I recently decided to try an online dating site - it was fun at first but I'm losing interest, which is not the problem. I have an ethical issue and wonder if I'm being too old fashioned and narrow minded. I was recently contacted by a man who lives a couple of states away. We have a lot of similarity in our interests and backgrounds, but because of the distance, he said we could never be a couple; HOWEVER, he thought we could have some great conversations. I have no problem with that and we had an interesting 3+ hour phone call yesterday. Towards the end of the conversation, he said he was in an intimate relationship with someone - he actually breezed past it pretty quickly and then moved on to other subjects. At the end of the call he said he'd like to talk again because, well - we really have similar interests. But.... after thinking about it, I decided I couldn't go forward with any more calls unless his girlfriend knew and was okay with our discussions and I sent him a message letting him know how I felt. I didn't even ask him why he was on a dating site if he was in an intimate relationship with someone, but that's for him and his conscience. To my mind, the conversations he has proposed can be both harmful and hurtful to all parties involved (though I do give him credit for telling me). For me, I feel it would compromise my integrity to participate in something that goes behind the girlfriend's back. Please tell me I'm not wrong to feel this way (or if I am, tell me that too.)