The situations can vary a lot. Some places make couples wait a year after filing for divorce before it becomes final. Sometimes people file for divorce because they've been living without affection for years so once they've made the decision to break up they're eager to get out there and meet people. We aren't all jealous wackos, some couples do have calm civilized divorces with no bitterness.
Should you date someone who is separated but not divorced?
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NorthernLight
Well-known Member
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- Northern BC
Yes, many are long divorced or long widowed, and still haven't let go.
I've been separated for 15 years. There's no way I'd spend my meagre funds on a divorce. (My husband was a pathological cheapskate, and I know he wouldn't pay for one either.) There is no drama, and there never was. We are done.
At this point, I'm not looking for the same kind of relationship I wanted in the past. So a person's legal status wouldn't make much difference. In my opinion, offspring are likely to present more problems than an ex.
Leann
Traveler
No. I wouldn't and have never dated anyone who was separated but not divorced.
In a neighboring town, a woman was shot and killed by her husband from whom she was separated. She was leaving work, walking to her car. He had been waiting for her. He was enraged that she had begun dating which she foolishly posted on social media. She's dead and he'll be in prison for the remainder of his life.
In a neighboring town, a woman was shot and killed by her husband from whom she was separated. She was leaving work, walking to her car. He had been waiting for her. He was enraged that she had begun dating which she foolishly posted on social media. She's dead and he'll be in prison for the remainder of his life.
ElCastor
Senior Member
- Location
- Northern CA
After I was discharged from the Navy a girl I had been dating pre-Navy called me up and wanted to resume. She had married her sister's boyfriend, had his baby, and was divorcing him. Aieeee! I wanted no part of that!
Packerjohn
Packerjohn
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grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
I dated a woman who was still in love with her husband.
The circumstances were he'd left her two years earlier for another, (who he'd been seeing behind her back for many years, amounting to half her marriage). She was still obviously struggling to come to terms with his leaving, and this gaping flaw in our relationship from the get go, couldn't be overcome, (if that isn't too obvious a thing to say).
The circumstances were he'd left her two years earlier for another, (who he'd been seeing behind her back for many years, amounting to half her marriage). She was still obviously struggling to come to terms with his leaving, and this gaping flaw in our relationship from the get go, couldn't be overcome, (if that isn't too obvious a thing to say).