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Mggs11

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So again I pose this question to all the single senior citizens. I am looking to relocate. Not sure where yet. How many of you live solely by yourself,have no family nearby to help you in case of an emergency. Is this a concern for you,and if so where would you possibly relocate. Thank you
 

I have family nearby. I don't ask for help as they'd bitch and moan about it, but they sure didn't mind borrowing $100-$300 every so often.

When I was gambling more often, she had the gall to say "Give us your money instead of gambling" 😳😳

Now, regarding relocation. There's an outreach assistance group who will fund your gas to a site, provided they're accepting you. I was told if I did want to relocate say South Dakota, they'd give me gas cards.

Also if you're "In county/city limits" they'll get you into an apartment (if you qualify) and pay ALL deposits for you. You just pay rent. But my wait may be still 4-18 months.
 
Just me and the cat and since the cat is unpredictable in the helping out department I am on my own, no family.

I have thought about relocating but I just relocated here 3 years ago, and relocated here from another relocation.

So if I was going to do it again I would return to Peterborough Ontario. Love it there.
 
Mggs11 said:
So again I pose this question to all the single senior citizens. I am looking to relocate. Not sure where yet. How many of you live solely by yourself,have no family nearby to help you in case of an emergency. Is this a concern for you,and if so where would you possibly relocate. Thank you
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I live by myself. We bought this house 14 years ago, and after my husband died, I have remained here. When I do the math, this is the place I want to be for now. I have put so much money into the house, that I probably will not get back what I put into it if I sell.
Regarding relocating, it would be good to make a list of what you want. Maybe 10-15 items. Whether it is certain weather, cost of living, close to shops, house or apartment, close to family, close to hospital, etc. Once you make that list, then when you start looking for places, check them off on the list to see which place gives you the most points. We have done that in the past, and we even did it when moving here. 80% - 90% on the checklist is pretty good. Rarely do you get 100%. Also, if something is more important than another item on the list, you can give it extra points. Hope this helps!
 
Yes, No relatives. My two children live thousands of miles away. No friends here.

ALONE!

Don't feel a need to relocate. Have a clean, open, bright, happy little home.
I write books and do my artwork. I have to haul my drinking water.
No, Only one law enforcement officer, no Lyft, no Uber, no cab service.
But, I make no decisions out of fear or potential fear. Take care of myself,
my home and my vehicle. Don't worry about emergencies.
 
Gaer: I applaud your independent attitude".

For seniors living alone: Is there a "daily health check" available in your area? One of the neighbours arranged a daily health check for his wife when he is away. I am not sure where or how he organized the visits. (perhaps a seniors centre/hospital/??)

I am in the same house 40 years and the plan was to age in place as my sister lives a mile away. Now my sister and I are both in late 70's and will need more than a phone call and twice/month shopping expedition.

Both sons live in the UK and daughter lives 1 hour away. Daughter thinks I should move closer to her to a seniors' complex which allows dogs weighing 20 lbs max. (Flash is 50 lbs!) I choose Flash over living closer to my daughter.

Sons and oldest grandson take turns coming to Canada - every 3 months one of them show up for a week to 10 days. This keeps my "depression" at bay and an incentive to keep the house tidy and clutterfree!! LOLOL
 
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Gaer said:
Yes, No relatives. My two children live thousands of miles away. No friends here.

ALONE!

Don't feel a need to relocate. Have a clean, open, bright, happy little home.
I write books and do my artwork. I have to haul my drinking water.
No, Only one law enforcement officer, no Lyft, no Uber, no cab service.
But, I make no decisions out of fear or potential fear. Take care of myself,
my home and my vehicle. Don't worry about emergencies.
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I guess the reason I am concerned about emergencies is that I actually had one. I fell from my back hall down onto my basement floor,which is about 10‘ down and suffered a brain bleed. I didn’t think I had lost consciousness until a friend of mind found a pool of blood on the floor where I had laid.
 
Do think that after you have an emergency you feel different about living alone...at least that is what I've observed from others. Its good to have someone nearby that you can count on to come to the ER or help you in case of an emergency. We've pleged to help our single neighbor. It just "feels right".
 
palides2021 said:
Regarding relocating, it would be good to make a list of what you want. Maybe 10-15 items. Whether it is certain weather, cost of living, close to shops, house or apartment, close to family, close to hospital, etc. Once you make that list, then when you start looking for places, check them off on the list to see which place gives you the most points. We have done that in the past, and we even did it when moving here. 80% - 90% on the checklist is pretty good. Rarely do you get 100%. Also, if something is more important than another item on the list, you can give it extra points. Hope this helps!
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I did do what you suggested and for me staying put is the logical choice on the scoreboard.

But the heart thinks different and all that is stopping me is the fact of relocating and then discovering you should have been logical. You can't go home again, it's gone.
 
alone no family no close friends only visitor is the weekly housekeeper and the bimonthly grocery delivery man..I live here because I went to school here and it was nice back then, and beside I have ran out of other places to go....I have seen enough of this country.
 
Mggs11 said:
I guess the reason I am concerned about emergencies is that I actually had one. I fell from my back hall down onto my basement floor,which is about 10‘ down and suffered a brain bleed. I didn’t think I had lost consciousness until a friend of mind found a pool of blood on the floor where I had laid.
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Sorry you experienced that! That is something that has always bothered me - about falling. I fell in 2008 down a flight of stairs and injured my neck. I was told to be careful about falling because it could paralyze me.
 
Lee said:
I did do what you suggested and for me staying put is the logical choice on the scoreboard.

But the heart thinks different and all that is stopping me is the fact of relocating and then discovering you should have been logical. You can't go home again, it's gone.
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Ideally, in that checklist, you would also put what your heart wants, not just the logical things. It's supposed to cater to your logic and heart. Does that make sense?
 
Mggs11 said:
So again I pose this question to all the single senior citizens. I am looking to relocate. Not sure where yet. How many of you live solely by yourself,have no family nearby to help you in case of an emergency. Is this a concern for you, and if so where would you possibly relocate. Thank you
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I am in the same position. I am thinking about moving to Pensacola, so that I can be near the Naval Air Station and watch the jets come and go. If a hurricane develops, I will head north like any other sane person. I miss the sound of the jets and watching the carriers docking when coming in from being at sea for 6 months.
 
Piggybacking off what @palides2021 replied, here is the Where To Retire quiz that might help because of the comprehensive information it generates. Included for each city, town or region it generates based on your answers, are cost of living, info on housing, healthcare, recreation, jobs, demographics, weather, amenities and assistance programs. It will probably generate 10 or more places for you.
https://www.best-place-to-retire.com/places-to-retire-quiz
 
This is timely for me. Twenty years ago, we sold our house and moved to an apartment for me to not have to drive into the city each day, and to be closer to my husband whose health was declining. He passed way 9 years ago.

I had no family left in NY, and my friends were all moving closer to family.
My son wanted to build a mini apartment for me on his property, but I declined.

Two days ago I moved to Northeast Pa, into an over 55 community. I am still unpacking. It's beautiful, people I have met so far are super friendly and pleasant. Stay tuned for updates as I become acclimated.
 
BC Flash said:
Gaer: I applaud your independent attitude".

For seniors living alone: Is there a "daily health check" available in your area? One of the neighbours arranged a daily health check for his wife when he is away. I am not sure where or how he organized the visits. (perhaps a seniors centre/hospital/??)

I am in the same house 40 years and the plan was to age in place as my sister lives a mile away. Now my sister and I are both in late 70's and will need more than a phone call and twice/month shopping expedition.

Both sons live in the UK and daughter lives 1 hour away. Daughter thinks I should move closer to her to a seniors' complex which allows dogs weighing 20 lbs max. (Flash is 50 lbs!) I choose Flash over living closer to my daughter.

Sons and oldest grandson take turns coming to Canada - every 3 months one of them show up for a week to 10 days. This keeps my "depression" at bay and an incentive to keep the house tidy and clutterfree!! LOLOL
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Nice that you have a sister nearby and daughter not too far. Also that family comes to visit every 3 months, that's comforting to have support to look forward to. Also glad you love your dog and decline to give him up. People overlook how much our animals bond with us and it can be traumatic for them to be separated from their owners.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
Piggybacking off what @palides2021 replied, here is the Where To Retire quiz that might help because of the comprehensive information it generates. Included for each city, town or region it generates based on your answers, are cost of living, info on housing, healthcare, recreation, jobs, demographics, weather, amenities and assistance programs. It will probably generate 10 or more places for you.
https://www.best-place-to-retire.com/places-to-retire-quiz
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I love going through these sites and comparing cities! At one point, I was looking up cancer rates and longevity rates in counties (don't remember the site). Haven't done that in awhile.
 
Mggs11, no matter where you move to, if you live alone, emergencies could happen to you again. For a while, I got to know the ambulance crews way too well. Every winter, when there's a six foot snow drift across my driveway, I'm out of here. But later, if I moved, the only thing that would change is the scenery.
You didn't say where you lived and why you disliked it so.
 
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