Newly widowed and trying to move on alone

[Blessed]

I like @Bonnie met my husband in school at the age of fifteen,engaged at 18, married at 20. Straight from my childhood home to being a wife. I loved that boy/man since the moment I met him. He was sick with cancer for the last five years of his life and died at 51. I was prepared, I knew it was coming but that did not stop the total breakdown of my life. I still, soon to be twelve years later, have not recovered to be a complete person. You know what, that is okay, I do keep going, doing what needs to be done. I don't have the joy in my life that I once had but that is okay too. I tell you this so you know it is okay to feel the way you feel. No one knows how hard it is, I don't talk about it anymore because I know they will not get it, it is just another fact of life. I accept that and just try to live my best life. Do what makes you happy now!!!

 

[JustBonee]

I like @Bonnie met my husband in school at the age of fifteen,engaged at 18, married at 20. Straight from my childhood home to being a wife. I loved that boy/man since the moment I met him. He was sick with cancer for the last five years of his life and died at 51. I was prepared, I knew it was coming but that did not stop the total breakdown of my life. I still, soon to be twelve years later, have not recovered to be a complete person. You know what, that is okay, I do keep going, doing what needs to be done. I don't have the joy in my life that I once had but that is okay too. I tell you this so you know it is okay to feel the way you feel. No one knows how hard it is, I don't talk about it anymore because I know they will not get it, it is just another fact of life. I accept that and just try to live my best life. Do what makes you happy now!!!

My life also ... you could not have said it any better @Blessed ... I do "get it", since my story is so very similar.
Soon to be 11 years for me.

 

[Patricia]

I'm sorry for your loss Shirley. It does sound like quite a change. I've never been married but used to live with my mom and daughter and had lots of animals, but over the years it all changed, my mom died, my daughter grew up and moved out, and all the animals died until there only remained me and a cat. Then I retired and decided to sell everything and travel in a nomadic way. So I started doing that last Friday. Not recommending it but maybe you would like now to move someplace else and do something you always wanted to do?

There can be a feeling that staying on the move might be helpful.

 

[Patricia]

I am so sorry for your loss. I am not widowed so I can't speak from experience. I live alone after leaving my marriage four years ago. I know from other people who have lost a spouse that what helps a bit is finding some kind of new interest. As others have said, a pet helps.

I miss having a pet. Thinking about travel causes hesitation.