People who have no concept of time

Falcon said:
I refuse to associate with anybody who doesn't reasonably adhere to the specified time. They can stick to their own kind of people.
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Bit harsh, don't you think? I have a long-time friend who is chronically late. We generally would set a time for her of a half hour before the rest of us were meeting.

But ... she is also the most good-hearted and generous with her time person you could ever hope to meet. She worked two jobs and yet was always doing favors for elderly or infirm friends/acquaintances.

She was, and is, my "own kind of people".

And ... I have 2 profoundly deaf children. Both adults. Both chronically late. That seems to be a trait shared by many, if not most, of the deaf community. They have responsible positions and do very well, but a sense of time flying by seems to be a bit of a problem. :)

They, too, are my "own kind of people".
 
Rocky I agree. I also have a dear friend with a very poor sense of time. Always at least thirty minutes late. However while I was in shock over the horrific suicide of another person I cared for, this punctuality challenged person gave up a prepaid holiday in Costa Rica in order to stay with me until I was able to cope. As far as I am concerned, he has carte blanche to be late forever.
 
I'm kind of a stickler for time. I'm in a panic if I'm two minutes late for a dental appointment. Even if I have to then sit and wait. :)
 
I have a brother-in law who was always at least an hour late to our family's get togethers. We always told him it started one hour earlier than it really did. He was almost always on time .
 
My daughter is like this. She leads a chaotic life, I love her but having a closer relationship would necessitate a few concessions on her part, in the area of....what would you call it.....she would need to follow though with her stated intentions....a little bit more, please. If she can't make a get together, that's O.K., BUT a courtesy call would sure go a long way!
 
No one is saying that people who are always late don't have any good qualities or that they don't have other challenges. Let's not veer off on that tangent. Everyone has some kind of sad story. The point is that people who are always late and are disrespectful of other people's time are inconsiderate and selfish.

For those who want to tolerate it, fine. Good luck with all that. :shrug:
 
My son seemingly has no concept of time...I jokingly ask him if we are running on Joseph Time today. Yet, when he has to take me to a appointment he is always punctual. My friend is much like my son. I no longer even think of the time he gave me. Will be there when he gets there type thing. I am sure the patient does not wait, prepped and under anesthesia...until he arrives. That he is punctual for surgery :D
 
It is simple to label late people as being inconsiderate, disrespectful and selfish jerks for being late, but it is not always so. They might have some underlying condition or problem and their lateness is just a symptom. Not everyone functions at the same level of competency. Or, possibly the late person might be delaying because they really don't want to be at the appointment or even see the person they have arranged to meet and feel roped into it.
 
I think it is often easy for people who prize organisation, punctuality, etc, a rather orderly lifestyle, to condemn and attach negative "motives" to others who may very well march to a different drummer. Different does not always mean disrespectful, or lacking in consideration, merely because persons are casual about time/tardiness. If fingers were pointed at punctual people, and labels such as intolerant, controlling, et al, were thrown about, they would understandably be upset. IMHO, I can think of a number of qualities that would upset me far more than habitual tardiness. After all consideration goes both ways. One size does not fit all.
 
I am sometimes late for appointments and social meetings. It's not because I'm selfish or inconsiderate but I deal with an Autistic son who does not understand "We're running late, we have to hurry". No matter how late we are he still must do his routine....get up, eat breakfast, get dressed, watch a certain show etc etc at a specified time. He will not tolerate getting up earlier or skipping a step in his daily routine. Unfortunately the rest of the world will not adjust to his schedule.
 
Well, how about this:
I missed an appt 10 yrs ago when I had a stroke and had to be taken to the hospital by paramedics. I suppose that's a lame excuse and it means I'm disrespectful, irresponsible, and inconsiderate. Excuuuuuuuuse me.
:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
 
applecruncher said:
Well, how about this:
I missed an appt 10 yrs ago when I had a stroke and had to be taken to the hospital by paramedics. I suppose that's a lame excuse and it means I'm disrespectful, irresponsible, and inconsiderate. Excuuuuuuuuse me.
:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
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I hardly think that this sort of thing is what anybody was referring to. It's people who are CHRONICALLY LATE for no reason whatsoever than that they seem to believe that THEIR time is more important and more valuable than anybody else's.

There are occasions and circumstances that just cannot be avoided. I doubt that there's any one among us who is so rigid and hidebound that they would not understand. Good grief.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
I hardly think that this sort of thing is what anybody was referring to. It's people who are CHRONICALLY LATE for no reason whatsoever than that they seem to believe that THEIR time is more important and more valuable than anybody else's.

There are occasions and circumstances that just cannot be avoided. I doubt that there's any one among us who is so rigid and hidebound that they would not understand. Good grief.
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(bolded) Yes, I know. (I created the thread.) That's exactly the point I was making in Post #34 - or trying to - and even in my opening post.
Thanks for emphasizing it.

(Post 41 was tongue-in-cheek)
 
applecruncher said:
Well, how about this:
I missed an appt 10 yrs ago when I had a stroke and had to be taken to the hospital by paramedics. I suppose that's a lame excuse and it means I'm disrespectful, irresponsible, and inconsiderate. Excuuuuuuuuse me.
:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:
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No, it doesn't make you rude or inconsiderate..........just makes you sarcastic.
 
I sort of "divorced" a friend many years ago because she would leave me waiting for her every time. This was before cell phones so there I would wait and wait and wait and then give up. She never had a good excuse. I finally realized that I wasn't important enough to her for her to value my time. Last year, I reconnected with her and we made a date for lunch. She was very late. A month later, I gave it another try....she was even later. I haven't tried again. I won't.
 
jujube, the mother of my niece & nephew was like that, which was why we drifted. I really enjoyed spending time with her, but seemed like there was a lot of chaos in her life. Kids are grown and out on their own now, but I saw her last year and not much had changed.
 

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