Providing that you send greeting cards at all,how would you handle this situation?

Ruth n Jersey

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A close friend of mine just passed away. We met when our daughters started school and remained friends since that time.
We visited each others home, took the kids on outings together went shopping and exchanged little gifts for Christmas.. The husbands met from time to time, but we didn't socialize together. We both had our family life as well.
We always exchanged greeting cards and we signed them with our hubby's name also.
Now that she is gone what is the proper thing to do? Continue to send her husband a card? Just stop it completely? This will be his first Christmas without her,they were very close. I'm not sure what kind of card to send,if any.


Endlessly Groovin'
Ruth, I'm sorry you lost your friend, my condolences. If it were me, I'd just send her husband a sympathy card and discontinue sending any other greeting cards in the future. If you've already expressed your sympathy to him for his loss, then I wouldn't send any card at all. If you were close to her husband, then I would continue sending cards.


I'm awake. Best I can hope for.
Rochester, NY
Ruth, sorry for your loss. While I would not send a happy, jolly card, maybe you can find a general Thinking of You card to the husband this year. If you were not close with the husband, then maybe discontinue sending Christmas cards.

Aunt Bea

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Near Mount Pilot
For me, it would depend on the individual, if he has a family, an active social life, etc... I would not continue to send a Christmas card.

If he is basically alone in the world then I would continue sending the Christmas cards with a short message letting him know that he is in your thoughts.

I'm a big fan of cards with Cardinals on them as a sort of generic Christmas card.

Good luck!


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Ohio, USA
I'm sorry you lost your friend Ruth. My condolences to you. I would send her husband a Christmas card to let him know he is in your thoughts. I don't know if I would continue it forever or not.