Should a man still open a door for a woman?

Ralphy1

Ralphy1

Well-known Member
Should he pay the bill at a restaurant, pay for show tickets? Or has equality being demanded and being reached between the sexes mean that he is off the hook? Methinks it does and me likes it, how about you?
 

I think everyone who is physically able should open the door for anyone regardless of the sexes. I know I do , and I get really annoyed if someone walks through a door and lets it go in my face if I'm behind them, I hold the door open for anyone if I'm first through regardless of male or female.

With regard to the who pays scenerio, I always believe if you invite someone out on a first date, then the person who is being invited should not have to pay...after that equality if financially viable should be the rule of the day!
 
Sounds good, but do many women ask men out on a date today?
 

Not sure if that is the case here, as I am not in the dating scene...
 
What? It was required in the past and was ingrained during childhood. In short, it was an automatic reflex, not a phony act to score some points for some reason...
 
Opening doors for women has always been easy for me, and I try to do the same for anyone entering behind me. I always thank anyone who does it for me.

I think Pappy hit the nail on the head, with "Ladies first". It is a phrase we, as boys were taught growing up, like "giving a woman your seat" and "standing in the presence of a woman". Later, we follow that teachings as men. "Good manners" are not taught much today so..... I have experienced woman being rude to men, when they try to open the door for them. I would assume girls were taught to wait for the man to open the door (as in Keeping Up Appearances) and have grown up rebelling against that teaching. This attitude is found more in the younger generation.

13336-middle-aged-man-holding-open-a-fridge-door-looking-for-a-snack-clipart-by-djart.jpg
 
And I doubt that young men are tipping their baseball caps to the ladies today either...
 
When I open the door at Wal Mart for someone, I look at them and say "I was a Doorman in another life!" They smile and wife and I laugh.
 
And I always ask for a tip, which generally cracks a smile, when I open a door for someone...
 
Love it when you open a door, and then about 20 people pile through!

Really I do find it quite charming a man opening a door for me...doesn't happen so much these days..

But when my back is against the wall..and there is nowhere else to turn..I can manage to open the door myself!:D
 
I like to see A man open the door for me , also to give their seat up for me, i hate seeing a man seated on a train or bus while the woman hangs on for dear life .
when it comes to paying on dates i would want to pay my own way ,my thinking is he is buying me, and i have to return any favours he wants ...some men think you are a cheap night out..
 
I enjoy having a door opened for me.. or a gentleman letting me exit an elevator first. It's nice, and I appreciate it and I say thank you. As for paying.. the one that asks should pay. In a long term relationship, I have had no problem picking up the tab.. Sometimes I was just more flush than my partner.
 
Lady said:
I like to see A man open the door for me , also to give their seat up for me, i hate seeing a man seated on a train or bus while the woman hangs on for dear life .
when it comes to paying on dates i would want to pay my own way ,my thinking is he is buying me, and i have to return any favours he wants ...some men think you are a cheap night out..
Click to expand...

I agree Lady...when a man has paid for an evening out..you feel that you ''owe'' them something..Especially if you don't know them very well..I can imagine the conversation with his friends..''I took her to the theater...paid for taxi's everywhere..we then went on to a nice restaurant..and all I got at the end of the night was a peck on the cheek!...:(
 
It's always been my understanding that the person who does the inviting pays for the meal or the theatre tickets etc.
If you are doing the inviting don't show off. Keep the occasion within the limits of your wallet or purse.
 
Dame Warrigal said:
It's always been my understanding that the person who does the inviting pays for the meal or the theatre tickets etc.
If you are doing the inviting don't show off. Keep the occasion within the limits of your wallet or purse.
Click to expand...

I'd rather pay my half..then I don't feel obliged to them..and if at the end of the night I decide I don't really want to see them again..they can't tell everyone that I just ripped them off!!

When I get to know them better and understand their financial arrangements..I would decide whether to keep offering to pay my half or not..

Some men are mortally offended if you offer to pay..even if they have gone above their limit..they don't want to appear cheap!!

It's a man thing!!
 
I also like it .. I like to be treated like a lady.. its just courteous and good manners .. they say "Manners maketh a man " and as far as paying for a meal . well not into dating here but I`d rather help if I could if the fellow wanted me too.. but usually when I have been out on a date with a fellow he pays says its his shout and always has been when we went out.. he wouldn`t let me pay for any thing either and no strings attached.. just a nice time out together..
 

You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top