Lolly
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You are fortunate to have a daughter. Sons are much less likely to help.
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You are fortunate to have a daughter. Sons are much less likely to help.
CeeCee
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- Monterey Peninsula California
I have a son also and he helps too..mostly financially since he lives in Illinois and my daughter lives in Ca.
There is a facility here that mostly handles rehabs after hospital stays, but it also has a nursing home wing. My mother spent her 3 weeks hospital rehab in the nursing home wing because it had security for patients that wandered. Last time I was there they were building individual housing units on an adjoining property for assisted living too.
The nursing home wing let patients pretty much have the run of the place as long as they were in a wheel chair. The staff was great, but sorely underpaid. They put in heroic efforts with very difficult patients. They made sure everyone got out to eat meals in the dining room with everyone, if at all possible, rather than stay in bed---even quadriplegic patients. I could easily live there if I couldn't get around anymore.
I think nursing homes get a bad rap, in general. Some are good, some are probably bad. If you only listen to stories of patients, and don't listen to the other side of the story you get a bad impression. I saw very difficult patients there. Many of them were not telling the truth when they complained. For just a simple example, one lady at dinner, every evening, she would yell out complaining that no one was paying attention to her, and when a nurse came around she told the nurse, "Leave me alone!"
My mother never complained about anything there.
The question is, then, how do you make arrangements to go there, or a similar place, before you lose your mind. It could be 20 years down the road. I guess I'm pretty adaptable. :shrug: I've never wanted to put anyone out, just because I prefer things to be just the way I want them. Hope that doesn't change.
The nursing home wing let patients pretty much have the run of the place as long as they were in a wheel chair. The staff was great, but sorely underpaid. They put in heroic efforts with very difficult patients. They made sure everyone got out to eat meals in the dining room with everyone, if at all possible, rather than stay in bed---even quadriplegic patients. I could easily live there if I couldn't get around anymore.
I think nursing homes get a bad rap, in general. Some are good, some are probably bad. If you only listen to stories of patients, and don't listen to the other side of the story you get a bad impression. I saw very difficult patients there. Many of them were not telling the truth when they complained. For just a simple example, one lady at dinner, every evening, she would yell out complaining that no one was paying attention to her, and when a nurse came around she told the nurse, "Leave me alone!"
My mother never complained about anything there.The question is, then, how do you make arrangements to go there, or a similar place, before you lose your mind.
It could be 20 years down the road. I guess I'm pretty adaptable. :shrug: I've never wanted to put anyone out, just because I prefer things to be just the way I want them. Hope that doesn't change.
I'm an Aussie ,there was an interesting segment on a current affair program last week ..where homes are being set up for seniors to share a home much like, university students house sharing ..each home has a ensuite bathroom to each bedroom .
On TV ..:shrug: it looked like a good idea if you are still capable of taking care of yourself ...There was provisions for 4 couples in each home ..I believe it cost them 70% of their pension which included all meals
On TV ..:shrug: it looked like a good idea if you are still capable of taking care of yourself ...There was provisions for 4 couples in each home ..I believe it cost them 70% of their pension which included all meals
Aunt Bea
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- Near Mount Pilot
The question is, then, how do you make arrangements to go there, or a similar place, before you lose your mind.
In my area to enter a nursing home usually requires an event that lands you in the hospital. The hospital assigns a team to evaluate you and a social worker to help place you in a skilled nursing facility or assisted living facility. When my mother went through the process they gave us a list of facilities, we were told to pick three and they would check availability. We were lucky and got the facility we requested. I'm not sure if it helped because my mother was paying her own way.
I've been keeping my eye on some of the cruise ship style facilities in my area that are only available as self pay. Most have a small apartment with regular cleaning, linen laundry, restaurant style meals and transportation. Anyone can schedule a visit and complete an application, they will be happy to take your money. I particularly like the facilities that go from independent living to assisted living and ultimately skilled nursing all under the same roof. The trick is not to check in too soon or wait until it's too late.