Mr. Ed
Be what you is not what you what you ain’t
- Location
- Central NY
I want my inner child to learn/know there is no turning back.
Name the most important thing you wished your child would learn, (and/or tried to instill)
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oldaunt
professional hermit
A good solid moral compass. All else will follow.
grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
I seem to get surprised more often than not, that those you think have well and truly lost the plot in life have inner depths and psychological resources, (mental strengths or whatever you want to call it), and can somehow come back to life again, and show me who the fool is!
This includes alcoholics who must have been complete nightmares for their partners or kids to live with, (who have put all close to them through the most unreasonable treatment due to alcoholic paranoia or whatever).
This isn't a defence for their behaviour, but explains why our health services just don't give up completely on them, as all reason appeared to show they deserved,..., until that is, they come back to life again!!
I can't blame "the group" therefore, (or those choosing to condemn alcoholics, which includes me), but just acknowledge how hard it can be to make "fair judgements for ourselves" sometimes!
ehanveyjr
New Member
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- South Carolina
Make meach day your masterpiece
grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
My maternal get and father lived to be ninety seven years old, and raised six children of his own (and adopted another relatives son when the parents died), and was thought to be very wise by us all.
He talked about this approach to life: "Farm as you would if you were going to live forever, and live as though you're going to die tomorrow"!
grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
A slightly obtuse thought occurred to me in relation to this thread due the the preponderance of folks arguing in favour of "equality" generally, and putting forward arguments against those in society, (or in the world), treated unfairly in some way.
Its obviously hard to argue against equality in most cases, (and in favour of privilege of some kind), but in the case of our children do we try to tell them, or instill in them, the notion they are our equals?
Personally I told my daughter she was so special she certainly was far above me in almost all respects, whilst at the same time trying to instill in her the understanding she should put herself on the same level as her friends etc., in order to communicate well, and not behave as though she thought too much of herself, (not acting too proud or whatever), as stated in the OP.
However, there are occasions as many parents would probably acknowledge, when you have to try to exercise some kind of authority, so obviously in these circumstances it is necessary to show the relationship isn't equal or completely equal in that sense, and on other family and relationship threads I put forward my objections to those in authority deciding the child's views trump the parents, hence are considered equally and invading our private lives into the bargain, (and entering a space they should be restrained from entering, and demeaning the parents in my view, in the process).
Its obviously hard to argue against equality in most cases, (and in favour of privilege of some kind), but in the case of our children do we try to tell them, or instill in them, the notion they are our equals?
Personally I told my daughter she was so special she certainly was far above me in almost all respects, whilst at the same time trying to instill in her the understanding she should put herself on the same level as her friends etc., in order to communicate well, and not behave as though she thought too much of herself, (not acting too proud or whatever), as stated in the OP.
However, there are occasions as many parents would probably acknowledge, when you have to try to exercise some kind of authority, so obviously in these circumstances it is necessary to show the relationship isn't equal or completely equal in that sense, and on other family and relationship threads I put forward my objections to those in authority deciding the child's views trump the parents, hence are considered equally and invading our private lives into the bargain, (and entering a space they should be restrained from entering, and demeaning the parents in my view, in the process).
oldaunt
professional hermit
Which is why one should always show some respect to one's elders for their experience of life.
grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
Here is a website on respecting elders:
https://www.academicheights.in/blog/the-importance-of-teaching-children-to-respect-elders/
Quote:
"The Importance of Teaching Children to Respect Elders
When you give respect to someone it means you have already taken the first step towards getting a place in their heart. Being disciplined and respecting elders in our life or self-discipline gives us confidence in terms of inner strength as it needs a lot of self-control and patience. If you want success and achieve prosperity you have to adapt this quality, it just needs to be committed and self-controlled."