People bring their grandkids to the Senior Club

debodun

debodun

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Call me a Grinch, but it just doesn't seem right to me that many people that attend the senior's club in our community bring their grandchildren along. Now they may feel their own grandkids are wonderful little angels, but there may be some, like me, that feel the senior club is just that - FOR SENIORS. There isn't much of interest for preschoolers to do at out meetings and they soon become restless and start running around and tripping up or bumping into those with mobility assistance aids (walkers, canes, etc,). If these people are babysitting, then maybe they should focus on that and not come to the senior club meeting. Opinions?
 

I agree... I'm not "anti" child.. but there are places that one should be able to go where children are not.. Let's face it.. not everyone likes the noice and ruckus kids create. AND not everyone thinks kids are adorable. I have grandkids and I love them... but they can really wear on my nerves sometimes.. Other peoples grandkids... or kids are even worse in that regard.

In another vein... I have asked to be moved to another table in a restaurant if kids are creating a disturbance around me. I have refused to be seated next to a table with small kids. Call me a grinch too... so what. I figure if I am going to drop a C note or more on dinner... I'm going to enjoy it in peace. I would frequent an adults only restaurant if one was around. Nothing worse than trying to eat a meal and enjoy a conversation with little billy running around, baby Suzie screaming.. and the parents being oblivious.
 
You are Not a Grinch at all, I even like the idea of apartments that did not allow kids in fact one family left because it was really bad. Do not hate kids at all and they are very drawn to me. I understand, and wish I could find a Senior Only place.
 

Agree with you totally, but unfortunately, there are grandparents out there that just don't care what others feel. There are also parents out there that feel the same say........"you don't like being around small kids, find another restaurant to go to" or "how could you not like being around Little Angels, like little kids?"
They refuse to understand your point-of-view.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Agree with you totally, but unfortunately, there are grandparents out there that just don't care what others feel. There are also parents out there that feel the same say........"you don't like being around small kids, find another restaurant to go to" or "how could you not like being around Little Angels, like little kids?"
They refuse to understand your point-of-view.
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I know.. they just can't understand why EVERYONE isn't enthralled with the little darlins'
 
I agree. Most of us on here have children, grandchildren, and do like children, but sometimes want a little peace and quiet!It spoils a get together if young ones are running around or screaming.The only time it's ok is at a family gathering IMO.
 
I had this discussion on another forum once.. it was predominantly younger people with young kids... You would have thought my opinion was sacrilege and I was some wicked old crow that wanted to eat kids.. It's SOOO nice to be here with people around my age..
 
I agree Debodun, a Senior club should be for seniors only. If you need to babysit the grandkids, then stay at home.
 
It works both ways:)
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Along with my grandchildren 12, 11, 10, 8 and 6 a senior club would be my idea of hell, I am too young for it!:D
 
It's the same with going to the library, there was a time when it was a nice quiet place to have a read, these days it's just too noisy with the kids running up & down, playing games, when I spoke to the librarian she said there was nothing that they could do about it, PC 'n'all.
 
I'm in the grinch club, too. There are some places children do not belong. I was at a lecture the other day regarding the medieval popes, which is clearly not a children's topic. A woman came with children in tow and the children's constant chatter and the noise of their toys was very disruptive. This woman thinks her little darlings are so well behaved. HAH! I enough of a grinch that I spoke with the speaker later about the incident and suggested perhaps they should advise people not to bring children.

My orthopedic surgeon's office had a policy that children were not allowed to accompany parents unless the children were patients -- ostensibly this was to reduce risk of post surgical patients picking up the infection of the day from children, although one of the staff was telling me that people used to bring children and leave them in the waiting room, expecting the staff to watch them.

At my last office, people would do the same thing, and as a result I had to stop what I was doing to be sure the kids didn't climb all over the furniture or generally mess the place up or walk out the front door while the client was in with the attorney. Geez! I can't believe people can be so rude.
 
Attend a senior club meeting with grandchildren! Not at my seniors club. Members of my seniors centre are much more respectful than that. ( we even have a policy about use of perfumes, and heavy scented hairsprays, hand lotions and aftershaves and colognes - we have members who are hypersensitive to chemicals and oils in some scented products. The chemicals and oil can cause migraines or set off allergic reactions for some).

If you, debodun, had that reaction to the unruly children, then I would imagine that others at that meeting did too. Ask around there and get a general consensus, then choose someone to contact those grandparents and have that person, in a diplomatic, but assertive way, ask them to refrain from bringing their grandchildren to the meetings. You may even want to go so far as to put that in your centre's newsletter or even have it stated in your centre's policies.
 
Patra said:
Attend a senior club meeting with grandchildren! Not at my seniors club. Members of my seniors centre are much more respectful than that. ( we even have a policy about use of perfumes, and heavy scented hairsprays, hand lotions and aftershaves and colognes - we have members who are hypersensitive to chemicals and oils in some scented products. The chemicals and oil can cause migraines or set off allergic reactions for some).

If you, debodun, had that reaction to the unruly children, then I would imagine that others at that meeting did too. Ask around there and get a general consensus, then choose someone to contact those grandparents and have that person, in a diplomatic, but assertive way, ask them to refrain from bringing their grandchildren to the meetings. You may even want to go so far as to put that in your centre's newsletter or even have it stated in your centre's policies.
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I think putting it in the newsletter or the club policies, or even on the door (NOT "don't bring your annoying grandchildren", but something like "activities in this facility are for adults only") should get the job done.
 
I live in a 55+ community by choice. I have spent my time parenting and unless grandchildren are well behaved (which is REALLY rare these days) I say leave them at home until they understand the concept of "company manners".
 
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