Pursuing friendships in an Assisted Living Facility (ALF)

People in those institutions have little to occupy their minds and would quickly become obsessed with the suggestion of romance between residents. You would need to be ready to deal with that.
I worked briefly in one of those places and the only romance which occurred was between one of the wardens and the caretaker. She was married but made no secret of her feelings for him.
 
People age and if they lose their significant other, they probably get more self-confined.
Relationships can hold a lot of maybe crazy / fun and maybe crazy /not fun hours in them.
Wishing to end alone is probably a wise choice but not a lot of crazy fun either.
 

Lavinia said:
People in those institutions have little to occupy their minds and would quickly become obsessed with the suggestion of romance between residents. You would need to be ready to deal with that.
I worked briefly in one of those places and the only romance which occurred was between one of the wardens and the caretaker. She was married but made no secret of her feelings for him.
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What's wrong with minds thinking of romance in an ALF?
Romance can be just holding hands or loving words. It does not have to become an obsession...just a little joy .
 
Cyclist said:
That was a comment to hooking up for sex...so using each other for sex only. Gross no matter what the age but maybe I'll go delete that
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I agree its not romantic for someone to use another just for sex ..at any age.
 
Lavinia said:
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with romance in older people. I'm saying that they need to be prepared for being the centre of gossip.
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One area of gerontology study was this subject: Aging and Sexuality.
Was part of a course I taught at University of Northern Colorado - Greeley.
Back in "the day" many - actually most, nursing homes would not ALLOW opposite sex couples to have a room together; no co-boarding! EVEN married couples. They would have to "check out at the nursing station" to go visit each other on differing wings of a care home!

And most couples could not afford a private room for either of them, so no private time alone what so ever!

A travesty. Thank the Lord times have changed. People in nursing homes don't hang up the hankering for snuggling OR touch et al, at the door.

It has been demonstrated by studies that the desire for skin to skin contact begins at birth and never ends. It is a NEED for survival and comfort.
 
Mitch86 said:
I really doubt if anyone in Assisted Living Centers are even capable of having sexual relations with anyone.
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Reminds me of the old Arnold Palmer commercial for John Deere tractors in which he said the "machinery is in good working order"

Just because old folks "equipment" is old doesn't mean it can't be kept in good working order.
 
I miss you Ladies greatly in this assisted living, nursing home!
________________________________________ Signed alcohol
 
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