WheatenLover
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My kids asked me why my stepdaughter doesn't smile with her whole face. Botox.
I smile a lot, and I have the wrinkles to prove it.
I smile a lot, and I have the wrinkles to prove it.
People you know who dont smile when you meet them, (are they taking themselves too seriously?)
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Alligatorob
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A smiling face, no matter the wrinkles, always looks better than a frown!
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And in my experience they rarely seem to. I was at a meeting in Russia and speaking with a woman who was just back from her first visit to the US. I asked her what she though and her first response was that she did not understand why people were always smiling. Russians did not seem to have that problem. I prefer our approach.
Don't think that is possible!
Good for you!
Georgiagranny
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Or maybe they're like me and have a condition called prosopagnosia, the medical term for face blindness. Unless I know someone really, really well and have known them for a long time (think years), I very well might not recognize them.
If I'm out in public, not in a place I'd ordinarily see someone I know, it's likely I wouldn't recognize them.
Don't be so quick to judge.
The phrase "more to be pitied than censured" comes to mind.
If I'm out in public, not in a place I'd ordinarily see someone I know, it's likely I wouldn't recognize them.
Don't be so quick to judge.
The phrase "more to be pitied than censured" comes to mind.
Nathan
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You could probably live a long, happy and prosperous life if you ditched those "so called mates" with the "hardnosed" faces. Doesn't sound like they've grown up emotionally past puberty.
Lewkat
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I guess Russians don't have much to smile at since they are an oppressed society. I read where Finns are similar even though they do not have the same conditions. However, with that Big Bear at their back door, it gives one pause to do some serious thinking all the time. But, on the brighter side, the Finns love to dance.
People you know who dont smile when you meet them
I've got a few buds that don't smile.....ever
I'm good with that
Beats someone approaching you, grinning like a cheshire cat
Heh, even have a renegade friend that when done visiting, he just turns and walks away
I rather like that too
Brookswood
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How dare anybody not smile when I meet them! Don't they realize what a blessing meeting me is? Shame on them. Not only should they smile when the meet me, they should always smile when they say my name. Otherwise, the won't be among the 'good ones'.
Where is the sarcasm emoji when you need it?
Where is the sarcasm emoji when you need it?
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Graham, I did not read every comment, the only thing I can say to you is don't let anyone or anything take your smile away. Walk through the world knowing you have done your best, you are a good man and no one can change that. Ignore those that only want to act tough, mean and fearful to others. They are really the ones that are afraid and angry that they can't find the simple things in life that bring a smile..
fuzzybuddy
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For some unknown reason, I squint. And that makes it seem like I'm angry. I'm not. But people think I'm some kind of ogre. I'm a pussy cat. When some get to know me, they tell me that they thought I was SOB. It turns out I was OK. All because I squint.
grahamg
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There is probably some of that to it I admit, (as I'm heading rapidly towards my own second childhood I guess!).
Although its not really fair to include this comment about a very severe looking woman in the local supermarket, close to where I'm holidaying again in the Yorkshire Dales, because I obviously dont know her at all, but she didn't appear inclined to smile at anyone this morning.
Then again, if I had her job, on her feet all day long etc., dealing with awkward customers, maybe I'd be the same!
MountainRa
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I have this same problem. Twice I’ve introduced myself to someone I obviously should have known. And offended them in the process..
Nathan
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Well I must admit that unless I'm in a particularly good mood (rare these days) I tend to keep a 'sober' face in public. I will readily return a smile but frankly am usually not the first person to initiate one.
Georgiagranny
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@MountainRa Thanks...it's good to know there's somebody out there who understands. It's embarrassing.
In our age group, people's appearance changes and those you have known don't look the same as you may remember. You don't look the same either. I ran into a high school buddy once coming out of the bank. I barely recognized him but greeted him and shook his hand. I'm glad I had the chance because it wasn't long after I saw his obituary. RIP Ritchie.
Another problem with our age group is the end result from years of living with gravity. Our once plump rosy cheeks turn into jowls and the jowls pull down the corners of our mouths, or else we get those long vertical lines down our face. Plus, if you could never think hard without frowning, those lines get stuck and finally you reach the point where you think you are smiling, but just not hard enough to pull all of that up.
We should probably give everyone the benefit of the doubt and assume they're smiling on the inside.
We should probably give everyone the benefit of the doubt and assume they're smiling on the inside.
Mizmo
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I smile at anyone who looks at me long enough......
..... in the grocery store , the parking lot, wherever and it is generally returned.
..... in the grocery store , the parking lot, wherever and it is generally returned.
grahamg
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Although the butt of your joke I did enjoy it very much!
grahamg
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Here is a bit of research too:
Are you smiling? Have you smiled at anyone today?
I’m smiling right now because it’s a beautiful day outside. Also, I just sent a email to the wrong person. Smiling at my mistakes means I smile a lot. So what about you?
Remember that all emotions have a linked expression, such as the look of disgust that goes with disgust. Because the expression of the emotion is linked to the emotion, you can change what you are feeling by adjusting your body language and facial expression.
When you change your facial expression you mood tends to align with the emotion your face is communicating. Remember, as always, you can’t do it half way, you need to throw yourself in.
Smiling is contagious.
When you give a warm and friendly smile, often others will smile back. You get a moment of feeling connected and accepted, and you spread happiness.
Smiling can help reduce stress. When you smile, your heart rate slows and other stress indicators go away faster than if you don’t smile. Smiling can lengthen your lifespan.
Smiling leads others to see you as more trustworthy. When you smile, you are signaling that you are open and friendly. If you have a blank face, others aren’t sure how to read you. That can create hesitation.
Smiling can help you develop stronger paths in your brain for positive thinking. The more you smile the more you move to a positive place. Your brain creates a happiness loop that encourages more positive-thinking patterns.
Smiles may strengthen the body on a cellular level. When you smile you reduce the rigidness of your cells and this relaxation can help reduce the risk of stress-induced cell mutations that can lead to the development or persistence of various cancers.
Maybe today is a day to smile often.
https://psychcentral.com/blog/emotionally-sensitive/2018/03/the-importance-of-smiling#1
grahamg
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More research:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/...important-in-your-personal-life-and-workplace
Presenting a genuine and gracious smile to another person goes a long way. The beautiful thing about a smile is that it doesn’t cost a dime to smile, which means everybody can afford an honest smile. While smiling is often spontaneous, it can also be intentional, as a person chooses to smile more and in specific situations. An honest smile can be a reflection of one’s internal disposition.
A smile is contagious, medicinal, therapeutic, relaxes our muscles, and even makes us look more pleasant and approachable. When it becomes a habit to show pleasantness to another person through a smile, nothing in the world can take it away from you, even the daily challenges of life. A healthy smile is inviting and invigorating and can motivate people to reciprocate with their smiles, whether in a social setting or professional sphere.
A genuine smile leaves a memory in the minds of people who contact such a person. It is another way of promoting our shared humanity. A sense of calmness and a healthy smile can ease tension in a room full of anxiety and uncertainty, especially in a situation where decision making is needed. Leaders who understand this simple gesture have their team members go the extra mile in the call of duty.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/...important-in-your-personal-life-and-workplace
Presenting a genuine and gracious smile to another person goes a long way. The beautiful thing about a smile is that it doesn’t cost a dime to smile, which means everybody can afford an honest smile. While smiling is often spontaneous, it can also be intentional, as a person chooses to smile more and in specific situations. An honest smile can be a reflection of one’s internal disposition.
A smile is contagious, medicinal, therapeutic, relaxes our muscles, and even makes us look more pleasant and approachable. When it becomes a habit to show pleasantness to another person through a smile, nothing in the world can take it away from you, even the daily challenges of life. A healthy smile is inviting and invigorating and can motivate people to reciprocate with their smiles, whether in a social setting or professional sphere.
A genuine smile leaves a memory in the minds of people who contact such a person. It is another way of promoting our shared humanity. A sense of calmness and a healthy smile can ease tension in a room full of anxiety and uncertainty, especially in a situation where decision making is needed. Leaders who understand this simple gesture have their team members go the extra mile in the call of duty.
I find it a bit unnerving when people see me and burst out laughing,
I think some men withhold a smile or an enthusiastic greeting when they meet another man because they feel it would be seen as an inappropriate PDA.
I promise you, Aunt Bea, that I would not burst out laughing if I was to meet you, and, I'm sure that a dignified lady like you would suppress the desire to snigger at the sight of my overweight shape in my Superman outfit.
