Not sure about new friend who insulted me a long time ago

hollydolly said:
No what nonsense... what friend is gonna bail you out of jail regardless of the time of day...only a Rich one. and even then they're likely to be just an aquaintance .... the only ones paying to get you out of jail is your family..
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I don't want to go to jail! I've avoided it for 75 years! And twice I was lucky, almost got caught up in a sweep of anti war protesters!
My own recognizance! Or I rot! I'm too pretty for jail! o_O :ROFLMAO:
 
Pepper said:
I don't want to go to jail! I've avoided it for 75 years! And twice I was lucky, almost got caught up in a sweep of anti war protesters!
My own recognizance! Or I rot! I'm too pretty for jail! o_O :ROFLMAO:
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I've been in jail once, spent the night in the cells... they took my belt off me and my laces out of my shoes... so my trousers wouldn't stay up, and I was shuffling along trying to keep my shoes on..

The cell was freezing cold, they gave me one thin blanket.. the cell was tiny and ancient, The bed was a lump of stone.. I was alone, the walls were cold tiles... ...like this...
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and the police gave me a Huge corned beef sandwich , and a cuppa tea in a big plastic mug at 5am for breakfast... I was 17... I'd got caught up in a melee, and the police had arrested everybody... my sister was in the next cell...

At 10am, without having a comb anywhere near our hair, with our trousers half up without a belt, looking like something dragged out of the drains, all of had to appear in front of the Judge taken up from the cells below the court...

It was all dismissed in the end ...
 
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Mizmo said:
Reading through some of these posts on the OP subject makes me feel that I am in a Teenage forum

Really, OP , with so many negatives in your posts re 'Friend' why are you even asking ...
.....so simple answer....cut her loose.
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again if I have read this correctly - OP and this other lady are both going to the same Senior Citizens centre (and they live in close proximity) - so she is going to run into her sometimes

She can't cut her loose - as in have no further contact.

I would keep my contact brief but polite and not have any contact outside of that
 
Inept said:
The OP knows there is a big possibility she is over-reacting. A silly little thing festering for more than 20 years? Come on. The OP brought the problem to our attention because she seeks our honest opinion. That's a good thing. We should praise her for that ..... not for intentionally snubbing someone from the past. So, tell her the truth and she'll probably appreciate it.
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Again, I feel that she was toxic at the time, as she had very, very strong, opinions and a holy roller on top of that. It was not just what she said to me, it was how she treated everyone in the van pool. We all disliked her. I was just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt the other day, but no, she is going to be the same as soon as I disagree with her about something. I just don't need sh.t in my life anymore, thank you very much.
 
C50 said:
Good chance she may contact you again so don't hesitate to be more direct. Last fall I ran across a guy I knew when we were teens, he was always an a-hole. He asked for my number so he could have me over for a cookout, I said "yeah, I don't really want to do that, but thanks for the offer".

At our age we don't have to play nice.
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Thank you C-50.
 
Aunt Bea said:
I agree with @January, leave it alone.

If the woman is as well connected at the senior center as you believe I don’t believe that it would be a good idea to engage with her.

I agree that her initial comment in a group setting was inappropriate but I doubt that she has any lasting memory of it or it’s impact on you.
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I agree people like that dont consider others. In situations like this I always do a cost/ benefit. :D
Will the satisfaction I get from giving Karen a verbal whack outweigh the benefits I might get.
Theres also the stink eye factor to consider. Once you poke her there will be frostiness and people may end up taking sides.
Especially if she plays the victim.
 
Inept said:
This is not true. "Wish you the best" is an outright agressive snub. I know it and you know it.
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I dont think so. It is ending on a genuine positive note - one can dislike another person or realise getting together was a bad idea and still wish them the best.

I agree with Veronica - the benifit of making some snippy remark or 'not playing nice' outweighs any benifit. Other people wont know or care about the back story and will just see you as being the aggressor.

Be polite but keep a distance.

Not for her benifit but for yourself.
 
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