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I'm recently widowed, have no one close. Hope to make new friends in same situation. I do have 2 sm. dogs.

They are what keeps me going.
 

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Thanks to everyone. I'm in NY State. I'd like move someplace warmer. I like Texas, my daughter lives in
Austin. It's to hot for me. Only visit in the winter. Maybe go to Florida. Open to suggestions. No reason to stay here.
I will tryto post once in awhile.
 
bkwrm1545 said:
Thanks to everyone. I'm in NY State. I'd like move someplace warmer. I like Texas, my daughter lives in
Austin. It's to hot for me. Only visit in the winter. Maybe go to Florida. Open to suggestions. No reason to stay here.
I will tryto post once in awhile.
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I spent most of my life in NYS. Winter weather finally got to me. We still spend summers in a campground on Oneida Lake in Sylvan Beach, NY.
 
I should do that. Get a small camper for me and the dogs. Then stay in Florida or or some other warm place in the winter. Thanks, Pappy. I
 
Welcome from CA bkwrm!! This is a great forum, lots of great folks. I am sorry for your loss and I can understand your loneliness. I lost the love of my life and partner of 15 years in 2003. It took about 3 years after Mike died before I began to feel whole again. It was a difficult journey with lots of soul searching for me to figure out my identity as an individual, and not someone's life partner. I think what helped me is that I've always been a very independent person with a lot of courage (or perhaps blind faith!), and you sound like the same kind of person.

I grew up loving the great outdoors and road trips, and bought my first camper when I was just 17 years old. I have never been without a way to go camping or on road trips. When Mike first passed, the memories in this house were overwhelming and sometimes just too painful to deal with. All I could think about was selling the house and relocating to start fresh....I just had no idea where I was going to go!!

Fortunately I had some wise friends (and the help of grief counseling) that convinced me not to make any serious decisions for at least 6 months. By 2006 when the real estate market was booming, I felt emotionally healthy enough to try and sell the house. I had my sights set on the mountains of New Mexico (Ruidoso or Cloudcroft). Beautiful country and much more affordable than Santa Fe or Taos!! Much like my beloved Lake Tahoe but with less snow. As fate would have it, my house did not sell and I haven't tried again since then. HOWEVER, now that I am living on Social Security, a small pension, and a meager part-time income, the mortgage has become quite a burden. I knew when I semi-retired almost 2 years ago that at some point the house would have to go. But I was okay with that fact.

Pappy's suggestion, and your response, struck a chord with me. I am slowly getting rid of and letting go of stuff that I've been dragging around for far too many years, with the thought of putting my house on the market next spring. New Mexico is still calling to me, but I also love parts of Oregon, and I have two close friends in Tucson AZ. (But like you, I can't tolerate heat!). I frequent Realtor.com, looking at affordable properties in various places. All my life, the best things have just fallen into place for me so I keep hoping for that blessing again.

At this stage in my life I can't afford to make a poor decision and invest in a home (hopefully where I will live out my life) in a place that doesn't make me happy. I am coming to the conclusion that my best option might be to purchase a manageable sized motor home, pack up my 5 dogs (yes 5!), and just travel around for a while. (I have a nice Lance cabover camper, but after a week of traveling it gets pretty cramped feeling with all the dogs etc,). I want to visit (or visit again) a few places that interest me and see if any of them "speak" to me. I know at some point I will want a home base. I also have to be realistic about my financial ability to accomplish all this!

Long story short, I think it may be a wonderful idea for you to purchase a camper and go exploring. Especially if you are not tied down by home ownership. It seems that Florida is a popular retirement spot for many folks, but personally I would not like the humidity, the bugs, and the risk of hurricanes. Please consider exploring the western part of the U.S. if you haven't before. There are many beautiful places that would be a reasonable distance to your daughter in Austin. Best wishes to you, and please keep in touch with us here on the forum.
 
bkwrm1545 said:
Thanks to everyone. I'm in NY State. I'd like move someplace warmer. I like Texas, my daughter lives in
Austin. It's to hot for me. Only visit in the winter. Maybe go to Florida. Open to suggestions. No reason to stay here.
I will tryto post once in awhile.
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There is a empty apartment in my complex.
 

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