Need advice with relationship with my niece

I have a similar, though somewhat worse, situation with my niece. We were really close when she was growing up. Now she's in her 50s and does. not. talk. to me. Ever. I have tried, she sees my daughter occasionally and she asked for me if something was wrong. My niece gave her some bs about how she's just not that into family. It's been about 15 years like this. I can't think of anything I did to cause this or anything to do to fix it.
 

Marcy Sheiner said:
I have a similar, though somewhat worse, situation with my niece. We were really close when she was growing up. Now she's in her 50s and does. not. talk. to me. Ever. I have tried, she sees my daughter occasionally and she asked for me if something was wrong. My niece gave her some bs about how she's just not that into family. It's been about 15 years like this. I can't think of anything I did to cause this or anything to do to fix it.
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I find women as a rule handle this differently then men as women need closure , etc .

I would have tried ONCE speaking to her and that would be that , not your fault nor Pierce35 fault so you close the chapter and move on , realistically what else is there ?
 
Hello Pierce and welcome.

You haven't said anything so far about how her parents felt about about you and your exceptionally close relationship with their daughter and maybe developed some resentment toward that relationship. Was there any kind of
disagreements between you and them about advice you gave her that conflicted with their thoughts about how they
wanted to raise her and only now is it coming out in you about the conflict that you probably now recognize the wall
that you and your neice have unintentionally built and you wonder how are you two supposed to fix this especially now that daughter is getting married and soon starting a family and realizes she needs her mom and dad to look forward to becoming grand parents and therefore becoming closer to them now in place of just you, and she wants them to know it.
 

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I can understand why you feel hurt, confused and want to know why your niece's behavior has shifted. That you can't engage in meaningful discourse about it because she blows it off is not helpful. I do realize that she must be incredibly busy and that can be extremely stressful. Often young people move on with their lives and don't make time for us, but the slights are not intentional.

I can offer nothing additional to what has already been suggested by others, but I hope that a some point, the issue will be resolved to your satisfaction, though that may take time.

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Pierce95;

As we grow up the house tends to empty. Our lives daily hours seem to stretch to longer and longer lone times.
Go see her. Set up a time, go out of your way to connect. The youth get so busy with their lives, their plans,
Then their friends take a lot of their time too. She love you, you just need to fit in. Find a way to get there.

Well that's my beliefs. The young blow thru the best years of their lives so fast cause they're so busy.
You won't be swallowing your pride; you will be adding love there.

Our kids are really busy getting their Sr. Class ready to Graduate, Taking them to NYC to witness the Musical stuff and other.
we get to see them the weekend of the 19 - 20. I don't want to go to NYC. No way. Kids need it though.
 
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