Neighbors who take advantage.

Oldeagle66

Oldeagle66

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I don't mind helping neighbors who need help occasionally, but I have a few who ask for things because they don't want to do things themselves or just lazy.
Like the ones asking other neighbors to go to the store because they aren't dressed yet. And ones asking to do favors just because they don't feel like it themselves.

That's my rant for today

Does it ever happen to you?

How do you handle it?
 

I don't get too involved with neighbors. I have one neighbor who will offer to do something for people with the intent of getting much more in return further down the line. If I need something done, I do it myself. If I can't, I call a company.
 

My upstairs neighbor-like his friend he took the place of, brings in my mail & puts it in the plastic bag I have hanging on the doorknob of the door to my apartment. We both chose to have our pkgs. delivered to my small back porch--less apt to be stollen from there. I bring in pkgs of his and put them on the stairs to his apartment. My only gripe with him is that when his recycle bin is full, he uses mine & leaves me little room for my recyclables. I'm thinking of putting mine in his ........😁
 
Oldeagle66 said:
I don't mind helping neighbors who need help occasionally, but I have a few who ask for things because they don't want to do things themselves or just lazy.
Like the ones asking other neighbors to go to the store because they aren't dressed yet. And ones asking to do favors just because they don't feel like it themselves.

That's my rant for today

Does it ever happen to you?

How do you handle it?
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Oh wow, I've never known anyone like that...fancy asking soomeone to do something for you cuz you're not dressed yet.. what a darn cheek...

I know all of my neighbours by name.. we chat and that's about it.. if I really needed something they would get it or do it for me.. but I've never asked, and they've never asked me...

My next door neighbours who share a wall with me.. they're the ones who've been sending food around since I got poorly and had to be in the hospital, and they've continued whenever they have a BBQ.. they send a plate around.. however they're not English... none of my English neighbours have ever done that..



When I lived in Royal navy married quarters, in one place there was a woman who had a bunch of kids.. her husband was the only one who was shore based out of all of our husbands. who were all at sea for weeks and months at a time...yet she would never go and buy food for this man's dinner... instead she would send one or two of her kids, to ask for items for his dinner. Someone would come to my door and ask for eggs, another neighbour would be asked for sausages, another for potatoes, another for cigarettes... it was an incredible cheek !
 
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What was wrong with her "man" that he couldn't provide? It could have been a humiliating thing to have her children do. Hmm, wonder what their problem was?
 
Ohhhh, I now see the problem. Good grief, how miserable a life living with/be stuck with a self-centered (apparently selfish) wife/mother.
 
No big problems with my neighbors. There is one I avoid, because I am incapable of seeing her always 100% correct point of view. Isn’t there a verse in the New Testament that says something like “ identify those who stir up trouble and avoid them”.
 
I've one neighbor who always gloms onto any handyman for
the yard that I hire for MY yard....he invariably will come over
and talk the guy into doing work on his grounds...lady on other
side tho is polite, has helped me when I've fallen outside, bring
me cookies too LOL...
 
For the young low income couple who once lived upstairs I offered a fresh box of powdered milk to feed their little puppy. The wife took offense at being offered this simple offer. In time, the grown dog injured itself and a vet said he'd never seen a dog with such weak bones. Hmmm? When I learned from the husband something about the high cost of plastic diapers for their baby, I said using reusable cloth diapers could help them save money, and again she apparently took it as me being (nosy-ha) insulting, or whatever. I really did and do feel maybe I should have let those things go, none of my business.......oh well. :-(
 
I just remembered: when I noticed the elder husband of a nextdoor house had not been trimming his hedges next to this house, I got some hedge clippers and regularly took on the job, without asking if he minded. Well one day, when I was about finished, he came up to me holding out and envelope of money. I said no to taking it, but I could tell he needed me to accept it as thanks. So I did. Later years a couple of guys bought the house, did not trim the hedges until they got too high for me to trim. No "thankyou", nothing. The hedges grew so high their branches scraped the side of this house. I'd break off those branches. Eventually they were all cut down to stumps.
 
Oldeagle66 said:
I don't mind helping neighbors who need help occasionally, but I have a few who ask for things because they don't want to do things themselves or just lazy.
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I'm on several free groups and people are asking for food or such things and they want it delivered and it's like are you kidding this is if you want to get rid of stuff not get rid of money.

And I'm pretty sure that if you don't go to the fast food joint (which is usually what they want) they will throw away your food in the off chance that someone will bring something better.
 
I've helped my neighbors in the past by bringing in their garbage cans. And, in turn they've made me food when I've been too ill to cook for myself. Or, if my neighbor next door helps me with something, I'll make him dinner or make him chocolate pudding w/coconut on top, which he loves. I always will reciprocate for any help given.
 
Me and a neighbor's kid have a deal - he stops by whenever he walks to the grocery store on the corner, about 3 blocks from my house, and asks me if I need anything from there. If I do, I give him my debit card and a short list, and he gets to buy himself something with my card. (he knows the PIN)

Jai'ron only stops by when he's hankering for a snack and a soda or whatever, but fair enough, right? Sometimes I need something and sometimes I don't, and that's fair enough with him.

I know it sounds nuts, but he's never gone over the $10 limit I imposed, and he always brings my card back, along with my purchases. I'm only a casual friend of his dad...we chat whenever we happen to see each other outside...but the kid is 16 and bigger than his dad. And anyway, he could just say he lost my card or that I forgot to give it to him...hell, he could call an Uber and go to town with it, but he never has.

I'm the one who started this thing, about a year ago. He was walking past my house when I was out watering the lawn, and I said "Hey! You're Jai'ron, right?" and I asked him if he was going up to the store. He said he was, and I said "If I give you my card, would you mind picking up a few things for me?" and he said "Sure."

I told him what I needed, gave him my card and told him the PIN, and then I said he could buy himself something as payment, but to keep it under 10 bucks. If he hadn't come back within 45 minutes, I'd have called my bank to block the card. To me, that wasn't a big deal...it was worth finding out what kind of kid Jai'ron is.

He was back in about 20 minutes with my card, my bag of stuff, the receipt, and a Thank You. He'd put $8 on my card for himself. He's been stopping by a couple times a month ever since.
 
Murrmurr said:
Me and a neighbor's kid have a deal - he stops by whenever he walks to the grocery store on the corner, about 3 blocks from my house, and asks me if I need anything from there. If I do, I give him my debit card and a short list, and he gets to buy himself something with my card. (he knows the PIN)

Jai'ron only stops by when he's hankering for a snack and a soda or whatever, but fair enough, right? Sometimes I need something and sometimes I don't, and that's fair enough with him.

I know it sounds nuts, but he's never gone over the $10 limit I imposed, and he always brings my card back, along with my purchases. I'm only a casual friend of his dad...we chat whenever we happen to see each other outside...but the kid is 16 and bigger than his dad. And anyway, he could just say he lost my card or that I forgot to give it to him...hell, he could call an Uber and go to town with it, but he never has.

I'm the one who started this thing, about a year ago. He was walking past my house when I was out watering the lawn, and I said "Hey! You're Jai'ron, right?" and I asked him if he was going up to the store. He said he was, and I said "If I give you my card, would you mind picking up a few things for me?" and he said "Sure."

I told him what I needed, gave him my card and told him the PIN, and then I said he could buy himself something as payment, but to keep it under 10 bucks. If he hadn't come back within 45 minutes, I'd have called my bank to block the card. To me, that wasn't a big deal...it was worth finding out what kind of kid Jai'ron is.

He was back in about 20 minutes with my card, my bag of stuff, the receipt, and a Thank You. He'd put $8 on my card for himself. He's been stopping by a couple times a month ever since.
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Frank, why did you need to give him the Pin?.. here in the UK everything under £100 is contactless...
 
Murrmurr said:
Contactless....you mean by using the tap feature?

I don't like using those, but that's neither here nor there; I wanted to find out if I could trust Jai-ron.
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yes I understand...... I don't think the USA has the contactless as a regular feature as we do in the Uk and Europe...
 

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