I think many marriages fall apart for several reasons:
I was happy to have met my partner when I was 34 y/o, had experienced life and had already sowed my wild oats. I knew what I wanted in life. He was a very stable 26 y/o who was, in some ways, more mature than I was. We had a physical connection, but more importantly we had an emotional connection and just enjoyed discussing various subjects. We still do, 34 years later. We are best friends as much as spouses. We also laugh a lot
I think supporting one another is also important. When I went through severe depression, he was there at my side, concerned and making sure I got the help I needed. When he lost his job, I was there to comfort him, build him up and make sure he was financially stable. It is truly being there "for better or for worse". Many couples think the "worse" part will never happen and they aren't prepared.
- Too young and go in separate directions. I have many friends who were married right out of high school and none are still together.
- Money issues. It can't be easy establishing a household and getting along when you can't pay the mortgage.
- Physical attraction is hot in the beginning but then the spouses have to move on to the "cerebral" part.
- Lack of attention from one or the other partners. I think this leads to cheating.
I was happy to have met my partner when I was 34 y/o, had experienced life and had already sowed my wild oats. I knew what I wanted in life. He was a very stable 26 y/o who was, in some ways, more mature than I was. We had a physical connection, but more importantly we had an emotional connection and just enjoyed discussing various subjects. We still do, 34 years later. We are best friends as much as spouses. We also laugh a lot
I think supporting one another is also important. When I went through severe depression, he was there at my side, concerned and making sure I got the help I needed. When he lost his job, I was there to comfort him, build him up and make sure he was financially stable. It is truly being there "for better or for worse". Many couples think the "worse" part will never happen and they aren't prepared.
