for you), now he needs to make his choice. Nagging may cause him to dig in even more. Maybe he doesn't have the money? Sometimes the treatment for this is an easy fix; he may be afraid that the treatment may be worse than the swelling? IDK. But I wouldn't say much else about it right now.
 
If it’s any consolation, a friend of mine has had severely swollen feet and legs for years and she’s almost 80. She has been too many doctors and no one has been able to resolve the issue. If she takes the diuretics, they prescribe she literally has to sit on the toilet 24–7. As she already has problems with incontinence that will not work for her.
 
Just a thought. He did a virtual appointment and the doctor told him to go to the ER.
Maybe dr is covering his butt. Its hard to know what has caused swelling without a physical examination and tests.
Could be something as simple as sitting too long with his feet down. Could be something serious. You never know.
Maybe you could convince him to make a Dr appointment instead of going to the ER?

Not to put the fear in but the husband started off with the Minnie Mouse feet. He too refused to go to the dr. Then his legs swelled up and got hard and shiney and weeped liquid. Then he got sores. Then he got open sores. Then sores that went down to the bone and a wound pump. He had to wear compression wraps and have his dressings changed multiple times a day. He didnt lose any limbs but it was close and there were numerous visits to different drs every week and lots of hospital visits.
 
I am going to be half serious here…tell him that longs as you may lose a good friend perhaps he can help you write the obituary. Tell him you do not have very many good friends…so he is special to you. As a special friend who gets to assist in writing his own obituary does he think any reference to “stubborn old fool” is out of place?
 
Your concern is understandable, but he might take it 'pushing him,' not try to help him.
Also, his frustration on his health sounds 'put on you,' like a teenage boy angry at his mother.
Probably, he needs to take sometime to understand detrerioration of his health.
It sounds not easy to convince him at this moment.
 
Beezer said:
He did a virtual appointment and the doctor told him to go to Emergency. That was 3 days ago...he still won't go.
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Since he has a computer [virtual appointment] suggest to him to look up --swollen feet. Not for diagnosis but to get an understanding of how serious this might be. What he does for his own good that gives him a choice without any pressure.
 
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