Retirement and living alone has taught me a lot

PineTree103

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The company I was associated with promoted we were family. After my retirement, I was disregarded by my company "family". I was naive to think that people really cared. During my 10 years retired, I have been exposed to the nursing facility concept and can say, without hesitation, monsters do exist and some are administrators, head nurses, nurses, and nursing assistants along with doctors. I am a pleasant person but I can not tolerate laziness, disrespect, fast driving, tailgating, rudeness, shouting, loud music and fake Christians who go to church one day a week for one hour . I contend that God's cathedral is in the middle of the woods where one can see His awesomeness.
 

Hello, PT103.

Retirement, or age in general, can be quite humbling. I've written a lot on this site about my own experiences, and a lot of the things I thought concrete, expected, and "normal" have proven to be illusion. I'm still trying to separate which parts are aberrations, and which were unrealistic on my part.

Still, I learned a long time ago that your employer does not care about the individual. The only investment that truly pays off is investment in self. Self is something you take from place to place. Too often, business makes decisions due to outside influences and circumstances, there is no room for sentiment.

I am not in a nursing home. I have downsized. Frankly, I don't question what others do too much. But whenever I do, I find I can trace lethargy back to those in control, poorly constructed systems, policies, and organizations. It's a shame.
 
Hi and Welcome PineTree103!!
Glad to see you here and I hope that you enjoy your time here with us...

So sorry that you've had a bad experience with nursing home staff and whatnot... here is better, I'm sure!
 

Actually, the company I worked for was family owned and the actual owners were far nicer than the rank in file a.k.a, the family.
 
I've always known most companies didn't care. I just did my time and fortunate enough to get out at 55. I downsized my lifestyle and actually quite happy. My only problem is this pesky cancer is trying to take me out. I just have more free time to fight it.
 
During my 10 years retired, I have been exposed to the nursing facility concept and can say, without hesitation, monsters do exist and some are administrators, head nurses, nurses, and nursing assistants along with doctors.
I would have to agree with you on that. I was in three hospitals in 2023 for 96 days. In hospital #2, a supposed "Specialty Care" hospital, the night Nurse came in and gave me my insulin, and another shot which she neglected to state what it was. I had just had the catheter removed that morning and was a bit sore. About 30 minutes later I filled the little quart sized urinal that they gave me to about half full. If I put any more in it, I would get it all over me. So I called the CNA to come empty it. By the time she got there I had to go again, and again, and again, for about 8 hours.

Not knowing why I was doing a Niagara Falls imitation, I asked the morning shift Nurse to get a Doctor for me. I had to know why. She looked at my chart, then looked at me kind of puzzled and said "Didn't the night Nurse tell you she gave you a shot of Lasix at 11:10p last night?" I was was madder than I had been in years. I knew what Lasix was because my Wife Cindy had taken it many times for a lot of what her Docs said were "severe edematous episodes."

I didn't say anything to her other than calmly saying "No, she didn't tell me that. If I had known, I could have asked for a five gallon bucket." That night when the same night Nurse came in, she started to give me my insulin, and I stopped her. I said "Is this the same thing you gave me last night, because if it is you'll have to get a five gallon bucket first." She said "Why would you need that?" I picked up the urinal and said "Because I filled this thing half full every 15 minutes last night. That's a half gallon every hour, and that when on for 8 hours."

She said "This is your insulin." So I said, "Yes, I know that. I recognize the vial you drew it from. But then last night you gave me another shot, a high dose of Lasix, and you neglected to say what it was."

She looked at me and said she was sorry, it was a busy night. So, being the type of person that if I think something, 90% of the time the thought will just come out of my mouth, I snapped at her "What if I had died? Is that what you would have told my family? That it was a busy night!"

At that moment, the Charge Nurse walked past my room and heard me say that. She stopped and came into my room. "Is there a problem here?" I said "No, but there sure was last night."

That was just one night in my glorious 96 days in three different hospitals.
 
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HI PineTree103, welcome glad you decided to join us,the more the merrier
I can truly understand how you feel about'family' I worked 27 yrs at local hospital as part time pharm tech. My job was delivering narcotics to all nursing/ speciality units. Many days on my rounds I had to deal with inpatient co workers e.g nurses/doctors. They would ask me 'where is the drug I;m waiting for' I would say ' I don;t deliver that' I got tired of it all,took early retirement in 2011 I've stay in contact with 2 co-workers over the yrs
At SF, you'll meet great group of people from around the world,which makes it a great place to come to whenever the spirit moves you
Enjoy yourself here
Sue in Buffalo,NY
 


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