Nice People: It Must Be Said But Saying It Won't Help

I liked that video. I listened to every bit of it. I hope I didn't miss the point, but I don't think so.

Watching it reminded me of my wife. She would do just about anything to avoid conflict, short of sacrificing her own beliefs or principles. She had an unusual ability to politely let the other party know when she was not in agreement with them, but she could do it through expression and eye contact, without saying one word or losing her smile. She felt no need to win any argument, but that doesn't mean she conceded either.

My father loved an argument. He and I had some bad ones. BUT - he never succeeded in dragging my wife into any argument, even though he gave his all trying. She had a way of quietly dismissing him and moving on to something else to talk about.

She did not "end up being alone." My father, on the other hand did. All our extended family avoided him, because they knew he was probably going to start an argument at a dinner or gathering.

Somewhere along in the middle of the video, it suggested that people such as my wife might be considered "aloof." They might, but that's okay - maybe she revealed her inner strength that way. She was a wonderful peace-keeper in our family, and she won out in the long run.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
I liked that video. I listened to every bit of it. I hope I didn't miss the point, but I don't think so.

Watching it reminded me of my wife. She would do just about anything to avoid conflict, short of sacrificing her own beliefs or principles. She had an unusual ability to politely let the other party know when she was not in agreement with them, but she could do it through expression and eye contact, without saying one word or losing her smile. She felt no need to win any argument, but that doesn't mean she conceded either.

My father loved an argument. He and I had some bad ones. BUT - he never succeeded in dragging my wife into any argument, even though he gave his all trying. She had a way of quietly dismissing him and moving on to something else to talk about.

She did not "end up being alone." My father, on the other hand did. All our extended family avoided him, because they knew he was probably going to start an argument at a dinner or gathering.

Somewhere along in the middle of the video, it suggested that people such as my wife might be considered "aloof." They might, but that's okay - maybe she revealed her inner strength that way. She was a wonderful peace-keeper in our family, and she won out in the long run.
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A heart-warming response, Mack. (y)
 
In my experience, truly nice people almost never end up alone. They may not have spouses toward the end, but their strong relationships with neighbors, friends and relatives usually provide plenty of company.

No, I didn't watch the three videos that combine for 71 minutes; went by the titles.

Free advice: provide summaries of videos if you want to use them to open a discussion. Few here have the time or inclination to watch long random YouTube videos.
 
Looking at the pic of the first video, I thought, this guy looks like Hannibal Lecter in this well known movie. Then I move on in the thread and read "Motivational Speech by Anthony Hopkins". :ROFLMAO:
I didn't even know that he does motivational speeches.
 
StarSong said:
In my experience, truly nice people almost never end up alone. They may not have spouses toward the end, but their strong relationships with neighbors, friends and relatives usually provide plenty of company.
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Then you didn't understand the message in the video.
StarSong said:
No, I didn't watch the three videos that combine for 71 minutes; went by the titles.
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Then you couldn't have understood the message in the video.
StarSong said:
Free advice: provide summaries of videos
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I did.
StarSong said:
if you want to use them to open a discussion.
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Not my intention.
StarSong said:
Few here have the time or inclination to watch long random YouTube videos.
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Then few will watch it. This thread is in the mental health section. This thread is not a tablett.
 
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Nice guys are just boring for some, if not even most females. In reality as in fiction. Look at the musical "The Phantom of the Opera". Two decades ago I asked in a forum, if the female members would prefer the Phantom or the count Raoul de Chagny. The majority chose the Phantom.

But decide by yourself (Movie version from 2004):



The comment to the first YouTube video clip with Gerard Butler as the Phantom "12 years later and I still find him incredibly attractive..." got 2200 likes.
 
StarSong said:
Free advice: provide summaries of videos if you want to use them to open a discussion. Few here have the time or inclination to watch long random YouTube videos.
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Inept said:
I did.
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Your definition of summary and mine clearly differ. You said, "Why do nice people always end up being alone? Here are some thoughts on the subject:" and posted the video.
 
For the “nice” guys who are tired of being nice losers, I recommend the book No More Mr. Nice Guy. The ladies in your life will appreciate their much improved man.

Losing the Nice Guy mentality does not mean becoming a selfish jerk. Rather it means being true to who you are while respecting and loving the women in your life.
 

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