My Sister is Beside Herself

[Nathan]

..and yet many of us were married and had children by 22... I was.. and my husband was....

I first married at age 22, divorced just before my 25th birthday.

 

[hollydolly]

I first married at age 22, divorced just before my 25th birthday. View attachment 326038

well I was married at 21... my husband was married at 19...

 

[Nathan]

well I was married at 21... my husband was married at 19...

Too young. If I had it to do over I would have waited until....never.

 

[hollydolly]

Too young. If I had it to do over I would have waited until....never.

Me too...

 

[Knight]

A simple truth.
Reasons to marry or divorce belong to the people involved.

 

[Gardenlover]

that's what she sees.. and his Maserati... and the fact he's the Boss.. at work.. and can ensure her climb up the corporate ladder...

And possibly a sexual harassment charge against him in the future.

 

[hollydolly]

And possibly a sexual harassment charge against him in the future.

Well no I can't see that happening, she's moved in with him..

 

[Leann]

well it could be worse.. my 64 year old husband is with a 24 year old..

@hollydolly I wonder if either of them realize what the future looks like. Is she really going to stick around if someone better comes along? I highly doubt it.

People must think she's his granddaughter.

 

[Leann]

I haven't spoken about the reasons for my separation on here before now Remy... not on the open forum. I have had some really stellar friends behind the scenes that have kept me sane throughout the whole process.. it was the most hurtful thing ever in my life... and without them I swear I would have had a breakdwon

I won't go into details but suffice to say he's the head of studios.. and she's a freelancer who wishes to be a permanent member of staff.. so she went after him knowing full well he was married..

takes 2 to tango, and he was sneaking behind my back and having this full fledged affair.. .. and I discovered it... absolutely devastated..

I can speak about it more openly now since the Divorce proceedings have begun...

I hope you know that I wish you only the best as you go through the divorce.

 

[papa tiger]

You don't live forever. if they happy so be it. Mature a bit young guy?
Odds are it woke a bit and done.

Woke is now defined in this dictionary as “aware of and actively attentive to important facts and issues !"
Basically, the opposite of "Wake UP." I can surmise a lot depends on State Laws. Look at her finances?
Kids heading off to college, moving out in a few years. That stuff.

I once toured an old Art Museum of the great Arts and thought they sucked.
Never went back to an old Art Museum again. They still suck!

 

[George1959]

that's what she sees.. and his Maserati... and the fact he's the Boss.. at work.. and can ensure her climb up the corporate ladder...

A Maserati is only a car and the boss in a company might not be the boss at home

 

[hollydolly]

A Maserati is only a car and the boss in a company might not be the boss at home

..it's a car that tells a 24 ( she was 22 then)..that he's very solvent.... as does his luxury penthouse apartment

 

[papa tiger]

..it's a car that tells a 24 ( she was 22 then)..that he's very solvent.... as does his luxury penthouse apartment

Just think! 1/2 Dol, your rights " 1/2 of the stuff. He'll miss all the stuff that's yours soon.
Sure he will do his dampest to hide it from you. Turn the heat up.

 

[Jasmina]

my husband was 24 and i was 31 with 2 children when we met , we have just celebrated 50yr married .. what will be will be .. she can still have children ..

 

[Devi]

my husband was 24 and i was 31 with 2 children when we met , we have just celebrated 50yr married .. what will be will be .. she can still have children ..

Well, that is not the point. He cheated on his wife and now he's with the young woman.

 

[hollydolly]

Just think! 1/2 Dol, your rights " 1/2 of the stuff. He'll miss all the stuff that's yours soon.
Sure he will do his dampest to hide it from you. Turn the heat up.

I know... I know... It doesn't make me feel any better... tho',

 

[Jasmina]

Well, that is not the point. He cheated on his wife and now he's with the young woman.

 

[Jasmina]

my reply was to (my sister is beside herself ) so not sure what you mean ..

 

[Devi]

my reply was to (my sister is beside herself ) so not sure what you mean ..

Ah. You didn't make that clear. The thread had gone on to someone else's situation. That's all.

 

[Jasmina]

Ah. You didn't make that clear. The thread had gone on to someone else's situation. That's all.

sorry i didnt realise ..

 

[PeppermintPatty]

A simple truth.
Reasons to marry or divorce belong to the people involved.

They should. I wish Beezers nephew the best.
May it be his happiest most joyful relationship . It’s their business what they do.

 

[papa tiger]

My son in laws babe is having all kinds of physical issues and she is in her early 30's.
Epilepsy is such a dang downer. She is so sweet. Son in laws daughter is looking out for her.

 

[Remy]

Sorry that happened to you, @hollydolly. Thanks for sharing with us.

I agree. That's not something that is easy to reveal.

@hollydolly I can only imagine it will be a relief when you are divorced. But as someone who never got married, there must be many other emotions I can't understand. As Devi mentioned, thanks for sharing such a devastating experience. That's not easy to do.

 

[Sliverfox]

The more she complains to him about the woman in his life the more determined he will want her.
He's old enough to make up his mind.

Been there done that.

 

[VintageBetter]

BTW, I also think people shoud not interfere when a relationship appears to be healthy, sane, and functional. But the OP mentioned that she seems to be isolating the young man, and any time anyone isolates a partner that is controlling behavior and a red flag.

Again, maybe his friends have rejected him because they dislike her? We don't know. There's a lot we don't know. Not really our problem, is it?