One Husband is Enough!

LoveTulips said:
I think men are wonderful. My brothers and hubby are all good, helpful, great guys. And the brothers' wives agree too. My dad was the same and my maternal grand dad too. Would I marry again if I was single? I think not, only because at this age, either one of us could die sooner than later and I don't want to go through that kind of sorrow.
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Me neither, and never been the first time. I would be doing myself and a potential mate a big disservice.
 

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Della said:
We have a widower friend in his nineties who is still the bachelor-about-town in his red sports car, usually choosing women in their seventies to wine and dine. They all seem to dress well, have their hair done, nice jewelry, perfume, etc. In short they all seem to have made an effort and they carry themselves in a traditionally feminine way, waiting for him to open doors, graceful manners etc.

I've always thought dating should be "for the pleasure of their company," with no strings attached and that's how it seems with Eddie and his dates. It's what I would want if I was single.

How I see Eddie.
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The question is....do those ladies keep themselves looking nice for their own satisfaction or for the benefit of men?
 

Lavinia said:
The question is....do those ladies keep themselves looking nice for their own satisfaction or for the benefit of men?
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I imagine it's for themselves, but also for Eddie when he takes them out to dinner. I doubt it's for "men" in general.

It's interesting that you should ask that. I see Eddie once a year at a Christmas dinner for the honor guard he and my husband serve in (yes, 93 years old and he's at the military grave sites.) Because it's the holiday season and one of the few occasions my husband and I go out in the evening, I do myself up more than usual. Eddie always gives me lavish compliments and makes me feel pretty, which doesn't happen often at my age.

So I expect one reason his dates always look so glamourous is that Eddie 'rewards' them for their effort. It's a two way street.
 
LoveTulips said:
I think men are wonderful. My brothers and hubby are all good, helpful, great guys. And the brothers' wives agree too. My dad was the same and my maternal grand dad too. Would I marry again if I was single? I think not, only because at this age, either one of us could die sooner than later and I don't want to go through that kind of sorrow.
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Your last sentence is another reason I wouldn't want to marry again LT.
 
LoveTulips said:
Would I marry again if I was single? I think not, only because at this age, either one of us could die sooner than later and I don't want to go through that kind of sorrow.
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I'm a widower of 2+ years and I have this very same thought occasionally. My wife spent a relatively rapid 1 1/2 years dying of a particularly horrifying disease (ALS/MND). It was absolutely heart breaking to watch her gradual deterioration. We had a wonderful marriage that lasted 27 years. I would like to invest my feelings in another loving relationship if the right person came along but the memory of watching my wife struggle helplessly (plus my advanced age of 78), makes me wonder if I should even be considering a potential repeat.
 
TennVet said:
I've never had a husband and don't plan too. I have one wife of 57 years and that is enough. We have had many good days and our share of bad ones as well, but taken on balance I wouldn't do it differently. We've always been their for each other and most of the time very agreeably, as long as I do things her way, or else keep it looking that way.
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You are not alone, I don't have a husband either, but I do have a wife whom I have been married to for fifty-six years. There is one underlying reason for that. Back in May of 1968, we stood side by side and said:
"I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. I will love and honour you all the days of my life."
We took our vows seriously, and in truth, I am so glad and honoured that we did.
 
I think the ancient Egyptians got it right. They didn't have a marriage ceremony. If you wanted to get "married"; you moved in, you wanted to get "divorced", you move out. When the woman left, she got to keep 1/3 of everything, and she gets to keep what she came with. Surprisingly the divorce rates weren't that high. Most had long marriages.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I have standards. If the "right" woman came along, I'd consider marriage. But the right woman would have to be a 103 year old billionairess, without any heirs. Otherwise, no way in hell.
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A friend of ours used to say, "If I get married again it will be to a deaf and dumb nymphomaniac that owns a pub"
 

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