Reflections of My Life

Today should be another quiet day. Sunday usually is. I might attempt to do the rest of my laundry. A few days ago the repairman was here fixing the dryers. They were all broke at the same time so he was here for a few hours. I have bedding and towels to do so need the dryers for that. Not draping them all over my apartment.

Emergency squad is here now. My friend (with Dementia) fell again. She is falling asleep standing up and will not sit down. Fights off her husband and daughter yet she keeps calling for someone to help her. I am so sad as this looks like to me she will not be able to stay home. I think her daughter will extend her stay here until something is done. Her husband cannot take care of her by himself. So sad about this.

Sonny has the demolition derby at the fair today. So he will be working. He loves doing that stuff. The more people around the happier he is.

Time for another cup of coffee.......
 

Another day living for me. I just think wow, I made it another day. How many other people did not?

I keep asking myself what would it be like to not have any thoughts in my head? I can't even do that when I am sleeping. I dream constantly and always remember the details of my dreams. To not have any memories or things to think about. Nor remember how to do things I have done a million times?

My friend was taken to the hospital yesterday. After calling 911 six times in a week because she fell they said she had to go with them. Now they are trying to find a place for her. I saw her on the stretcher when they took her out from my window. I knew this day was coming. I suppose this is a part of life but it is bitter.

On top of all he has been through, her husband (who is recovering from an operation.....or trying to) is worried he will have to move from their apartment to a one bedroom one. It is a rule of living here. Two bedroom ones are only for 2 people. I doubt he could do the work of moving himself.

I suppose this is the bad side of living in a senior living apartment building. Losing friends. I think to myself, "at least I had friends" and that was not something I can say about past years. Here friends come and go and I have to move on and just keep them in my memories.
 
That is sad about your friend, having to be taken to the hospital. Maybe they can come to some idea that will keep her safe from falling, and she can return home again ?
As long as she is someplace as a temporary resident, and her actual address is still the apartment, maybe they will not make her husband move, at least until it is decided that she needs a permanent nursing home, which would give him some time to be able to decide about where he wants to live, and to recover from his own surgery.
It might be that they can be in an assisted living home together, where she would have the help she needs if she falls, and that seems like it would be better than him having to go to the nursing home every day to see his wife.
 
Happyflowerlady said:
That is sad about your friend, having to be taken to the hospital. Maybe they can come to some idea that will keep her safe from falling, and she can return home again ?
As long as she is someplace as a temporary resident, and her actual address is still the apartment, maybe they will not make her husband move, at least until it is decided that she needs a permanent nursing home, which would give him some time to be able to decide about where he wants to live, and to recover from his own surgery.
It might be that they can be in an assisted living home together, where she would have the help she needs if she falls, and that seems like it would be better than him having to go to the nursing home every day to see his wife.
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No, she needs to go into a nursing home. They are looking for a place not too far from here right now. I do not think he would go into assisted living at this point. In fact, it was their plan all along to move out of here after her mother passed away.
 
Well, today turned out to be a very busy (and hectic) day. The district property manager and another woman (I don't know her title) were here today doing our re-certifications. So much paper work for each apartment! It is almost done, they have to turn the paper work in now and then we will get the leases. My rent went up........I knew it would because of the COLA raise. A whole seven dollars so I am not complaining! :) It pays not to get a big raise.

They were kind of evasive when I asked about Deanna, our manager. Said she was out on sick leave but they did not know any more than that. Or maybe could not tell me.

The couple downstairs had their truck hauled to the junk yard today. Sad to see that white truck go. It has been here at least 5 years. I always feel bad for the vehicles when I know they are going to a junk yard. I believe they are planning on buying a new one but wanted to wait to get their re-certification done so they would know how much their rent went up.
 
Sometimes I do something or buy something based on my memory of it in my past. For instance buying the new cast iron skillets. I loved cooking on cast iron at my house. I always felt they were the best of all kinds to use. So after replacing the nonstick ones over and over and being unhappy with stainless steel as well, I bought the new cast iron ones this past year. It has not been easy getting through the seasoning period since I do not have a oven to use. I had two at my house so it was easy.

They do work good on induction burners but you need to be very mindful when using them not to scratch the burner. My burner is scratched and I figure its day is coming so not too worried about it. I have watched a ton of videos on how to season the new cast iron cookware on a burner instead of an oven. The new ones from Lodge are made to be washed with soap and water (if you choose to do so). They come already seasoned. But it is questionable in my mind on the type of oils they use to season them.

If they are using canola or some other toxic oil I need to get rid of it. I have washed them in soap and water and then dry. Then onto the seasoning process. I use avocado oil. Even though at my house I always used bacon grease. It takes many months of seasoning to get it done properly. I am getting there though.

The one thing I forgot about them..............they are HEAVY! My poor wrist! I guess it is like exercise class for the wrist. My wrist keep yelling at me, "This is enough! Too heavy!"
 
My friend/neighbor who lives across the hall came to my door awhile ago. Her cat is hiding in his "hidey hole" which is in the bathtub. A spot he goes to when he wants to be alone. She said he will not come out to eat or for anything. He is usually out and about all day long. He did talk to me.

We saw he had eaten his treat (which is something I never saw before so I don't know what it is). So I put out more for him and he ate that up. Could not get him to drink but that is not unusual for cats. Still has not used the litter box. He curled up in the back of the bathtub. When I pet his head he purred real loud. Her aide is coming this afternoon and she is going to take him to the vet for her.

I pray that whatever is wrong that it is not serious. My friend is battling cancer.....maybe not battling it because she is not taking any treatment for it. Of all times for her cat to get sick. She needs him right now.
 
fatboy said:
Just recently i went back to non stick pan because of arthritis in my hand.i really liked my cast iron pan . it was seasoned well, I always used the burner and coat it with what ever I had on hand.i will ask my daughter if she wants it.
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I have one small nonstick pan left but want to use it less. They are so heavy but I don't feel like the nonstick ones are really safe. Plus they don't last. I am going to try to change over to cast iron only.
 
I have not been able to use the cast iron ones in many years due to them being too heavy for me.

I have 2 old, small glass ( visionware?) pans that I'm used to using and I like using them. (Amber color)

I also have a large pan that's an old revere stainless steel one, that's fairly light weight as well.

I prefer using either of those, to the coated ones.

I hope you'll manage to use the cast iron ones,Kat,as you'd like to and there's nothing like them. But there are other options to coated, if you need to.
 
Well my friend (the one with Dementia) has been moved to a nursing & rehab center not far from here. That would be great for her husband to visit her daily.......but he and his daughter went there today and just got home. His daughter said they went to her room and she was on the floor with the call bell (cord and all) pulled out of the wall and holding it. He asked why there are no rails on her bed since he was afraid she would fall out (maybe that is how she got on the floor). They said there are no rails on any of the beds.

So she is alone in her room. Does not know where she is or who she is. And is expected to stay in her bed? Seems strange to me since I worked with these type of residents many years ago and seems like they were cared for better back then. Her husband is not sure that he made the right decision by sending her there. I think he did. Just not the right type of place.
 
katlupe said:
Well my friend (the one with Dementia) has been moved to a nursing & rehab center not far from here. That would be great for her husband to visit her daily.......but he and his daughter went there today and just got home. His daughter said they went to her room and she was on the floor with the call bell (cord and all) pulled out of the wall and holding it. He asked why there are no rails on her bed since he was afraid she would fall out (maybe that is how she got on the floor). They said there are no rails on any of the beds.

So she is alone in her room. Does not know where she is or who she is. And is expected to stay in her bed? Seems strange to me since I worked with these type of residents many years ago and seems like they were cared for better back then. Her husband is not sure that he made the right decision by sending her there. I think he did. Just not the right type of place.
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It doesn't sound like she is in a safe place. Without rails, patients can fall, like she did. If this is a Medicare facility, they can report it. Just a thought. The other option is to look around for a safer facility.
 

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