Public Marriage Proposals...Good or Bad?

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SeaBreeze

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What do you think of men who surprise their girlfriends with a public marriage proposal, which they are videotaping her response? Howey Mandell had a show on TV for a short time. They taped wedding proposals, pregnancy announcements, women announced 'crushes' on a particular man, etc. They had the 'flash' dancing dancers in the background of all this. Not all results were positive.

I think it's weird, and there's nothing cool about it. I'd much rather be proposed to, or given some good news in a private setting that's more personal. I don't think it's very respectful of the woman to videotape her emotional responses either, whether good or bad.

What do you think?
 

Hmmm, at times I've thought it cute, but good point in not being repectful if the lady doesn't want to accept! That would be so embarrassing. I'd like to think a guy would do it ONLY if he knew it was a sure thing.
 
Some things are just meant to be done PRIVATE and I think marriage proposal is one of them. But, with todays Generation, the word "Private" seems to be gone! I don't mind getting some attention, as I did last year at Halloween dressed up as Darth Vader, but many today thrive on getting attention. When I asked my wife to marry me, it was in her vehicle going somewhere. Didn't have a ring at the time, b/c I wanted her to chose what she wanted. Two weeks later, she was wearing an Engagement Ring and showing it off to everyone. I loved it!
 
I think that this is something that should be done privately, and not in a showy puplic demonstration. However, I am a pretty private person, and don't like much of anything done publicly.
That being said, there are a lot of people who DO like that sort of thing, and would be thrilled to have it on a video and then show all their friends the picture of them being proposed to, or doing the proposing, as the case may be. So, for people like that, it would probably be a good thing.
In any case, I don't think it should be done of you are not 100% sure that the intended spouse is going to say yes. Filming someone who doesn't want to marry you, and is trying to say "no" while on live camera, is definitely a terrible thing to do to anyone.
So, I think you just have to know what the person enjoys, and that they are going to say "yes" before attempting something like this.
 
It's embarrassing. Happened to me once in a very busy, trendy restaurant. Sheesh. I was mortified. Thank heaven the lighting was almost nonexistent. He actually got down on one knee. I said yes just to get him to hush, then told him no after we left. Ugh.
 
Wow Georgia, I'm sure he was crushed with the no after yes reply...but it sounds like it was super uncomfortable, and probably very hard for you afterwards! :eek:
 
I was so angry that he definitely got the message. I read in our hometown newspaper that he died not too long ago...listed his ex as his wife. She was his ex at the time of the mortifying proposal event. Maybe he figured it best to go back to a known quantity? LOL I wonder if she divorced him in the first place because she didn't like his grandstanding ways. And if she did, why she'd have remarried him. Who knows? I just know I was glad to be rid of him.
 
I vaguely remember my husband suggesting we get married when we were at a beauty spot on my home island when I was 18. I can't remember what he said, probably something like, 'Let's get married', which we did the following year.
 
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