Newly widowed and trying to move on

[Shirleymc]

My husband passed away unexpectedly and it was quite a shock. It is so quiet here. I hope there are other's that have experienced losing a loved one that can relate. It is so quiet in the house, I don't quite know what to do with myself. At 73 I really don't go a lot and I don't have a lot of people to talk to.

 

[Ruthanne]

I'm sorry to hear of your husband's passing. There are many here who have lost a spouse. I lost mine a very long time ago but know how hard it can be and is.

Welcome to Senior Forums. Lots of nice, friendly people here to chat with at any hour of the day.

 

[Pinky]

Welcome to the forum, Shirley. There are others here who can relate to what you are feeling. Everyone here is friendly, and there are lots of topics to share an opinion on .. or not. This is an international forum, which makes it interesting. Where do you live? I'm in Toronto, Canada.

 

[hollydolly]

Hey Shirley, so sorry you lost your dear husband so suddenly it must have been a terrible shock.

Altho' my husband didn't die, I lost him too a few months ago just as suddenly when our marriage broke up after 21 years... the silence here is palpable ... there are a few people here who are widowed too so you're not alone...

Please come and join with us, don't be lonely.. without my friends on this forum.. I would have been a basket case... so grab a drink sit down, and make some buddies..

 

[Tish]

@Shirleymc, My deepest condolences.
My husband passed away very unexpectedly too, it took some time for me to get used to it, all I can say is that day by day it gets easier, yes I still miss him, but life goes on.

 

[Bella]

Hi Shirley,

I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband. I unexpectedly lost my husband, too. The quiet can drive you crazy. I'm glad you found us, so you won't feel so all alone. It's an active forum and there are nice friendly people here that you can “talk” to. I don't have any great advice other than to hang in there as good as you can. Hang out with us, and we'll do what we can to ease the pain for you. Starting with a {{{{BIG HUG}}} from me.

Bella

 

[Shirleymc]

Thank you.

 

[Shirleymc]

Welcome to the forum, Shirley. There are others here who can relate to what you are feeling. Everyone here is friendly, and there are lots of topics to share an opinion on .. or not. This is an international forum, which makes it interesting. Where do you live? I'm in Toronto, Canada.

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I am in Nampa, Idaho

 

[Shirleymc]

Hi Shirley,

I'm so sorry about the loss of your husband. I unexpectedly lost my husband, too. The quiet can drive you crazy. I'm glad you found us, so you won't feel so all alone. It's an active forum and there are nice friendly people here that you can “talk” to. I don't have any great advice other than to hang in there as good as you can. Hang out with us, and we'll do what we can to ease the pain for you. Starting with a {{{{BIG HUG}}} from me.

Bella

Thank you.

 

[Blessed]

I am also a widow. My husband passed 11 years ago. I knew it was going to happen but even then, you are not prepared to navigate the feelings after. I will say for me, I am not over it, I don't think I ever will be. I do not cry everyday but I do think of him many times everyday. The pain, the shock, I was just numb for a couple of years. Don't worry or beat yourself up at any point, you will find some peace, you will find things to keep you busy and make you smile. Just take it a day at a time and try new things, meet new people, make a different life as an I, you can't replace the "we" but you can make the "I" count.

 

[Kaila]

Hi, Shirley, and a warm welcome from me, as well.
Many of us have gone through varying difficult times, and have found this forum and the supportive people here, very helpful,
and good company during some of the quiet, lonely times.
I hope you will interact with us, and we can get to know each other.

 

[bowmore]

My deepest condolences on your loss. Both my wife and I lost our spouses, so we sort of know what you are going through. There is a site called widowed village that may help you deal with your loss. Here is the link for newly widowed:
https://widowedvillage.org/time-widowed/newly-widowed/

 

[Mizmo]

Hello Shirley...Condolences
.....but you have come to the right spot .

 

[Alligatorob]

Hey @Shirleymc so sorry to hear of your loss. It has to be hard.

You will find friendly people and a sympatric ear here, perhaps that will be of some help. I hope so.

Looking forward to getting to know you.


Rob

 

[Jackie23]

Hi Shirley, yes I can relate to your situation as I lost my husband unexpectedly in 2011, it is hard to adjust but as others have said, life goes on and day by day you'll get better.
We are all glad you are here and look forward to getting to know you, many hugs and best wishes for you.

 

[UncleVinny]

Sorry to hear of your loss Shirley. I'll be your waaaaaay north neighbor soon as I will be moving to Hayden Idaho. My #2 son, wife and 2 grandsons are poking, prodding, and booting me in the buttocks to make the move. So I will.

All my kids and their kids live out of state, and so there is nothing keeping me here, as I am The Last of my immediate family still in CA, or still above ground...

I will drop a few prayers for your successful adjustment.

U.V.

 

[Jules]

A big welcome, @Shirleymc

 

[RadishRose]

 

[hawkdon]

Welcome Shirley......I too lost my wife, 6yrs now, wow, it
was so sudden after her sickeness started, I was no way
prepared for it...but it goes that way at times....come on
in and take things one day at a time.....don

 

[oldpop]

 

[dobielvr]

Welcome Shirley.
Glad you found us.

 

[PamfromTx]

Welcome to the forum. I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your husband. Hoping that you will enjoy being part of this forum. We welcome you with open arms.

 

[Llynn]

Sorry for your loss. You have found a good site for support. Really good people here.

 

[MickaC]

@Shirleymc BIG HI. Very sorry for your loss. You will find a lot of support, sharing, caring,and friendship here. many going through the same as yourself, it's never easy. Please feel at home and ENJOY.....I'm sure SF will help ease your loneliness.

 

[StillLearning]

Welcome Shirley!
I don’t post much but I have found a lot of laughter and words of wisdom from Senior Forum.
Welcome from Minnesota!