Neighbours......Good or bad.

MickaC

MickaC

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Manitoba, Canada
This one goes under " bad "
Neighbour on the south side of me.....will never speak....
They have a little dog, cute as a button.....but she does do a barking episode if i'm near the fence....she doesn't really have a bark.....more of a screech.
I've never said anything, for the fact, i'm trying to train Noah and Micki not to bark with her and not to run the fence, it's a challenge since they don't try to stop her......i feel sorry for her, because they never seem to play with her or give her much attention.
Anyway, to make a long story longer....
Theses same people got a cat at Christmas.....never saw it outside.....thought maybe good....a house cat.....any time it got outside they sent it back in the house.
So.....weather got nice.....guess what's outside......now it's coming into my backyard.....two nites ago when i let my guys out for their nite jobs.....it was here....and the chase began....put my guys back in.....was able to catch it and took it back to the owners......i was trying to be polite, and asked if they could keep it in their own yard.....i have a fence to keep my guys in and keep others out.....didn't get a very good answer.....so i said, if my guys go after it hard, i'm not responsible for what happens.....why did i even bother.
Guess what was in the backyard again tonite when i let the guys out for their jobs....circus time again.
Neighbour had their outside lights off, so i waited outside till they opened their door to let their dog in and the cat in which was in my yard, i asked him to go to my back gate and call it, he never came.
Waited for a while, let my guys out again, to do their jobs because they were to busy chasing the cat around......I'm not a happy camper.
I have nothing against cats, i've had them for a good part of my life....try and keep your animals in one's own yard.

These same neighbours, last spring, started piling more stuff against the fence between us......they did not pay for half of the fence between us......went and asked him is this stuff could be moved away from the fence, because i mentioned i would like to stain the fence through the summer.
His answer was...there's lots of room....was only a couple of inches in some places.....but still a lot leaning right against the fence......i walked away.
Some NEIGHBOURS, so much fun.
 

We’ve been really fortunate to have great neighbours. We rarely see them or hear them. We all mind our own business. We all have 2 dogs and nobody leaves their dogs out barking.
Nobody has loud noisy parties or lots of people over. It’s respectfully quiet but I’m sorry you are needing to deal with this.
 
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Becky1951 said:
If the cat can get into your fenced yard it can get itself out again and will do so after being chased out by your dogs. It will eventually stop coming in your yard, but not as long as you keep rescuing it and taking it back.
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I was able to catch it the first time, but not since.
You're right, i don't want to take it back to it's yard all the time.
 
horseless carriage said:
Micka, try to find out if the cat is getting through the fence or leaping over it. Hopefully it's found a way through rather than over. Spices like curry, cinnamon and pepper sprinkled on the cat's point of entry will ward it off.
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I would rather not use those spices, because mine would get to it....
I know where it's getting in.....several spots under the fence boards.....and jumping from the top of their junk leaning against the fence.....i'll see how long this persists, i may ask them to run boards across the bottom of the fence on their side.....i don't want to do it on my side....it would look terrible..... this idea might just be a pipe dream......and there's the top of the fence ???????
We'll see what happens.
 
We currently have two types of neighbors: those who are friends and those we don't know well yet. We chat often, keep an eye on each others' property, share produce from our gardens, give one another a hand when needed, and (before covid) visited each others' homes. It seems to me that rural folks tend to be a bit friendlier than those living closer together.

That said, in our former neighborhood, with 1/2-1/4 acre lots, we knew and got along well with almost everyone. Admittedly, there was this one (big city) family that moved in next door and got off to a rather bad start but within a few months we developed a sociable relationship.

I believe the keys are trying to be honestly interested in the other person, being patient, being tolerant, and most of all making a serious effort to be friendly. The old adage "if you want to have a friend, be a friend" applies.
 
Tommy said:
We currently have two types of neighbors: those who are friends and those we don't know well yet. We chat often, keep an eye on each others' property, share produce from our gardens, give one another a hand when needed, and (before covid) visited each others' homes. It seems to me that rural folks tend to be a bit friendlier than those living closer together.

That said, in our former neighborhood, with 1/2-1/4 acre lots, we knew and got along well with almost everyone. Admittedly, there was this one (big city) family that moved in next door and got off to a rather bad start but within a few months we developed a sociable relationship.

I believe the keys are trying to be honestly interested in the other person, being patient, being tolerant, and most of all making a serious effort to be friendly. The old adage "if you want to have a friend, be a friend" applies.
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Been there....done that with these ones on the south side of me.....too bad, sad.....they're not interested.
 
This is definitely not a tactic I would advocate, but it was funny at the time. It happened when I was still a boy growing up. Our kitten was too young to be spayed, we had to wait until she was old enough, but she was certainly old enough for a horny old tom cat that just wouldn't be driven away. Not water, not shushing with clapped hands only chasing him got rid of him but he was soon back.

Then my ten-year-old brother hit on an idea. He put some small scraps of chicken down as bait, it worked, he caught the cat. He then, I can remember this so vividly, he then slapped mustard on the cat's rump. That cat took off like Lucifer was after him, he cleared the seven feet wall with touching the parapet. My brother and I were buckled up laughing. Wicked little boys, but the tom never came back.
 
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Life is too short and too stressful to worry about the neighbors.

Try to let the pets work it out and stain the side of the fence that you see every day.

There are nine apartments, including my own, in the little section of a 200+ apartment complex where I live.

In the 12 years that I've been here, there have only been a couple of odd/annoying neighbors in my section. The good news is that the more annoying the tenant the sooner they seem to leave or perhaps are encouraged to leave by management.

Good luck!
 
I have great neighbors. We've all been here for awhile...30, 40 50 yrs. We watch out for each other.

I do have new neighbors behind me, with a little dog that has been barking at me as soon as I step out to my back yard, but the new neighbors have been very respectful in not allowing it. Telling Lucy she's going inside if she continues to bark.

But, i say 'hello' to the dog when I'm out there. Trying to make friends.
 
I have had my share of bad neighbors and it usually involves leaving dogs out to bark all night or letting dogs run loose. I try to be friendly to my neighbors but some just don't want to be friendly.

Right now my most annoying neighbor is the woman across the street who is just weird although friendly (unfortunately). She was walking around the other day with her pillow asking people to smell and feel it. I told her no but did ask why. She said it had static and smelled funny but she said her husband didn't believe her. She has done other odd things. She is in her mid-sixties so I thought she might have dementia but I talked to the people who used to live here and they said she was like that 20 years ago and they called her Fruit Loops.
 
Jeweltea said:
I have had my share of bad neighbors and it usually involves leaving dogs out to bark all night or letting dogs run loose. I try to be friendly to my neighbors but some just don't want to be friendly.

Right now my most annoying neighbor is the woman across the street who is just weird although friendly (unfortunately). She was walking around the other day with her pillow asking people to smell and feel it. I told her no but did ask why. She said it had static and smelled funny but she said her husband didn't believe her. She has done other odd things. She is in her mid-sixties so I thought she might have dementia but I talked to the people who used to live here and they said she was like that 20 years ago and they called her Fruit Loops.
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Not smart. If she possibly had the virus and of course sleeping on her pillow???
And other smelling her pillow? Yikes!
 
My current neighbours on both sides are OK. We rarely see each other and have little in common.
The previous neighbours on the north side were odd. They had a small rear garden which could have been nice, but they never used it. Then I started to build a summerhouse in my garden and they complained that it would spoil their view. The woman even started to photograph me working at it, and I suspect that she complained to the local council, but there was nothing they could do.

In the end I showed them approved plans I had for a small house on my land, and suggested that I might build that instead. That shut them up.
 
I've pretty much had the same near neighbours that I've had for the 41 years I've had this house, I know them all very well, watched their children have children etc ... except the very next door, which is owned by someone who has never lived there, and he rents it out, so we have transient neighbours.

Some of them have been horrible. some became good friends even after they left , and lately he's been renting to pleasant, but very noisy families, currently a family with 2 children who scream at the top of their lungs, for no reason other than playing.. I swear if those children were in trouble no-one would take notice because we're all so used to their blood curdling screams, and the parents feel it's quite acceptable to have noisy friends around in the garden until 3am...... we rarely speak to each other except to pass the time of day...
 

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