People who have no concept of time

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Is there anyone in you life who is:

I’m waiting on someone right now who is now over 30 min late. This is the last time. I’m not gonna rant and rave….not worth it. I’ll just not ever depend on them again for anything.

Chronically late – always has (lame) excuses
Tries to make it seem as if you’re the unreasonable one because you’re too rigid
Makes others wait for them regardless of prior arrangements - sometimes you get a call, sometimes not

GRRR! Totally disrespectful and irresponsible.

I’ve had to deal with a few of these people, and they make me wanna SCREAM. My sister was the worst. Never on time – never. My older brother and I got to the point where we didn’t bother to invite her to gatherings. How she ever kept a job I will never know.
 

It's not that they have no concept of time. They're selfish and inconsiderate because they aren't one bit concerned about how it affects those who wait for them. They are only interested in what they want to do and when they want to do it.

There are ways to deal with the chronically late...start without them, leave without them, don't include them. After a while, it might make a difference to them. Or not. But it will free you up to do whatever it is that you meant to do.
 
They're selfish and inconsiderate because they aren't one bit concerned about how it affects those who wait for them.
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True.

btw I've gotten someone else to do what the person was supposed to do at 9:00 this morning. I'm not going to bother to call AGAIN and try to find out what is going on. If they ever show up or call (which I doubt they will), I'll tell them forget it and goodbye.:mad:
 

Oh don't even get me started on this!! I am a pedantic time keeper, almost always early for everything, and actually the thought of keeping anyone waiting for me almost gives me a panic attack. I have no idea where that came from but there it is..

I expect people to be on time for me too, unless there's a genuine reason not to be, otherwise it's the ultimate in selfishness and rudeness IMO. By wasting your time making you wait for them is the ultimate in selfishness and rudeness for them to imagine their time is more precious than yours!! It drives me NUTS!!!!
 
I fully agree with all above.

As a former military pilot, time was exceedingly important ! You'd better BE THERE on your assigned time or the mission might fail.

I refuse to associate with anybody who doesn't reasonably adhere to the specified time. They can stick to their own kind of people.
 
I refuse to associate with anybody who doesn't reasonably adhere to the specified time. They can stick to their own kind of people.
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Usually these types have lives full of chaos, confusion, and drama. They're used to it. :rolleyes:
 
I am always on time or early, it is the only responsible and considerate way to be whether it's a dentist appointment, or a visit with a friend. It really bugs me when someone is completely unreliable, always late or doesn't show at all. I expect the worst with those few people, so I'm never that disappointed.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
It's not that they have no concept of time. They're selfish and inconsiderate because they aren't one bit concerned about how it affects those who wait for them. They are only interested in what they want to do and when they want to do it.

There are ways to deal with the chronically late...start without them, leave without them, don't include them. After a while, it might make a difference to them. Or not. But it will free you up to do whatever it is that you meant to do.
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Agree, Some say those always late or the last one there want to draw attention to themselves conscientiously or sub conscientiously. Sort of like a grand entrance theme.

I will say many don't have a sense of time as in how long they have or haven't been at something. I know people who can talk for hours on the phone and others might last 10 minutes.

As I got older I made more effort to be on time but to leave time to take my time. By my early to mid 30s I didn't even want an adrenaline rush getting from A to B as quick as I could. Some get upset at me to this day because I don't consider travel a contest. A game of survival but not a contest. I take my time.
 
I try to always be on time for appointments, but with friends, we give each some leeway, if we're meeting in a cafe or pub, we can be flexible 10 or 15 minutes without bursting a blood vessel. There can be unforeseen events, traffic delays, etc. and in which case cell phones come in handy. Since many of us are retired, its nice to relax about this, and I think the days of the punch time clock are gone in most work places, wherein people aren't watched like hawks to make sure they are not a minute or two late.
 
WhatInThe said:
Agree, Some say those always late or the last one there want to draw attention to themselves conscientiously or sub conscientiously. Sort of like a grand entrance theme.

I will say many don't have a sense of time as in how long they have or haven't been at something. I know people who can talk for hours on the phone and others might last 10 minutes.

As I got older I made more effort to be on time but to leave time to take my time. By my early to mid 30s I didn't even want an adrenaline rush getting from A to B as quick as I could. Some get upset at me to this day because I don't consider travel a contest. A game of survival but not a contest. I take my time.
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No problem with that...as long as you start taking your time a lot earlier in the day so you can be at your appointment on time :D
 
I think it is largely a matter of common sense. Courtesy is important, as is behaving responsibly. However it can be taken to extremes, at which point OCD rears it's head. Still, I would not wish to miss an appointment with my surgeon in the operating room. Lol.
 
Back when I was the caretaker for my DH, I invited a friend to lunch. I told her I would pick her up about twelve-ish. I never told anybody I would be there at an exact time because I had to make sure he was cared for before I left. That sometimes took longer than others. I got to her house at 12:15. She was obviously angry. She snapped at me, "You are late! I was about to change clothes and not go!" We went but I never invited her out again.
 
Shirley said:
Back when I was the caretaker for my DH, I invited a friend to lunch. I told her I would pick her up about twelve-ish. I never told anybody I would be there at an exact time because I had to make sure he was cared for before I left. That sometimes took longer than others. I got to her house at 12:15. She was obviously angry. She snapped at me, "You are late! I was about to change clothes and not go!" We went but I never invited her out again.
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There's a name for her Shirley. She was impatient and rude. The word starts with B.
 
Shirley, I've had the same experience with a lady who got angry at me when I met her at a subway station 10 minutes late because the train was delayed, which I explained, though she still stayed angry. Control freaks like that don't make very good friends.
 
Shirley said:
Back when I was the caretaker for my DH, I invited a friend to lunch. I told her I would pick her up about twelve-ish. I never told anybody I would be there at an exact time because I had to make sure he was cared for before I left. That sometimes took longer than others. I got to her house at 12:15. She was obviously angry. She snapped at me, "You are late! I was about to change clothes and not go!" We went but I never invited her out again.
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Ridiculous! She could have been more understanding. 12 ish (to me) means maybe a little before, maybe a little after, maybe even 12:30-12:45. 12:15 would be no problem. I'm expecting a friend later this week "12 ish", depending on when she can get off work. She's going to be doing me a favor so I'll be happy to see her anytime that afternoon!

btw the people I refer to in my OP are a lot more than 15 minutes late.
 
Maybe you could try telling them the time to meet is 11:00 even though really you want her/him to arrive at 12:00? Wouldn't it be Murphy's Law though for them to pick that one time to be on time :D! Actually we did do that a few times with one friend we had who was chronically late and in her case it was a good idea. She was still usually late but on time!
 
Shirley said:
Hey, AC! Nice avatar. :D
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Yeah, you'll never guess where I got it! :laugh: (how did you make that bite??)


Oh, and when/if I'm running late I always call. I never leave people hanging, but some people do.

AND - the sister I refer to in my OP......she arrived at our brother's funeral as they were getting ready to carry the casket out. :rolleyes: :mad: Later we all heard some story about problems with a rental car, blah blah....whatever.
 

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