Sibling disagreements

[funsearcher!]

Visiting family for 6 days and have learned that there are bad feelings between my brothers because of a disagreement between one brother and the sister in law(other brother's wife). Don't want to take sides and don't want to miss visiting with all involved. How do you suggest that I deal with this??

 

[Alligatorob]

Sounds to me you are doing the right thing, don't get involved and keep visiting and treating people the same as before.

Not likely you can fix things, more likely things would get worse if you tried. Just my opinion, you know your family and situation, I don't, but I think your instincts of this one are right. Hopefully it will pass.

 

[charry]

I have nothing to do with my 2 sisters and 2 brothers....
They are just troublemakers and gossips......and I can’t be doing with them ....

 

[Jules]

If one or the other tries to discuss the situation, just don’t give your two cents worth. Tell them you’re staying neutral and even that may be more than you should offer.

 

[Capt Lightning]

Best stay neutral and don't get dragged into arguments.
I haven't had any contact with my brother or sister for a long time. They're OK people, but we have taken very different roads and have nothing in common. Never got on with my sister in law.

 

[SmoothSeas]

I'm the only child of a single parent.

Sometimes I wish I'd had siblings; often times I'm glad I don't.

Friends that come from large families are often complaining about all the attendant trauma and drama...

 

[bowmore]

My sister lives on the East Coast, and I live on the West Coast. I call her once a week, and that works out nicely.

 

[fuzzybuddy]

Families are mine fields, and nobody knows what sets them off. My advice, funsearcher!, is to smile, and don't open your mouth. Listen to your family, but don't take sides, and never give your opinion about others. If you can't say it before everybody in the family, don't say it. And from bitter experience, don't try to be the mediator. It's just not worth it, you will be dragged into this.
BTW. I haven't spoken to my ex sister in law in 20 +years. To be honest I don't know if that's a good thing, or a bad thing.

 

[cdestroyer]

for some reason I am not aware,my baby brother has refused to communicate with me after numerous attempts to make contact. My sil when we were all gathered together in greeting would hug my mom, step dad, brother but never me, dunno why.

 

[Sassycakes]

My older brother turned against the entire family because his wife didn't need us in their lives after they moved to another state. The only thing that hurt was that they turned against our parents also after all my parents did for them.