Regrets I've had too many

Leann said:
My list boils down to this. I regret letting the negative comments of others (especially those of my immediate family when I was a child) define me. Despite having risen above many challenges in my lifetime, I can still hear their words...'you'll never amount to anything', 'no one will ever love you'. My self-confidence was eroded before I was out of elementary school. I eventually worked past all of that but I regret that I carried their words like a satchel of heavy rocks on my shoulders for so many years.
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I think you've made a very important comment here. Whilst mine wasn't as bad as yours, I now realise that insults and put downs I got from my older brother merely represented their projections, their issues, their hangups. But its hard to recover from if you looked up to them. If they were like gods to you. They were just trying get rid of their own stress and negativity through abusing you.
 
C'est Moi said:
That's me, in a nutshell. Except I know I treated someone badly and that's my biggest regret. I don't waste time regretting things I didn't do... only the things I did that hurt someone.
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That's very honest of you. of course I have that regret as well. In fact if I reflect on it further, I was bad to some people as an adult, very insensitive.
 

My regrets aren't earth shattering but I still would have done these differently.

I regret not spending more time with my kids doing fun things than
trying to keep the house spotless.

I regret not taking more time teaching my kids respect for one another. Maybe today they would enjoy each others company then knit picking the way they do.

I regret not being more involved in financial matters. Lucky for me the hubby did a great job. A few blunders along the way, but maybe had I been more involved I could have caught them.

I should have done more driving. My hubby always did the driving and always knew the way. These days,if I have to drive further than our local food store I'm a basket case.
 
i think we should not feel ashamed of having regrets. Discovering and reading that others have regrets too makes me feel better for some reason.
 

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