"Risks", an experts views on families and risk aversion

[Capt Lightning]

I'm glad I studied engineering.

 

[grahamg]

(This is a quote from something I have here):
"Many people may be familiar with one particular form of bad parenting..: the approach of essentially nullifying a child's thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, by claiming the child does not really have those thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. The purpose was to convince a child that his thoughts, feelings, and beliefs were actually one-in-the-same as whatever his parent wanted him to think, feel, or believe.
And.. they are generally given positive reinforcements for compliance , and negative reactions if they refuse.
In other words.. they are prodded to give up 'their Truth' and 'their Reality' in favor of someone else's."
Accurate?

I'm guessing very accurate indeed, manipulation comes in all forms in life of course, but some seemingly virtuous, innocent or deceptively innocuous people can hide a great desire to protect themselves and their interests by exerting control on those around them to a very high degree (control freakery really). .

 

[grahamg]

I'm glad I studied engineering.

That's interesting, I was in need of some guidance from a decent engineer yesterday when picking up the wrong size threaded bolts (3/8" unc when they should have been 7/16 ths of an inch to secure a tractor starter motor of course! ).