Not a question, nothing exciting, just a general struggle and a wish

@Blessed I'm sorry your feeling poorly. When life gets like that for me, and it is right now, I try to take baby steps and reward myself for anything I do. I also try taking one day at a time, I know we've all heard ODAAT so much but it really does help me. I just try to get through each day. Lack of sleep can really make a person feel awful. I get sleep meds from my doctor. I've finally been sleeping somewhat better--I've had sleeping problems forever it seems.

I try to make a list of the things I need and want to do then aim to do them. Sometimes it takes me quite some time to get the list done but checking just one thing off feels so good--means I've accomplished something. I truly hope things start to improve for you.

If you were here I'd give you a hug and tell you it's going to be alright. You will feel better.🐶🐱🐼🙉🐸💥🌹🍰🍕❣️
 
@Blessed , I agree, water is so healing. When I lived in the country as a child, I remember there was a pond tucked into nature just off a rarely traveled dirt road. My sister called it "Walden's Pond" and she would go there, sit on a tree log next to the pond and read.

In the second chapter of Henry David Thoreau's "Walden's Pond" there is a well-penned poignant piece by him. It starts...

"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately. To front only the essential facts of life and see if I could learn what it had to teach, and not when I came to die and to discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practice resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck out all of the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner and to reduce it to it's lowest terms..."
 
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As you can see from all the responses to your post you are not alone. I think you made a big step in the right direction by expressing your thoughts and feelings.
Although I love were I live I am pretty much stuck here because of vision issues. Sometimes when I get down in the dumps I head over to Google Earth. I can take a trip and never leave the house using street view. It is almost like being there. I have walked all over Thailand, Ireland, Scotland, the Shetland Islands, Greenland, Australia, New Zealand and Canada to name a few places. It takes me to places I will never really be able to visit. Lets me experience other cultures.The world is really a beautiful place not like the media presents it.
 
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I send you each a hug and a thank you, just being heard, knowing kindness helps so much!
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As someone who has had bouts of depression, here's one of the most unfortunate aspects of it, any advice anyone might give us is always going to be hard to take.

If it made you laugh I could say "one of the most depressing aspects of depression is advice depresses you", (or at least it did me, and most would probably acknowledge how hard it can be to take advice with any kind of problem).

What makes any of us well, or feel better can be, (or seem), unfathomable, and I have that on good authority believe me. The mental health staff assisting me seven years ago, when my life came back together, asked me what I thought had lead to the improvement?

We have to conclude therefore that if they don't know, no one really knows, as they're the professionals aren't they who had done as much as possible to try to help me! There was just one thing both they and I believed had no negative sides to it, (my learning my daughter had given birth to a son a few months earlier), but even this news, good as it was, could only have been a part of it.

The encouragement I received from someone who was almost a stranger, who repeatedly gave me simple positive messages like: " keep going Graham", when he saw any improvement in me, played a big part too!

Why did it help that he was a near stranger, (or almost a stranger, as the son of someone who rented my fathers land) you might wonder?
Silly as it sounds, because I knew when he tried to encourage me, or give me simple positive messages, "he wasn't just saying that because it was the right thing to say", (if you see what I mean?).

Anything else I say, (and you already know how long winded I can be), will amount to my falling into the trap of advising you, "so you'll have to do without my advice m'girl"!!!! :)
 
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I can only add my concern and understanding (having battled depression since age 11). Therapy is good, so is finding things that lift your spirits, even if temporarily, after all even meds wear-off.

Know there are many people you've never met in person who care about you, who will be here with emotional support and with practical info should you get to the point of at least checking out the possibility of moving to a location you feel would suit you better.

Several of us have multiple moves behind us, and the internet makes it so much easier to gather the info to make a final choice and to arrange the details. But one step at a time, and everything seems more 'doable' when you feel less anxious, depressed. Posting this, just getting said 'aloud' as it were and seeing how much support you have has hopefully helped te state if your mind and emotions. 💗
 

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