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I'm 62,widowed with no one to talk to but my daughter and son. I love and appreciate them,just want to talk with someone my age as a friend nothing more.
 

Hi Jane, glad that you've joined us! There are many conversations on here, but of course, it's not quite the same as in person conversations. It is still interacting with people around our age and can be interesting!
 
Jane said:
I'm 62,widowed with no one to talk to but my daughter and son. I love and appreciate them,just want to talk with someone my age as a friend nothing more.
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Ma'am, I can sorta relate to your feelings. I've worked on the road for many years. My beautiful wife of 50 years and I visit by phone each evening. Those visits, however, are usually short because we lead a pretty boring existence. (At our age, boring is good.) My job has me in contact with people throughout the day, but it is more often than not a confrontational situation. I cannot eat lunch with them or go out to dinner with them. One of our son-in-laws says, "How can you get up to go to work. No one likes you!" Well, that's my job and, honestly, I enjoy it.
I do not go to bars and seldom eat out. So, any spare time 4 nights/week is spent in my hotel room. There are days, I'm not my own best company. As you, I just need someone to talk to.

My "hermitage" will soon come to an end. I am finally going to retire in a few months, as I will be 70 next week. My wife and I will, then, probably sit in our own chairs and still visit little. She has been used to being home alone weekday evenings and I have been in hotels. I do believe we both are a little worried how we will get along "having" to live with each other 24/7.

There is nothing on television. I read a ton of books, making library trips each weekend. That still does not alleviate the need to simply have someone in the same room to bounce things off and to listen to how my day went. I've done this non-stop for the past 15 years and have never gotten used to it. However, my bride and I have made it work. We had a financial disaster and this job looked like a way to climb out. It not only allowed us to climb out of a deep hole, but has left us fairly comfortable to finish the days the Good Lord has blessed us with. So, we both look at is as the dues we paid... but are ready to finally have the ability to give it up.

Is there a local senior's center where you could meet someone? What about the local food bank or emergency shelter where you could volunteer and meet others of similar age. I won't be able to sit home, even when retired. But, I have a nice group of guys who I allow to take my quarters in a friendly golf game who will "entertain" me when my wife wants to send me out the door. Maybe a local quilting club or a ladies golf club or ........ if you're close, go keep my wife company until I can be home more!!! :>)

Good luck!!!!
 
Jane - Aloha and E Komo Mai (Welcome) from the Big Island of Hawaii. What's on your mind that you'd like to talk about? There are multiple threads going on at any given time, but you can also start your own if you have a specific topic in mind that you don't see anyone else discussing. Or, if you just need to vent, let it rip!

Mahalo (thanks)
 
I am surrounded by folks around the clock. But those are children, co-workers, customers, my Dad, best buddy, few are around my age and understand. Hubby isn't in the best of health and I don't see him a lot. So yes for me this site is delightful.
 
Jane said:
I'm 62,widowed with no one to talk to but my daughter and son. I love and appreciate them,just want to talk with someone my age as a friend nothing more.
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Hi Jane I know just how you feel so anytime you wanna ask someone something or have a good read about something or a bit of a laugh just get onto this Forum. :D
Most of us are of a similar age (I'm 63) and it sure is nice to relate to someone your own age. :D
 
Jane, a question for you. Is it really that important as to the age of those you wish to talk to. I have a few acquaintances, some friends and their ages vary from 30 years younger to 18 years older than my age. Conversation is simply conversation no matter what the age.
 
Jane said:
I'm 62,widowed with no one to talk to but my daughter and son. I love and appreciate them,just want to talk with someone my age as a friend nothing more.
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Jane, I know exactly how you feel. Like you, I am widowed also and I have children. But, I talk to them some but most of the time they are working, etc. so they are too busy to talk. There are times I need someone around my age to talk to because they understand how it is at our age and my kids don't. When you're a widow/widower and live alone, we get so lonely and just having someone to talk to helps so much! That's what made me find this forum and it has certainly helped! I have used this forum to vent several times and it helps also! I am always ready to talk and talk about anything if I know what it is! If I don't, I'm willing to learn! I hope this forum helps you as much as it has me!
 
Redd said:
Jane, a question for you. Is it really that important as to the age of those you wish to talk to. I have a few acquaintances, some friends and their ages vary from 30 years younger to 18 years older than my age. Conversation is simply conversation no matter what the age.
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Yes Redd age does matter because people of a similar age either young or old have had similar experiences and can reminisce.
 
Well, you want something to talk about:
I just got my medicare 2017 book- about 131 pages ( page 128 has 24-25 sections)
My pharmacy book 241 (Again some section with multiple same page #)
Aetna 141
That's about 513 pages They contain such pages turners like this chapter, "Inpatient services covered during a non-covered inpatient stay." I'm not going to be a spoiler and tell you who the murderer is.
Aw Hell, why not. It's the ADAP which covers the SHIP, but only in Alabama. Alaska has a BFCC-QIO Program. And there's 48 more states!!!!!!!
 
Sorry, Jane. I apologize. Welcome. As you probably noticed, we tend to go off topic, once in a while......So jump on in, and let's hear from you. We need you to help straighten out this crew. Can you believe it, they're always wrong:D.
 
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