Something I've done for my children

[BlunderWoman]

My grandmother used to have this rolodex sitting on a table. It was full of cards that had poems, quotes, her thoughts. I loved that rolodex and spent countless hours spinning it and rereading it. Since I had so many close calls with death this last year. I thought it might be nice to do something like that for my kids so they would have a memory of me they could spin through. I bought some rolodex's ( sp?) and I've begun to put little thoughts and things I like or think of in one & then just duplicate it on the others.

 

[RadishRose]

That's a good idea and a nice thing to do. More casual than a diary. Have fun with it!

 

[Underock1]

I like it, BW. I have a file in my "Documents" on the computer where I write things like that. More often than not though I am doing it for myself. Drawing a lot of mental wanderings together so I can see what the heck I really do think about some of this stuff. I have come to some conclusions about life that I am thoroughly convinced of. Unfortunately, they are not particularly popular ones so I have to express them somewhere!

 

[vickyNightowl]

My grandmother used to have this rolodex sitting on a table. It was full of cards that had poems, quotes, her thoughts. I loved that rolodex and spent countless hours spinning it and rereading it. Since I had so many close calls with death this last year. I thought it might be nice to do something like that for my kids so they would have a memory of me they could spin through. I bought some rolodex's ( sp?) and I've begun to put little thoughts and things I like or think of in one & then just duplicate it on the others.

That's a great idea!

I have a memoir in progress and also a notebook of thoughts and favorite quotes.

 

[Linda]

What a good idea BW. I have a few notebooks I write things down that I think are wise sayings I pick up here or there. My husband and I are both writing our memoirs but I'm afraid we'll die before we get very far. Sometimes the more you write the more you start remembering and I'm learning a lot about my husband I didn't know. I also have notebooks of unusual or metaphysical type of things that have happened to me and others in the family. My daughter makes it easy for me as she emails me things and I print it off and paste it in the books.

 

[Ruth n Jersey]

My grandmother used to have this rolodex sitting on a table. It was full of cards that had poems, quotes, her thoughts. I loved that rolodex and spent countless hours spinning it and rereading it. Since I had so many close calls with death this last year. I thought it might be nice to do something like that for my kids so they would have a memory of me they could spin through. I bought some rolodex's ( sp?) and I've begun to put little thoughts and things I like or think of in one & then just duplicate it on the others.

Oh, I love the idea! What fun putting it all together.

 

[Debby]

What a cool idea that is with the rolodex. I've been doing a little journal for each of my girls plus some of the little kid pictures they drew and cards they gave us that meant a lot to me and a photo album for each with an assortment of their childhood photos. When I finally pass, they'll be cleaning the house out and will find two pretty boxes for each of them with their personalized keepsakes in it. I'm pretty sure one of them will sit and feel 'happily' miserable (or will it be miserably happy ) as they go through them and remember .... the older one, I'm not sure because she tends to be less tuned in to 'her mommy/daddy' stuff and more tuned in to her own little family. But that's okay, we're all different right?

 

[Linda]

Debby, you never know, maybe after you pass away your oldest daughter will really appreciate the mementos you left her. I didn't appreciate my mom till about 10 years after she died.

 

[Capt Lightning]

It's not the sort of thing that I would do or have wanted my parents to do. I keep my innermost thoughts to myself, so I'll just quote a few lines from a song by "Linkin Park" ...

When my time comes forget the wrong that I've done,
help me leave behind some reasons to be missed.
Don't resent me and when you're feeling empty,
keep me in your memory - leave out all the rest.

 

[debbie in seattle]

My mom wrote a 'book' listing all of our relatives on both sides of the family as far as when/who they got married, their children and when born, employment, when they died, etc. She went back to my great-greats or as far as she could remember. It's quite interesting and to me, amusing sometimes with her 'opinions' on things. We all really relish this.

When my girls were growing up, I saved their 'important' stuff from pre-school to high school graduation and then took the time to make a scrapbook out of all of the stuff (I limited it 2-3-4 items and then gave it to them for graduation. They both really appreciated all the memories.