So, as the crisis worsens, our daughter wants us to move in with them

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CarolfromTX

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She has it all thought out. We'd sleep in Lily's room, but with a new queen size mattress. She could take care of us, keep me from freaking out. Um.. no. I am not kicking my granddaughter out of her room. We've got dogs, they've got cats. I'd go nuts, honestly. We have our lifestyle, they've got theirs. She means well. She loves us. If I get this plague, so be it. I'm not sharing it with my grandkids or my only child. I'm staying in, and doing what I can. I love her to pieces. Nice to know she feels the same about us. This is getting tiresome, don't you think?
 

CarolfromTX said:
She has it all thought out. We'd sleep in Lily's room, but with a new queen size mattress. She could take care of us, keep me from freaking out. Um.. no. I am not kicking my granddaughter out of her room. We've got dogs, they've got cats. I'd go nuts, honestly. We have our lifestyle, they've got theirs. She means well. She loves us. If I get this plague, so be it. I'm not sharing it with my grandkids or my only child. I'm staying in, and doing what I can. I love her to pieces. Nice to know she feels the same about us. This is getting tiresome, don't you think?
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Consider yourself blessed. :love:
 
CarolfromTX said:
She has it all thought out. We'd sleep in Lily's room, but with a new queen size mattress. She could take care of us, keep me from freaking out. Um.. no. I am not kicking my granddaughter out of her room. We've got dogs, they've got cats. I'd go nuts, honestly. We have our lifestyle, they've got theirs. She means well. She loves us. If I get this plague, so be it. I'm not sharing it with my grandkids or my only child. I'm staying in, and doing what I can. I love her to pieces. Nice to know she feels the same about us. This is getting tiresome, don't you think?
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Don't let them guilt you into anything you don't want to do. in my experience, two families under the same roof doesn't work and can wreck your relationships with each other.
 

How will it work financially? Does your daughter expect compensation?

I know someone that did this much to their regret, the kids expected a good portion of her retirement pension not to mention asking that a will be drawn up naming them as beneficiary.

Not saying this is the case but certainly financial considerations should be talked about before, not after.
 
You don't mention how far apart you & daughter are.
I would suggest that if she wants to help you,, that she do your shopping or get 'scribes filled.
Is there a porch for her to leave it on?

Am seeing lot of folks see their loved ones at a distance, with window to look out , talk thru.
Others set up chair & maintain the 6 feet or better & chat in drive way.

As the rest have said too many cooks in kitchen leads to unhappiness.
Stay where you feel safe & comfortable.
 
Yup, my daughter wanted us to sell the house we just bought and buy a new one near her in Texas. Never going to happen.
 
think you should stay put --but a lovely caring thought 'cats and dogs would be a big worry ' just stay intouch ..
 
I love that your daughter cares enough to make the offer! ❤️

I lived with my daughter and her family for several years and there were zero issues, but I understand that’s not typically how those arrangements go. Do what feels right for you.
 
I have two loving kids. My daughter is about 5 hours away and we communicate in some way everyday. My son is nearby and is always around.
They both know we want to live independently for as long as possible.
I don't ever want to become a burden to them because I'm to stubborn to move so one of us will have to decide at that time what we will do.
It's a very hard decision to make.
My mom made the transition into our home with no problems. I never regretted having her with us.
That might not be the case with everyone.
I wouldn't make any decision at this time. I'd just lay low and when this passes a decision can be made minus all the tension because of the virus.
 

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