Noticing that people treat me different now that I am older.

RedSky4u

RedSky4u

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I noticed recently that when I go to the store or doctors office, that people treat me as a senior. I know that I am a senior, but I don't like being treated as one. Maybe it is the way I dress (very casual). Maybe it is the fact that I stopped wearing makeup recently.
What has your experience been?
 

They treat me differently because of my age. I get called “dear” a lot 🤮. People think they have to guide me with a “this way dear and their hand in the small of my back.” 🤮. And it’s ok hon. Or let me lead you to the bathroom, or wait here I’ll get it for you, or a million other demeaning things which indicate I am too old to chew gum and walk.

Hmm, the chew and walk thing-they might be right about that 😂
 
No, Aneeda, I meant they treat you as a disabled person, not necessarily as an old disabled person, although using this equipment causes people to act differently toward you.
 
Get as old as me and you become invisible. The only thing my daughter does about my medical care is drive me to appointments and pick up my meds but at a visit - when doctors talk about my care - they generally look at her instead of me.

I am 87 but my brain still works.
 
gennie said:
Get as old as me and you become invisible. The only thing my daughter does about my medical care is drive me to appointments and pick up my meds but at a visit - when doctors talk about my care - they generally look at her instead of me.

I am 87 but my brain still works.
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OH! That would be SO IRRITATING! I'd say something to the Doctor. "Hey, I'm over here!"
 
RedSky4u said:
I noticed recently that when I go to the store or doctors office, that people treat me as a senior. I know that I am a senior, but I don't like being treated as one. Maybe it is the way I dress (very casual). Maybe it is the fact that I stopped wearing makeup recently.
What has your experience been?
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You are in a depression. I can understand the dressing casual with no make up part. If you usually wear make up, people may be looking at you because you look different. Perhaps you look more pale and thinner than normal etc.

By the way, I’m sorry you are having so many side effects from the drugs you have been prescribed. It can be really tough
 
Most people don't even notice me and most of the time I'm ok with that.

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gennie said:
Get as old as me and you become invisible. The only thing my daughter does about my medical care is drive me to appointments and pick up my meds but at a visit - when doctors talk about my care - they generally look at her instead of me.

I am 87 but my brain still works.
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We have the same situation. Our daughter takes my wife to her doctor appointments and she is the "go to" person for the doc to call. My wife requested that the doctor speak with and to her as neither I (at 86) or my wife (at 84) can remember half of what he has said by the time we reach home.

She's far more computer savvy than either of us and interacts far better with the medical personnel. Our brains still (seem to) work but the memory portions are slipping away. 😦
 
They did that when I took my mom in to the dr. Maybe they think the kids know better and the older folks are too feeble to know what's going on. That's an awful assumption to make. My grandpa had to have someone with him because he had trouble remembering what the doc said so mom knew what to do for him.
 
gennie said:
Get as old as me and you become invisible. The only thing my daughter does about my medical care is drive me to appointments and pick up my meds but at a visit - when doctors talk about my care - they generally look at her instead of me.

I am 87 but my brain still works.
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That used to happen when I took my mother to her medical appointments.

One day she told a young doctor that if he expected to get paid he had better start talking to her.
 
I get that occasionally, and sometimes I feel invisible. Mostly what I get, though, is "I love your blue hair!" or asked for ID to make sure I qualify for the senior discount or, when my DD is with me, referred to as her sister. Meh. I don't wear makeup and never have. I don't own a dress. I wear Levi's and t-shirts in the summer and Levi's and sweatshirts in the winter. I'm not exactly what anybody would call fashion forward.

Sounds to me like you're way to conscious of your age and anticipate being "discriminated" against. And depressed. No need to holler before you're hurt.
 

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