Seniors Living Alone Should Marry Each Other!

Not me for sure...

I know people might say it's not the same but believe me.. as most of you know, when my husband left after I found about his cheating.. he may as well have died, because I was so grief stricken at not only the deep betrayal but the loss overnight of the person I'd been married to for over 20 years and who I always thought was my best friend. The complete change of lifestyle very suddenly as well as losing my partner in life, who I thought I would grow old with

So there is no way I would want to go through grief of losing a partner again.. it's taken me the best part of 4 years to come to get over this one.. :(
So sorry to hear abt the betrayal. That sucks! Betrayal is the worst. You have my sympathy. I can feel your pain.
 

Forcing successful older people with their complex lives in this modern technology era, into traditional living together situations in the same rooms, is not like it was when we were in our twenties. Most of our visions and futures are complex, narrow. Maybe can work like a team for some with that sharing orientation, if much is in common and life goals mesh, but lots of chances it won't.

I do like the urban idea of seniors only villages within large multiunit, fewer fancy feature, less expensive, buildings of all studios that would simply bring seniors together in face to face living. Better to give single seniors more space where they can more gradually get to know others without as much social pressure. Such villages run by residents themselves, could have regular events as a community to help people mix. If some eventually end up married deeply in love, terrific. For others, just being near like others in an era when most families no longer live multi-generationally, will fill an open senior need, providing a wide range of informal solutions.
I like the idea of seniors only villages too. But around here they are too expensive.
 

2- stories:

1st) A woman in her 70s needed a place to live. A male acquaintance offered her a room at his mobile home. He was did not have much money, so if she wanted anything changed or fixed, she had to pay for it. She agreed to the terms.

They been together for 10-yrs now. It was the best thing he could have done. His health is now fragile and she takes care of him. They live together as husband and wife would, without the legal paperwork or vows.

2nd) And then another man married a woman 10-yrs younger than him. Always thought that she would be there for him, if needed. He trusted her. He fed her children, paid for their extravagant sports, paid for their luxurious vacations, etc. When the man’s health faded (upper 80s), she left him lie in his soiled bed for hrs. Did not take care of him as a loving woman would. He eventually died and she inherited the remaining amt in his accounts.

Money can’t buy love. It a chance in life that one takes for companionship.
 

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