Ronni
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- Location
- Nashville TN
My SIL and I have known each other since 1979 when I met her for the first time a couple years after my then-husband and I married. At that time, we lived in California, she in Huntsville Alabama. Several years later when we moved to Huntsville (where my husband came from) she and I got to know each other well, we both had kids similar ages, and we became best friends, as did our kids. We maintained that friendship through thick and thin, through moves across the country and back, through my divorce, through our kids having issues, ups and downs in life and relationships, through it all we were constant friends. So were our kids. They would see their cousins randomly, have get togethers, continue to bond over different things. As her kids reached adulthood, I maintained good contact with them as well. They'd always seen me as Mom#2, my kids saw her as their second Mom, and that never changed. MY SIL and I didn't see each other as much because of us moving around so much, but the friendship never waned. She was one of those people I maybe didn't speak to for months, and then one of us would pick up the phone,and the conversation flowed as if we'd just spoken the day before.
Something happened in 2013, something I said to one of her boys, something that upset her and she called me on it. I explained things from my end, told her it was inappropriate, apologized profusely, we had several conversations about it, and she seemed to be ok, but she couldn't get past it. We became estranged. She wouldn't take my calls, respond to my emails, she cut me out of her life. I was very upset, but there was nothing I could do. I maintained contact with all of her kids, got together with them occasionally, and always told them to give their mother my love and that I was here should she ever change her mind.
Miraculously, she reached out several months ago! Said that she'd held on to a grudge for way too long, and could I ever forgive her? Well, DOH!! Of course I could, there was nothing to forgive! And our friendship picked back up as if it had never waned!
I visited with her over the weekend. Ron and I were both going to go, but a time sensitive work thing came up that he had to take care of so I drove to Huntsville (a 2.5 hour drive) on Sunday and came back yesterday. Absolutely amazing visit! I got to see her girls as well, so that was an extra treat! It had been several years since I'd visited with them. It was a lovely, lovely visit. She's my oldest and dearest friend, and I never thought I'd see her again, so as you can imagine I'm over the moon!!!
Something happened in 2013, something I said to one of her boys, something that upset her and she called me on it. I explained things from my end, told her it was inappropriate, apologized profusely, we had several conversations about it, and she seemed to be ok, but she couldn't get past it. We became estranged. She wouldn't take my calls, respond to my emails, she cut me out of her life. I was very upset, but there was nothing I could do. I maintained contact with all of her kids, got together with them occasionally, and always told them to give their mother my love and that I was here should she ever change her mind.
Miraculously, she reached out several months ago! Said that she'd held on to a grudge for way too long, and could I ever forgive her? Well, DOH!! Of course I could, there was nothing to forgive! And our friendship picked back up as if it had never waned!
I visited with her over the weekend. Ron and I were both going to go, but a time sensitive work thing came up that he had to take care of so I drove to Huntsville (a 2.5 hour drive) on Sunday and came back yesterday. Absolutely amazing visit! I got to see her girls as well, so that was an extra treat! It had been several years since I'd visited with them. It was a lovely, lovely visit. She's my oldest and dearest friend, and I never thought I'd see her again, so as you can imagine I'm over the moon!!!
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