Screaming kid in a store.

Neither my daughter or my son ever threw a temper tantrum in a restaurant or a grocery store. From their earliest ages I always said “ we don’t buy toys in a grocery store”. They accepted that.
We took one vacation a year that required a full days drive. I always bought about 5 new books , hid them until we started on trip, then handed them out. Long trips were no problem either.
 

MountainRa said:
Neither my daughter or my son ever threw a temper tantrum in a restaurant or a grocery store. From their earliest ages I always said “ we don’t buy toys in a grocery store”. They accepted that.
We took one vacation a year that required a full days drive. I always bought about 5 new books , hid them until we started on trip, then handed them out. Long trips were no problem either.
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They didn't scream because you were good parents.
 
Apparently, I saved up my tantrums til we got home....at least that was what I was told.

I must have done something right because neither my daughter nor my granddaughter threw tantrums in public.

My 2-year-old greatgranddaughter can throw an academy award winning one, though, and she doesn't care where. She becomes a whirling dervish of rage.
 

Child, tantrum, to embarrass you to give them want they want. Fine, two can play that game. Stop, in a loud voice invite people to come over and watch the show, My son is performing and would like your complete attention. P;ease feel free to laugh and applaud this brilliant show. Enough said. They don't like that much attention. LOL
 
Yes, I went through the Terrible Twos, but I never screamed because my father would pull out his belt if I did. And if he wasn't around my mother would remind me that he would do that when he got home.

If we went out to eat and I misbehaved, my dad would take me to the restroom and pull out that belt. He didn't have to do anything with it. It was just the threat of it that made me behave. As a result, I always respected authority as I grew up.
 
JonSR77 said:
Screaming kids is not fun. It is not ok.

And some of us have actual hearing problems. And listening to high volume noise is not good for us.


As far as the screaming kids are concerned, to my mind, it is usually the parent's fault. They think it is cute. It isn't.

It is glaringly disrespectful to other people's legitimate needs for some peace of mind.


You can't go through life having constant sirens going off and be at peace.
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I am extremely sensitive to high-pitched noises like children screaming or teenagers sharing their lives with everyone in a restaurant.

I would highly recommend Apple Airpods. I just received them and now swear by them. Not only can I listen to my music, they have noise-canceling capabilities. I am planning on downloading podcasts of relaxation sounds.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
It was a timeless scene, in the grocery store, yesterday. A 5 year old kid desperately wanted a toy. Mom said, "no". And the kid threw a tantrum. I have to admit the kid was good. He screamed notes that no opera singer could hit. He scored a "10" on the tantrum scale. The mom ,was being cool, The thing that got me was 70 years ago that was me. I just had to have a Davey Crockett coon skin hat. Ten years later that was my kid brother on the store floor. It's almost like a rite of passage. Were you ever the screaming kid, or the parent OR both?

BTW, Both me & my brother "paid" for it.
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fuzzybuddy said:
It was a timeless scene, in the grocery store, yesterday. A 5 year old kid desperately wanted a toy. Mom said, "no". And the kid threw a tantrum. I have to admit the kid was good. He screamed notes that no opera singer could hit. He scored a "10" on the tantrum scale. The mom ,was being cool, The thing that got me was 70 years ago that was me. I just had to have a Davey Crockett coon skin hat. Ten years later that was my kid brother on the store floor. It's almost like a rite of passage. Were you ever the screaming kid, or the parent OR both? BTW, Both me & my brother "paid" for it.
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I don't think I've done it, though my brother did concerning a red plastic racing drivers helmet seen through the window of our one toy store in the nearest town, and he did it so successfully in the car my parents had to turn the car around and go back, (something extremely unusual in our family!).
 
WheatenLover said:
There is no way I'd stay in a public place with a screaming child. It's not always the parent's fault though, at least not intentionally. How anyone could think a child throwing a tantrum is cute is beyond my ken.
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There are times in my view, yes I can think it kinda cute, though not the really high pitched screaming, and I hesitate to say it as a supporter of parents generally, "some times it is the parent/mother lecturing the child in front of everyone, (sort of virtue signalling in my view), that I find the most annoying"!
 
WheatenLover said:
There is no way I'd stay in a public place with a screaming child. It's not always the parent's fault though, at least not intentionally. How anyone could think a child throwing a tantrum is cute is beyond my ken.
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There are times in my view, yes I can think it kinda cute, though not the really high pitched screaming, and I hesitate to say it as a supporter of parents generally, "some times it is the parent/mother lecturing the child in front of everyone, (sort of virtue signalling in my view), that I find the most annoying"!
Gary O' said:
No, but if I was the parent, we'd be heading to the sock dept
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What's to be found in the "sock department" of any relevance, or am I just being thick here?
 
My mind went back to 1982 when my son started his tantrums
We were in a large shopping centre not far from where we lived
I had never experienced anything like this screaming child on the floor
He looked like my child but you would have thought he was channeling his inner Banshee
I honestly did not know what to do so I found a trolley and picked up this wailing Banshee Child
which was not easy because he was only 3 but he was strong and he kicked and punched me
All the looks I got from the shoppers nearby especially the elderly (and yes I am now elderly) had daggers I reckon
We went home where I browsed online and found out the best thing to do is NOT to try to calm the child
There is a technique of picking a screaming Banshee Child up without getting hurt and I did this when needed
The best thing I found to do during a tantrum was sit nearby and whisper to him....he had to be quiet to hear me
If I see this now I will go up to the parent who is on the verge of tears and who is wishing a hole would open up under them
I say quietly "It will get better" but you know the evil stares from others have not changed
 
If a child acted up while out to dinner, this one couple would have one of the parents (usually Mom) go out to the car and sit with the child while the rest of the family ate. Obviously they were used to the kids being horrid to have created this plan. Wouldn’t that be a fun night out!
 
Little kids are not adults, they are going to cry and throw tantrums on occasion. Not cute, but better than the older ones who behave for their parents but are sneaky rotten terrors out in the world. It's called pranking now, and if it drives you nuts, it's because you have no sense of humor. Grr.
 
I never had kids. I think I'd be humiliated beyond belief if my kid did that. When I hear a kid having a tantrum, that I wonder what the parents must be feeling, and I'm happy not to be them.
 
I was never a screamer, and had to be satisfied with just a good pout. Were I to scream, my mother was of the school where she’d really give me something to scream about! Her look alone could chill the blood; there was murder in those eyes. Plus she also disciplined by emotional withdrawal, and would cease to talk to me for days on end… 😞
 
My father took a movie of me (circa 1953) throwing a tantrum when my mother tried to drag me away from a river park where I was intent on catching a bird, so I guess I had at least one meltdown. My daughter was perfect and as easy as it gets. My son... well... yup, I said no to excess candy purchase (and NO meant no, I didn't negotiate), he shoplifted, I saw candy protruding under his tee shirt in the parking lot. Hauled his butt back into the store, asked for the manager, made him confess. The manager scared the crap out of him and there were no further incidents.
 

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