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Pepper said:
I also wonder how he got your phone number?
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Meesh says he probably called his brother in Japan. I think that's the only way he could have gotten it unless it was in some old box of letters or something.
Pepper said:
What a story Frank!
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I just looked up bi-polar disorder to see if there are any external causes. There are: "bipolar disorder can have external causes, including environmental stressors, childhood trauma, and substance abuse, which may trigger or worsen symptoms."

Either that wasn't known back in the 80s or I didn't pay attention that day. 🤪

I think he's dangerous. I hope I can get ahold of somebody near him.

Great to see you...x
 
Frank, you said he was in IT. He’d know how to find your phone number. Maybe you could use one of those sites yourself to search for his brother and then use an app to call him.

Do you know any super smart IT folks that could help you. Good luck.
 
Jules said:
Frank, you said he was in IT. He’d know how to find your phone number. Maybe you could use one of those sites yourself to search for his brother and then use an app to call him.
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Good point.

Yeah, he worked for Intel for over a decade, then left to work for a software development company where he earned about $20K annual less but they promised rapid growth and a paycheck to match. That didn't happen, and Intel wouldn't take him back. I'm guessing that's when his downward spiral started.

I knew nothing about Jay getting into drugs. That blew my mind 100%. His father (my younger brother) struggled with addiction, and the crash that killed him was all about drugs. My bro was high, the driver was high, and they were on their way to get more drugs when they made a sharp, sudden lane-change toward a freeway exit-ramp they missed because they were high, and the car rolled onto the passenger-side where my brother sat, caught air and kept rolling.

The coroner said bro's window was down, and he probably died immediately when his head impacted the asphalt. His arm and half his face were sheered off. He was identified by a tattoo on his dismembered arm...a tattoo of the Lowenbrau brewery logo, a lion with 2 tails. The police dept published a photo of it in the local paper with a caption, "do you know this man?"

My dad saw it. He started screaming the most agonized "No! No! No!" I've ever heard while pounding a hole in the dining room wall.

Sorry about being graphic, but bro's kids were there that day, too. Point is, you'd think they'd totally avoid any kind of drugs for the rest of their lives after all that trauma. Jay started using just about all of them just about all at once, and in large quantities. And at about age 30. Just blows my mind.
Jules said:
Do you know any super smart IT folks that could help you. Good luck.
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My son's wife is exceptionally savvy. I'll ask her. Thanks.
 
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Today I walked unaided a total of 0.50 miles (2,640 feet) to make 2 round-trips to our neighborhood grocery store. I kind of stumbled twice during the first trip, and weaved a few times during the second, but I didn't fall, didn't step in the gutter, and didn't even pause.

0.50 miles doesn't sound like much, but several months ago I had to hold onto things just to get from my recliner to the back door 5 feet away, so it's a massive improvement.
 
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Last night I got a call from Jay's older brother, John. He lives in Okinawa. He said "I heard Jay called you. What did he say?"

I'm glad he called. I didn't have his number. Now I do. John's well aware of Jay's mental problems and his wacky delusions, and he confirmed my suspicion that Jay is volatile. "A walking time-bomb" he said, so we're totally on the same page and he's very worried and doesn't know what to do.

I suggested he contact Jay's PO. I tried to find out who it is but I couldn't find an arrest record or the name of the prison where Jay served time. John said he knows, and he definitely thought talking to the PO was a good idea. I told him to ask the PO if Jay is currently under the care of a psychiatrist or mental facility staff, and if not, to request he be assigned to one or the other. And I told him to keep following up to make sure he's getting treatment and being monitored. And if Jay hasn't even been assessed and diagnosed yet, that definitely has to happen ASAP.

I also told him Jay can call me anytime he wants, or anytime he can (he keeps losing his phone, apparently) just to talk or rant, and I'll do my best to keep him as calm and positive as possible.

John asked me, "Did he tell you he's the Messiah?" and I said Yeah. And John said he told Jay to stop talking crazy because no, he isn't, and to stop calling him and leave him alone. I explained that Jay really believes what he says so you can't reason with him but you shouldn't appease him either, and you def shouldn't tell him he's crazy. I told him if Jay keeps calling, don't be confrontational or insulting, stay neutral and calm, and just let him talk.

He'll try, he said. "If I can't do it, I'll tell him I have to go; I have things to do. I'll tell him to call you." :ROFLMAO:

Anyway, John is going to try to find out who Jay's PO is, and give him or her a call.
 
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