Humans are visual creatures.. and keenly aware of differences in appearances. Intellectually we can accept that this is superficial and unimportant.. Viscerally, I'm not so sure.. If it was that easy and uncomplicated there wouldn't be all this angst over it.
? Is this even a question? There's are of course visual differences, QS, it would be naive of anyone to not expect people to take note just as there are differences in body size, hair color certain cultural differences, I sure take not when I go out dancing there are major differences.
. I'm just trying to understand your point with bringing that up. I would think you of all people understand there are other issues at hand that I was speaking on.
The color of someones skin may be different, but, it never in my life was what influenced how I interacted with or approached anyone in my childhood or as an adult, their color just didn't register to me. That may seem strange to some, but, it just wasn't what was the first thing I noticed about anyone. Maybe because I was always around people of various skin colors from day one, so it just never seemed like anything to focus on. It is only in the past few years that I now have moments of apprehension in some situations because of all I've heard and encountered these days that I even give anything a thought as to how I'm being perceived in any given situation, but, this doesn't happen often, but, sad to say it happens at all. Not something I think on that affects me on a daily basis, just something I'm more aware of since outside forces bring it to me.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not stupid enough to think over the years I wasn't being focused on, I had many bad experiences throughout the years, but, I paid them little mind and just brushed them all off, even having been called the N word when walking out of a club, being grabbed by a Walmart security guard when the person they wanted was my housemate, the white guy, who actual had done nothing wrong, and came back inside to see what was holding me up and was ready to rip them a new one but I said let it go, no big deal, I may have been a little more affected when having my child crying in tears when told she and one of her best friends should play together because they were of different races. I have dozens of stories like these, but, never let those get to me, they were in the past, as I've said, it was only recent years of more harassment and reading the words of so many on the net that just turns my stomach, but, no, I won't let it affect how I interact, judge the majority of people or live my life going forward, I know those are just the ignorant with their own issues, insecurities and misunderstandings.
I am human and entitled to feel sad ever so often, I may not let it burden me and I will do what I can to affect change for the better for all of the people regardless of the cause where I can, but, I'll be damn if I stew in silence and do nothing even if the means just letting some steam off now and then. No one wants to have to encounter an angry black woman, so good to let her get stuff off her chest.
Yes, I know it's a stereotype, but ya know some of you were thinking it. LOL! Even if no one was, it was funny to me in the moment when I thought of it just letting you know, I have a sense of humor, I laugh at myself all the time, don't get mad, it's good for your health.
