Senior Dating

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rwb said:
How many retired seniors are actively dating but have no intentions of getting married either again, or for the first time?
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I am one of those, possibly. 68 yr old male who is actively 'trying' to get dates. Have had some dates, but seems most of the women are 'out of the market'. Married, or single but choose not to date at all, since they like being single and NOT in a relationship.

I am also kind of leery about any new 'relationship' I might get involved in. But I guess that's not news, right?

I am 'supposed' to be a hot item. Single man, has own house paid off, no drug addiction. Women are supposed to be begging me to ravish them, ha ha. Not the case !

And no, I don't want to get married, or even let a woman live with me.
 
RandomName said:
I am one of those, possibly. 68 yr old male who is actively 'trying' to get dates. Have had some dates, but seems most of the women are 'out of the market'. Married, or single but choose not to date at all, since they like being single and NOT in a relationship.

I am also kind of leery about any new 'relationship' I might get involved in. But I guess that's not news, right?

I am 'supposed' to be a hot item. Single man, has own house paid off, no drug addiction. Women are supposed to be begging me to ravish them, ha ha. Not the case !

And no, I don't want to get married, or even let a woman live with me.
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LOL...well I'm not going to say no to a date with someone if they ask me... as long as the guy is a decent upstanding citizen of this Universe..:D I'm sure there's plenty of women out there for you.. I think I'll have the same problem fiding a man .. that's not looking for a nurse..
 
I wouldn't mind having a date with a nice guy. Although COVID has put a pretty good damper on meeting anyone, I don't think that's going to change in the near future. As far as marriage is concerned, I don't think so. Even just finding someone to date is iffy. 🥴

Bella ✌️
 
hollydolly said:
..and that's the reason most women my age don't want a new man... :sneaky:
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Dang! I knew it! And I guess they don't want to even date a guy since they might get 'trapped' into something long term?

I am kind of leery of having that happen to me, actually. I go out with someone, and like them just well enough to keep going out, then wham! a 'relationship' has formed! OMG ! NO !

I suppose I am really on the fence here. I do want a kind, supportive, loving woman to have and to hold. But it can go bad so easily, right? I need to think positive, lol.
 
RandomName said:
Dang! I knew it! And I guess they don't want to even date a guy since they might get 'trapped' into something long term?

I am kind of leery of having that happen to me, actually. I go out with someone, and like them just well enough to keep going out, then wham! a 'relationship' has formed! OMG ! NO !

I suppose I am really on the fence here. I do want a kind, supportive, loving woman to have and to hold. But it can go bad so easily, right? I need to think positive, lol.
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yep that's kinda how I feel too pretty much... You gotta try and keep it casual.. so that you look forward to seeing each other but don't get in too deep... lol
 
hollydolly said:
yep that's kinda how I feel too pretty much... You gotta try and keep it casual.. so that you look forward to seeing each other but don't get in too deep... lol
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And you're doing this now? With just one guy, or more? My plan is to go out with many different women, so I won't get into that 'deep' thing.

Or maybe narrow it down to my favorite, but just keep it casual with her, if possible. Not letting her move in, no matter how much I like her.
 
RandomName said:
And you're doing this now? With just one guy, or more? My plan is to go out with many different women, so I won't get into that 'deep' thing.

Or maybe narrow it down to my favorite, but just keep it casual with her, if possible. Not letting her move in, no matter how much I like her.
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no guys.. haven't dated in almost 22 years since I last got married ... been on my own now for 14 months.. no dates..
 
RandomName said:
Dang! I knew it! And I guess they don't want to even date a guy since they might get 'trapped' into something long term?

I am kind of leery of having that happen to me, actually. I go out with someone, and like them just well enough to keep going out, then wham! a 'relationship' has formed! OMG ! NO !

I suppose I am really on the fence here. I do want a kind, supportive, loving woman to have and to hold. But it can go bad so easily, right? I need to think positive, lol.
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Hopefully, you'll find someone who wants to be as involved and uninvolved in a relationship that's a non-relationship. Tell them, "I just want to date. I want all the love and affection and support that goes with a relationship, and I want to keep seeing you and benefit from all that, but I want to keep it "casual." I don't want a "relationship." You might get lucky. There's always hope until there isn't. :)

Bella ✌️
 
Bella said:
Hopefully, you'll find someone who wants to be as involved and uninvolved in a relationship that's a non-relationship. Tell them, "I just want to date. I want all the love and affection and support that goes with a relationship, and I want to keep seeing you and benefit from all that, but I want to keep it "casual." I don't want a "relationship." You might get lucky. There's always hope until there isn't. :)

Bella ✌️
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Bella, do I detect a note of sarcasm here, lol?

I actually am getting the impression there are *some* women out there who would be into the 'casual' thing. I keep thinking it's a new phenomenon, but it's probably the same thing all through the ages, no?

edit to add : I actually had the nerve to ask a slightly younger hottie out, and she said yes, sure, she would like to get ice cream some time, and went on to say she had been in relationships, and didn't want another one, and she would only want to be friends with me.

We never made a date to get ice cream, anyway, and I'm sort of deciding to let it drop. I still see her once a week at a social event. We just talk as though nothing happened. The truth is I would be hoping it would change from friendship to romance, anyway, ha ha.

So important to be honest up front. And when you don't want to keep going out, you just have to break it off. That's going to be hard for me. It takes so long to get someone to go out, then you find out you're not compatible, and just have to let her go. Ugh! I have always taken the easy way out, and stayed in a relationship I really wanted to be out of.
 
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RandomName said:
Bella, do I detect a note of sarcasm here, lol?
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RandomName said:
Bella, do I detect a note of sarcasm here, lol?

I actually am getting the impression there are *some* women out there who would be into the 'casual' thing. I keep thinking it's a new phenomenon, but it's probably the same thing all through the ages, no?

edit to add : I actually had the nerve to ask a slightly younger hottie out, and she said yes, sure, she would like to get ice cream some time, and went on to say she had been in relationships, and didn't want another one, and she would only want to be friends with me.

We never made a date to get ice cream, anyway, and I'm sort of deciding to let it drop. I still see her once a week at a social event. We just talk as though nothing happened. The truth is I would be hoping it would change from friendship to romance, anyway, ha ha.

So important to be honest up front. And when you don't want to keep going out, you just have to break it off. That's going to be hard for me. It takes so long to get someone to go out, then you find out you're not compatible, and just have to let her go. Ugh! I have always taken the easy way out, and stayed in a relationship I really wanted to be out of.
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So, you met this hottie and asked her out for ice cream, and she said yes to ice cream, but she just wants to be friends. But you'd be hoping that it would change from friendship to romance. So you didn't pursue it any further because you want "romance" but you want to keep it "casual" without having a "relationship". Kiddo, you're all over the place. You want everything that goes on in a relationship except the relationship part. You're making my head spin! 😵

Bella ✌️
 
I don't think having many parts of a relationship to think about equates to being all over the place.

Although I will admit to having conflicting thoughts going on about any given relationship.
 
RandomName said:
And you're doing this now? With just one guy, or more? My plan is to go out with many different women, so I won't get into that 'deep' thing.

Or maybe narrow it down to my favorite, but just keep it casual with her, if possible. Not letting her move in, no matter how much I like her.
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Oh yeah, the casual, I just want to have sex, have you come over clean my house, do my laundry and cook me gourmet meals then go home. I just need you, many different women to take care of all my needs because I don't want to get into a deep thing. You wonder why you are alone, you have got to be kidding.

You think because you are so great, you are breathing and you are a man. Did you ever stop to think that there are a great many of us that have worked our whole lives, raised a family, took care of every aspect that comes with that. We own our own homes, Have a nice retirement fund and no debt. We don't need someone to so called take care of us, we are quite capable of doing that on our own. If you want a partner you need to step back and look at yourself. What do you have to offer that would make a relationship!

You don't want a casual thing, go out for lunch or a movie, walk in the park. That is a casual thing!! You want a call girl, a maid, a cook and a door mat. Don't get me wrong, there are a few out there that would jump at your deal but you may wake up one morning with a butcher knife in your chest or a missing body part. Good hunting!!
 
Bella said:
Hopefully, you'll find someone who wants to be as involved and uninvolved in a relationship that's a non-relationship. Tell them, "I just want to date. I want all the love and affection and support that goes with a relationship, and I want to keep seeing you and benefit from all that, but I want to keep it "casual." I don't want a "relationship." You might get lucky. There's always hope until there isn't. :)

Bella ✌️
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There's always an FWB relationship.
 
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