Frank, you said he was in IT. He’d know how to find your phone number. Maybe you could use one of those sites yourself to search for his brother and then use an app to call him.
Good point.
Yeah, he worked for Intel for over a decade, then left to work for a software development company where he earned about $20K annual less but they promised rapid growth and a paycheck to match. That didn't happen, and Intel wouldn't take him back. I'm guessing that's when his downward spiral started.
I knew nothing about Jay getting into drugs. That blew my mind 100%. His father (my younger brother) struggled with addiction, and the crash that killed him was all about drugs. My bro was high, the driver was high, and they were on their way to get more drugs when they made a sharp, sudden lane-change toward a freeway exit-ramp they missed because they were high, and the car rolled onto the passenger-side where my brother sat, caught air and kept rolling.
The coroner said bro's window was down, and he probably died immediately when his head impacted the asphalt. His arm and half his face were sheered off. He was identified by a tattoo on his dismembered arm...a tattoo of the Lowenbrau brewery logo, a lion with 2 tails. The police dept published a photo of it in the local paper with a caption, "do you know this man?"
My dad saw it. He started screaming the most agonized "No! No! No!" I've ever heard while pounding a hole in the dining room wall.
Sorry about being graphic, but bro's kids were there that day, too. Point is, you'd think they'd totally avoid any kind of drugs for the rest of their lives after all that trauma. Jay started using just about all of them just about all at once, and in large quantities. And at about age 30. Just blows my mind.
Do you know any super smart IT folks that could help you. Good luck.
My son's wife is exceptionally savvy. I'll ask her. Thanks.
